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Very good question Adam. We discussed so many things before going to our first date even shopping for new clothes. There was no choice as to grooming for me and I’m sure most my age. I wax on a regular basis and did a cleaner waxing for our first meeting. My husband usually shaves frequently just this time I waxed him too. I found out after the meeting our date went the full Brazilian and he just shaved clean. I thought about not wearing anything under my dress after modeling a dozen choices in front of a mirror then we decided on a cute lacy bikini with matching bra. We saw an advertisement on TV for Ball Hammock, then decided new Calvin’s were fine. Guys love their Calvin’s both wore them. I have some I wear too. I shower twice a day so nothing new to being clean maybe I was extra clean, a ritual I did when dating. A little spray down there just in case. Without knowing at the time what our date was doing before we met I knew she had a strawberry flavored spray, mine was vanilla. Smiling as I’m typing, Not Vanilla anymore. How did I prepare for this date? Not much differently from my normal day to day cleaning. An extra toothbrushing and minty mouthwash. We bought a Costco sized box of condoms that never got used, my pack of wipes, and mints. I know there are many older members here, is it generational grooming. My mom is in her 50’s and I know she has a wax warmer that she uses just not sure if it’s for full waxing.

There is someone looking for someone just like you, so don't just hang back. There are a number of reasons people enjoy swinging: having an exciting experience with someone you think is hot, watching your spouse as if he/she is a porn star, knowing that your spouse is enjoying him/herself, giving pleasure to a sex partner, and a forgotten on - appreciating and showing appreciation for a sex partner's characteristics that are not usually appreciated. For example, in our group there is one woman who has an unusually loose pussy and she knows it, but I love it, especially when she is sloppy. It is extremely difficult for me to cum with her, but when I do it is the most intense orgasm ever for me. She can tell how much I like it, I compliment her for the great orgasms, and she is flattered. In our group there is a guy with a bent dick who one woman seeks out because in the proper position he really hits her spot. Another young wife has saggy breasts with her nipples pointing downwards. Two of the other guys think that they are beautiful and she is the sexiest woman around. They particularly like for her to assume various poses, particularly on all fours, and see how her tits fall. Another woman has a post-baby belly paunch which one guy is crazy about. One of the wives likes the way I can extend an intercourse session, sometimes stopping moving altogether for a while, then pretty much cum on command when she is ready. So just a way to say whatever you think is a deficiency in yourself is something that will be prized by another sex partner. So perhaps as a couple you should put yourself out that way, as you up front with all of your characteristics, and include plenty of pictures. Describe your husband more briefly and include just one fully clothed picture of him. That way you'll know that the responding couple, maybe both him and her, are already interested in you. Keep us updated on your adventures.

FUN to read what Adam and Mary do to "prepare." Back when I was just beginning to enjoy being #3, as a smooth nudist, I would shave ALL OVER (cock & balls, of course, butt also legs, butt cheeks, ass crack and pits. Like I wrote, SMOOTH ALL OVER. Before I was invited to an actual session, hubby and I (and sometimes the wife as well) would have had a "G mtg" (public spot, clothes on) for them to screen me (and I them). It was always nice to know what the boundary conditions are for play. Once allowed into their hotel room, I would ask, "may I get undressed and put my clothes in the corner?" Being an exhibitionist, I'd arrive with a "hard on" in anticipation of being fondled and I'd offer, "who wants an oily massage?"

He doesn't mind, most of the time he is just happy to participate, besides, DP is all about us, the girls, boys just need to accommodate,

My heart breaks for you two all over again. I have a feeling that you won't be lonely in the long run.

Since most offer free membership, join them all...see which has the most people in your area, and then become a paying member of that site. Most people either won't or at least hesitate responding to a free member thinking that they are either fakes, flakes, picture collectors, or trolls. They're really inexpensive, especially when you consider the reward when you find what you are looking for.

Before I retired from my factory job, I would take my ex's toys that wouldn't work into the plant to have the electricians fix them. Many times all they would do is change out the switch.

I agree with you here on the attention part from her here but also agree that husband had many chances to say no outright, he was somehow interested in it too but things didn't go as he imagined. Just our brief story here as I think it might help hopefully... I (husband) was the one who brought this idea into this and she outrighly said no. After months of discussion, pros and cons, she agreed but then would develop cold feet every now and then saying not sure how will she feel. So just to make her comfortable we went to a club and i assured her there will be no play so she went. While there there was nother couple who approached us and I told them that she is on the fence still so they talked to her and she agreed for like touching etc and couple along with me paid 100% attention to her, she like it a lot. Then I carefully found a single guy, talked to him about the situation, finally got her approval to meet him and we had threesome again paying full attention to her. Now we are into it and swap with couples and she enjoys it a lot and so do I thinking it pays to go slow and make the partner comfortable as it was not their idea to begin with.

Hi everyone just wanted to say thank you all for your advice and just post a little update. Unfortunetley despite everything we ended up separating he made the descision a couple of months ago. He really tried and I knew he did he went to therapy, we talked lots but he was still uncomfortable and he finally told me a couple of months ago he could not do this anymore. I think the mental image for him was just hard for him to get over and no matter how much I told him I loved him he just said he had that little voice in the back of his head telling him to walk away. I will probably not post here again but all of you were so nice with your advice so you deserved an update and wanted to say thank you despite everything.