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Lets do it again, If you are referring to my and GoldCoCouples responses, I do not think either of us are suggesting that she keep swinging. To be clear, at least for me, Mistakes were made that happened partially from inexperience and partially from lack of communication. Not the least of the communication lack was that He was suppressing a demon, that had she known , could have been dealt with. Maybe it was suppressed enough that he thought it was not an issue. Odd thing is though, small stuff that is unresolved can and does pop up in this LifeStyle. At any rate MISTAKES were made. The cost is apparently quite dear. The only recourse is to try and limit the damage. The first step is not to do anything precipitous , like closing off any possibility of reconciliation. The second is to go on with life as if there is no future for the two of them. For the foreseeable future I do not see swinging as a rational course to take.

A racier one we did was blindfolded men and decide who's boobs are your wifes

An even racier one happened years ago for us. We were at a house party when the topic of different shaped penises came up, pun intended. I said I could pick out Mike’s blindfolded without a problem. Five penises volunteered for my test while I was blindfolded each man stood in front of me. How could I not know my husbands dick or balls? I knew at first touch which was Michael but we all had fun when I said I needed to check orally. More a fun time, less a game.

There's always the nuts and bolts game. Go to a hardware store (or perhaps that jar in your dad's workroom) and get matching nuts and bolts for everyone. Then at the arranged time, have every woman pick out a nut, and every man pick out a bolt. Then everybody mingles until all the nuts and bolts are matched up. This isn't a race - there's no prize for being first. It just gives people a chance to mingle with the other sex.

While a hot suggestion, it could also lead to potential problems if you can't identify her ( o )( o )s 🤣

Whether you are scrolling through a website, looking around at a houseparty, or at the welcome party for a lifestyle cruise, something has to interest/attract you enough to have that first conversation with a couple. What makes you decide to put yourself/yourselves 'out there' and open a conversation? Does it matter whether it is online or in person? Curious to know what drives others....

We have never suggested that she keep swinging either...that would just be foolish. Never once have we even thought that they, or she, should continue in this. We have posted that one of our hard rules has (and always will be) if one of us says no, then we both are saying no with no repercussions or explanations necessary. This includes swinging. If either one of us were to say that we didn't want to do this any more, we would both walk away without looking back. This obviously didn't work for them and, if they are able to reconcile, they should never even think of trying to return to swinging. Now, if things don't work out and they don't get back together (and that isn't looking good), and she moves on and finds another partner who is open to the idea...we would probably tell her to seriously reconsider making the same mistake again unless they are both 100% sure that this is for the two of them. Swinging is not for everyone...in fact it is for the very few. If you are wired for it, it can be exceptional, but most people are not wired that way, and there's nothing wrong with that since that is how most people are. It is a Pandora's box that few can successfully open and continue.

It boggles my mind of how many times I have read were if one is a no go then stay out. If they can't agree on a boundary then back off. I can't believe that they want her to stay swinging when he is against it. Put the shoe on the other foot, if she didn't want to, would you still encourage him to continue? I don't think so! I just don't think it's good for her to stay in, whenever he wants out.

I concur with what GoldCoCouple said. There is no reason for you to close a door that you do not want shut. The only caution is that you do not let it being open stop you from living ALL of your life. He may not ever walk through it. If you should happen to come across someone else with whom a lifetime is desirable and he has not resurfaced, then quietly close and bar the door. Best of good fortune as you travel on.

Communication matters. Dialogue matters. If the brain isn't engaged and having fun, the rest of the body won't have much fun either. Physical attraction is interesting. It's not just shape and size. It's dress, grooming, and how they carry themselves. If they are not attracted to each other, it's unlikely we'll be attracted to them. Conversely, if they make it clear that they are each other's best date and take pride in making sure they 'put their best food forward' for each other, it matters. That's one of the reasons we list our shared values on our SLS profile. We don't want to waste time, or waste their time, with mismatched priorities and expectations. As for politics, we agree with you. In todays social and civil climate, staying tolerant of others' views takes more effort than it should. If it's fun time, we don't want to waste energy trying to look past opposing views. That does not mean we have to share identical perspectives, but it does mean that we are in the same clubhouse, so to speak.

Not having any experience in house parties, welcome parties or lifestyle cruises our initial attraction is physical. Our first new partners we found on one of the popular lifestyle sites caught our eye as a possibility just by looks. Next step was texts then a call where we just clicked. It wasn’t until we met in person where we knew our life values and outlook were very similar to theirs. I don’t think we could or would go further with anyone who had political thoughts contrary to ours even if they were attractive in other ways. We haven’t attended a group gathering yet where we had to find complete strangers to engage, when and if we do I think the same criteria will be used, physical attraction first then social values. Possibly once we become more comfortable we will meet others who we aren’t judging on looks alone as we know we aren’t perfect. I’m sure when that time comes we pass the attraction test others set.

When we have searched online, we have looked for an engaging personality as identified in the text. Perhaps a double entendre, possibly just being quite clear as to what their or his desire is. Without this, we probably wouldn't go much further. Profiles with just one or two lines would not have interested us. At a house party or swing club, while I won't deny the aura of physical attraction, again we looked for personality. Were they (he) able to carry on a conversation? Were we able to identify common interests (beyond sex)?

Keep moving forward with your life, but let him know that the door back to you is still open (for now). He might still come back to his senses, but you shouldn't put your life on pause hoping that it may happen. Still wishing you the best outcome...

Single men are a dime for two dozen, and even more waiting in line for a chance. If they are not treating the two of you like special royalty, move on to the next one and block the previous one. You should EASILY find exactly what you are looking for, just list what you are looking for in detail in your listing (assuming you are using a site...if you are not, you should be). Just like going to a large auto mall when you are looking for a car...there are thousands of cars, don't take the first one or two that you see, look for the perfect match and then take it for a test drive before buying. Good luck...

We have a huge list of games, challenges and themes. Some kinda vanilla, some provocative, some leaving your sexual imagination go to work and some that spice up a group play/Sex situation. The trick is matching something up to those that are attending. Always best to dial back one step based off the experience or lack there of the newest/least experienced couple (or assume so if all are newly meeting each other). Also it is tough to know everyone’s inhibitions, rules and hard stops. Three of our best soft-core: Preferences red light/green light…couples. (Get to know you game) Couples stay as couples. You create a list of questions from how long together, likes dislikes experiences as a couple (sexually provocative) interests and allowances as a couple in various swinger/sexual activities. The couples can briefly confer with each other secretly/quietly. They answer as a couple, green light (yes/interested) or Red light (no/not at this time). Questions should start out simple more vanilla and become more explicit but not to hardcore, ie as a couple first kiss, first Sex first oral etc. What they might share…kissing, touching, soft, full swap, oral etc. should build up….and keep it on the short side after some socializing. 30 minutesish Big Balls Crochet race. Husband against wife race. (Can do this as couples or individual) need a few pair of panty hose, 4-6 oranges or two grapefruit. Two whiffle balls (size of a baseball/softball) A area set up inside with a wide enough area for two people to pass and should have a path through furniture obstacles and corners to navigate. Clothed couples (later is a blast nude if everyone is good with it) place two oranges (or one grapefruit) in the toe of one leg of the hose. Use the other leg to tie around the waste of each couple with the fruit loaded toe centered front of waist. Be sure stretched hose and fruit are suspended an inch or so above the floor. Couples, husband and wife compete against each other, winners then compete against each other (not spouses). At start line swinging and swaying from the hips you direct the whiffle ball down the coarse by hitting it with the swinging oranges/grapefruit. Mark whiffle balls husband and wife so each has their own. Great fun loads of laughs. Version of the Newlywed game. Starting with basic questions to more provocative. Usually couples will out themselves or each other. hope this helps have fun, keep it lite.

8-10 couples=16-20 people. Ask them in advance to think of two facts and a lie (or two lies and a fact) about themselves. Once everyone arrives, have each in turn announce their names and recite the three items in any order they choose. for example, "My name is John" 1. I lost my virginity to a MILF. 2. My first trip to a nude beach was with my parents 3. My sister and her husband are also swingers "My name is Sally" 1. I worked as a nude model to help pay for college 2. I met my husband at the high school senior prom 3. I'm a beta tester for Liberator.com, the sex furniture company. Give each couple a writing instrument and something to write on. They'll decide who they want to learn more about.

Twister? Strip poker? Spin the bottle? Truth or dare?

Yup. Same here.

We don’t look for single males and not only would I assume to think what a man has under his pants I don’t think a smaller man is less fun. In addition I know most men are going to be average, all are different just not in size that will make a difference. In our varying group the men are all fun because we enjoy being together.

Even funner was finding another ‘slutsister’ with her husband. They had their first with someone else before searching for more. A few texts a call then we met for my most sex day of my life.

My heart just grew 3 times its size! My respect for you rose way more than that! Good luck and don’t take each other’s love for granted!!!!!!!