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Joining a swingers site to search for others to meet has pros and cons. You stated it’s exciting to search with your husband, it is also frustrating. So many of the perfect finds end up total busts. Looking for a match when so many profiles and profile pictures at times read like a novel. When we joined our first site we couldn’t wait to open the private pictures, the ones that are R and X, the nudes. At some point we stopped opening the hidden pictures, what would we see. I also joined an affairs site and never met anyone who asked for nude pictures. My take is if things work out you don’t need my picture. Something I realized after becoming more open with my thoughts, I don’t want to see your dick pic, if I am attracted to you I want to see you naked when we are together. I don’t need to see how big, how hard in a picture, I want to see how real you are.

Searching for new friends was an excitement I shared with my husband looking mostly at profiles similar to ours. Our first connection was with a profile that could be ours. Newbies, our age, with likes that matched us. We searched for physically fit people, maybe being too picky, it was our want. I found someone that after a short time consider a sister in not a perverted way, we just think the same way. Now I am back to looking at profiles this time with that sister. Where the first search with my husband was analytical searching with her is full of laughs and much less terrifying. The first time looking a nude picture was a turnoff now we are looking and laughing. Two of us can now laugh at giggle out loud when we see men just hanging. There are sights you just can’t unsee when it comes to nudes. Sites for swingers are there as a good starting point and can be fun to search through with like minded friends. Set your standards at your comfort level then be overly cautious.

Very good question Adam. We discussed so many things before going to our first date even shopping for new clothes. There was no choice as to grooming for me and I’m sure most my age. I wax on a regular basis and did a cleaner waxing for our first meeting. My husband usually shaves frequently just this time I waxed him too. I found out after the meeting our date went the full Brazilian and he just shaved clean. I thought about not wearing anything under my dress after modeling a dozen choices in front of a mirror then we decided on a cute lacy bikini with matching bra. We saw an advertisement on TV for Ball Hammock, then decided new Calvin’s were fine. Guys love their Calvin’s both wore them. I have some I wear too. I shower twice a day so nothing new to being clean maybe I was extra clean, a ritual I did when dating. A little spray down there just in case. Without knowing at the time what our date was doing before we met I knew she had a strawberry flavored spray, mine was vanilla. Smiling as I’m typing, Not Vanilla anymore. How did I prepare for this date? Not much differently from my normal day to day cleaning. An extra toothbrushing and minty mouthwash. We bought a Costco sized box of condoms that never got used, my pack of wipes, and mints. I know there are many older members here, is it generational grooming. My mom is in her 50’s and I know she has a wax warmer that she uses just not sure if it’s for full waxing.

Cute slutsister, just don’t think of yourself as a slut, think of yourself secure in what you want. It must be fun to have a friend to check out the profiles, Alan and I truly had fun. You will have fun meeting others that think like you just don’t rush into meeting everyone you find attractive as there are many fakes and scammers who prey on younger couples. Don’t believe everything you read and see. You said you called and spoke before meeting, my advice speak the woman, there are signals they aren’t totally doing this for themselves. Woman are often pushed by a man beyond comfort levels. Enjoy your journey, don’t rush to just see, try to make it memorable.

This is generally true but if a single male's profile contains zero dick pics my wife assumes he has a little dick and moves along

There is someone looking for someone just like you, so don't just hang back. There are a number of reasons people enjoy swinging: having an exciting experience with someone you think is hot, watching your spouse as if he/she is a porn star, knowing that your spouse is enjoying him/herself, giving pleasure to a sex partner, and a forgotten on - appreciating and showing appreciation for a sex partner's characteristics that are not usually appreciated. For example, in our group there is one woman who has an unusually loose pussy and she knows it, but I love it, especially when she is sloppy. It is extremely difficult for me to cum with her, but when I do it is the most intense orgasm ever for me. She can tell how much I like it, I compliment her for the great orgasms, and she is flattered. In our group there is a guy with a bent dick who one woman seeks out because in the proper position he really hits her spot. Another young wife has saggy breasts with her nipples pointing downwards. Two of the other guys think that they are beautiful and she is the sexiest woman around. They particularly like for her to assume various poses, particularly on all fours, and see how her tits fall. Another woman has a post-baby belly paunch which one guy is crazy about. One of the wives likes the way I can extend an intercourse session, sometimes stopping moving altogether for a while, then pretty much cum on command when she is ready. So just a way to say whatever you think is a deficiency in yourself is something that will be prized by another sex partner. So perhaps as a couple you should put yourself out that way, as you up front with all of your characteristics, and include plenty of pictures. Describe your husband more briefly and include just one fully clothed picture of him. That way you'll know that the responding couple, maybe both him and her, are already interested in you. Keep us updated on your adventures.

Do you have an update? Hopefully a good one.

I don’t understand the need to post nude pictures especially those “dick pics”. I can’t talk for all women, you can show your body with that detail. I can’t totally agree with the first time looking I was turned off, we did think our first was a fake. I do understand now that those pictures might be funny as you continue to look, I can visualize you and your friend having a good laugh searching together and you should always be laughing and having a great time.

I have had delightful DP experiences (Vaginal/Anal) but never tried DVP. Also, lately, I have become, or we have become (depending if my husband is participating or not), very good at guiding partners through the logistics of the positions, being the most enjoyable for me the classic doggy style where the guy in my ass manages the rhythm and can archive deep penetration.

Oh my goodness that is hilarious and also very appropriate - lol. Best typo EVER!

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