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Not long after marrying my husband, my husband was curious about nudism (He loved reading Naturist magazines) and he found out that there was a nudist club / resort not far from where we lived. So he took me over to see what it was like. I was really surprised that there were places that people just liked to socialize nude at. It wasn't on my bucket list or anything that crossed my mind that I had to do before I die but I thought, I would give it a try. Well, surprise, surprise, I was hooked pretty darn fast. I love the freedom of being clothes free. It feels wonderful to run around without any clothes on. But nudism has really changed my life. I have always had weight issues and I didn't like my body very much. But I quickly saw that it is very rare to have a perfect body we all have our flaws.....anyways it helped me learn to accept my body and helped me remember to make better healthier food choices. Nudism is like viagra for me. Seeing all the gorgeous men increases my sexual appetite. I have definitely had a higher sex drive than my husband and I still do. I am a 58 year old free spirited female who has twenty something year old guys that want to hang out with me at nudist clubs and nudist beaches.....and Hippie Hollow. Large penises are what gets my sexual energy juices going. Just seeing them, talking to them maybe interacting with the large penis. And if I find the right person with a large penis I might make them a boyfriend boy toy. I hope my infatuation with large penises that I get to see at nudist places last forever. I want to be 100 years old and still enjoying sex.

Something I learned very quickly in the lifestyle is that the women are always going to be the ones who are going to get a lot of attention and things are not always going to be equal when it comes to play time! This is something I was and am 100 percent okay with. Her pleasure and fulfillment is something that makes me happy as well and only makes our sex life together even better. As they say happy wife happy life. There were plenty of times in the past where only she was playing with the other wife or I did not cum while playing with another woman and not one of them bothered me. I enjoyed every experience with her. I think if as a man you are entering into this lifestyle with your wife feeling it is going to be an equal playing field you are setting yourself up for some disappointment along the way.

We actually started out full swap and dialed it back to soft swap after a couple of broken condoms made us rethink things …

We once met with a couple that had been swinging for over four years, if I remember correctly, and they continued to be soft-swap only. We had a ball with them. I guess a few people simply want to play that way, and good for them . . .

To add: As opposed to full swap which is great but often more rushed, goal orientated if you will, on a timeline and often a one off but can develop much of the same above, but more often is over a two to three hour meet/party/club experience in one setting with only a few hours window of opportunity and under an hour, many times 30 minutes, to enjoy. All is good….my point is the slower…..erotic….sensual exploration of soft swap.

We have enjoyed so many situations, pairings, curiosities, group, themes, fetishes, desires often discovering new curiosities, interests and desires. The best has always been with soft swap, prolonged experimentation…discovery….build up, peaking and release to rest, talk and begin again. The times it was spent in casual contact, watching, being watched….inclusion. And many times that it grows and expands, new experiences new acceptances…….accepting. many of our longest intimate friends started slow, hesitantly, exploring, holding back, inquiring, accepting and then relishing in all the we experienced. The act of soft swap is much more sensual, a slow touch, never a rush……a slower simmer. And much more often repeatable….over the same time period, an afternoon, evening, weekend. And when a connection is made…..many times in the future opening for a better longer term relationship that offers social, intimate, friendship a special closer relationship of couples.

We always follow the lead set by the other wife. Most of our original meetings are set up by curious women who think they want to try being with a woman for the first time which of course is only oral sex. We found many women are more comfortable having full sex with Alan before doing what was originally planned. Sex in the moment changes the intentions going in. Many of our original meetings stop at soft sex, many more go further, we leave it up to the others never pushing for more.

Thanks all for the advice. To answer a couple of questions. No there wasn't the option for penetration, we don't full swap, so no penetration of the other wife and my wife wasn't in position to be engaged. The other couple is actually very experienced. PeterJ, I think you hit the nail most completely on the head. I had some felling or thought that the other couple and even my wife should know that I wasn't involved in some way. I realize that isn't the way to think because people can't read minds. In the end I wasn't enormously upset, you have to understand that the way I deal with stuff is that I tend to think on it extensively for a couple of days to determine what I feel. Don't know why, that's just how I process. My wife and I spoke more about it yesterday and came to realize that it was really just a breakdown in communication. I assumed my wife should know when I've finished, but apparently, I'm not as vocal when I finish as I thought. And further, I apparently have different sounds between oral and intercourse. So, there was no way she would have known unless I flat out told her. I didn't interrupt things or try to squeeze up in there and maybe I should have tried to push in more and make my own space. That said, we determined that if we are in a scenario where we sense the other off to the side or out of the game a little, we will make eye contact, and / or the one of use that has gotten kind of left out a little will give a little light double bootie tap as a silent sign to switch back to each other. Lastly, I do think maybe there was a twinge of jealousy in there....lets be honest this is the first time in 25 years my wife has gotten another man off...and certainly the first time I've ever seen her do it. It wasn't unexpected, but hadn't happened yet and I had to process that emotion too. Let's be honest though it was hot, she gets a little look of control on her face while she's doing her thing and it's definitely awesome to watch. At any rate, we are good. I needed that extra talk and I should have been more completely honest with here initially. The problem was that I thought I was okay, it just took a couple of days. Thanks again all!

We have just one side of, essentially, a story with 4 sides. in our experience, we have known couples who were really looking for a 3-some BUT could not find an elusive unicorn and agree to meet a couple. Sometimes it’s more about them living out their fantasy and inadvertently hurt someone’s feelings This could be what happened to you. You mentioned that you are still newbies. Was the other couple also newbies?

Aquaman, I completely agree with the wise counsel Gold has given you and I’m pleased to see that you’ve taken it aboard. Two things, one I’m addressing to you specifically and the other of a more general nature. First, in all close or intimate relationships, sexual or otherwise, it’s important to voice to others your feelings/wishes/desires. In all candor, the couplings you’ve described seem well within the normal range. Implicitly you seem to believe that your wife and the other couple should have known that you felt unsatisfied and should have addressed that. I don’t mean this in a judgmental fashion, but consider how alternatively things might have gone if you had gently/humorously said some gentle version of "It was fun watching the three of you. How shall we get me off?" Did you and your wife have a prior conversation where you agreed that you wouldn’t stop till you were both satisfied? Or with the other couple to that effect? They aren’t mindreaders. More generally, it’s been my observation that couples who put the needs of the other ahead of their own find more satisfaction from ENM life. If you aren’t familiar with the term, look up "compersion".

Could you have entered her while she was sucking his nipples? Or gone back to eating her?

GoldCoCouple, thanks for the reply. I guess blame was the wrong word... responsibility maybe. The whole feeling really was less of, oh m just sitting aside and enjoying the show by choice and more forgotten in the background. Don't get me wrong, watching my wife do her thing is incredibly hot. It's not really about the not getting to play, but the simple fact of feeling like everyone focused on other dude and I was just put aside. I didn't want to interrupt what she was doing, that seemed wrong somehow, she was having fun and he was getting off. But then there was literally no conclusion for me, it was just...ok, welp we're done now. As I said, we're new, it takes time for me to process how I feel about things, we defintely aren't jumping back in with someone anytime in the near future. And in all I've never felt bad before, and I love when she gets hers. I agree, we are in it together, and I do want her to enjoy her time. It's more that I feel like she lost track of what was going and we didn't communicate effectively during play. Again, this is the first time she's ever gotten one of the guys off, I'm not used to that. So, process time and communication.

As one ages, hormones, athleticism and energy fade. The lifestyle, T, Cialis and Viagra can inject excitement. Use it or lose it!