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My wife and I went to SMI in April. It was a Thursday and they were maybe five other couples there. My wife was unsure when we pulled up. BTW we had been to caliente before and another place in North Georgia and are not swingers. We have just recently opened up our communication and gotten way more sexual. We are both 50 years old and in pretty amazing shape. So it wasn't her first time getting naked but she has always been very self-conscious. They come around with some free margaritas and also have some cheap free wine. This helped loosen my wife up and before I knew it she was giving me a blowjob by the pool with other people in eyesight. We also ended up fucking indifferent locations which is completely fine there. We saw another couple fucking right by the pool as we all set in our lounge chairs around it. Everyone was very nice, both the staff and the people we interacted with. It's fairly small and intimate but it also has various little areas kind of tucked away and the rooms surround the courtyard pool area. We didn't stay there, we just did a day pass. Btw they also have some food they provide which is not anything super healthy but it's okay. It's no problem at all to bring your own food and drink and from what I remember they provide the towels. All in all it was really a great place and my very conservative wife felt comfortable doing things I'm sure she never thought she would do. We are now fans and will definitely be back. We are currently planning a trip to Vegas and are trying to decide between SMI there and whispers.

Congrats on diving into the lifestyle. It's a fun and wild adventure which changes your fundamental mindset and perspective in potentially great ways. I can understand your discomfort with wanting your doctors to have an idea of your extracurriculars--in my own case my primary doc is one of my fathers closest friends so that could potentially be awkward. To avoid it there I simply have another specialist (urologist), whose opinion I could care less about, write the script for an STD test and take it to LabCorp to fill. In the case of my wife she simply hits an Urgent Care for a full STD panel and sees an NP she has no relationship with and won't see again after. If that is still not discrete enough for you, there are plenty of online resources to get discrete STD testing.

Much of one’s satisfaction at nudist and swinger resorts relies on the luck of the draw of who else is there. We once went to a tantric weekend in Key West sponsored by a swingers’ group. By day two, the instructor said to us “”There’s nobody here for you.” We tried to recruit (seduce) her, but she declined. May have been an ethical concern, because she was an instructor, not a participant/guest. She did play with us in the hands on seminar. Only action we got there.

My wife is 70 and I am 71. We have been swinging for 48 years. Married 51. I worked in the oil field. I have been retired for 7 years now. I was gone a lot being on 24 hr. call. Even as long as several weeks at a time. My wife's first sexual encounter was with our neighbor. When we could afford our own home, we bought one on a dead-end street in a low middle income neighborhood. He lived across the street from us. It took four years before I found out about their affair. Hell, I loved the Idea and asked if I could watch. My wife was 22 yrs. old, and he was a 78-year-old widower. We lived there two more years before he passed. (No. She didn't F___k him to death). It was cancer. We moved into a larger house on the other side of town. We have been swinging ever since with all ages of people, race, religion, and countries. There has been quite a few of them 90-year-olds men and women. You're going to see a lot of us old farts still sexually active. Everyone is living longer. Have a good day.

For several years when business took me to Austin I played with a hotwife couple who lived there. They introduced me to Hippie Hollow, which I enjoyed with them. I later took a female vanilla friend who’d never been to a nude beach. HHgirl, I hope you live to be 100 and that you have good health that allows you to still enjoy sex. My brother-in-law, never expecting an elderly couple might still want sex or be capable of it walked in during siesta on my then 85-year-old mom and her 92-year-old boyfriend. They were in the midst of male superior missionary intercourse. My sisters and I (all of us blessed with strong and durable libidos) were pleased for our mom and took reassurance for our own futures. That said, I’m very glad it was my sister’s husband who walked in on them and not me. Because, you know, King Lear…😳🙄😱 (As I’ve noted in comments on posts elsewhere on this board, when I was in my early 60s I played at a party with a couple who were in their mid-80s and had been having sex as a couple with others since they first married in the late 1940s.)

Not long after marrying my husband, my husband was curious about nudism (He loved reading Naturist magazines) and he found out that there was a nudist club / resort not far from where we lived. So he took me over to see what it was like. I was really surprised that there were places that people just liked to socialize nude at. It wasn't on my bucket list or anything that crossed my mind that I had to do before I die but I thought, I would give it a try. Well, surprise, surprise, I was hooked pretty darn fast. I love the freedom of being clothes free. It feels wonderful to run around without any clothes on. But nudism has really changed my life. I have always had weight issues and I didn't like my body very much. But I quickly saw that it is very rare to have a perfect body we all have our flaws.....anyways it helped me learn to accept my body and helped me remember to make better healthier food choices. Nudism is like viagra for me. Seeing all the gorgeous men increases my sexual appetite. I have definitely had a higher sex drive than my husband and I still do. I am a 58 year old free spirited female who has twenty something year old guys that want to hang out with me at nudist clubs and nudist beaches.....and Hippie Hollow. Large penises are what gets my sexual energy juices going. Just seeing them, talking to them maybe interacting with the large penis. And if I find the right person with a large penis I might make them a boyfriend boy toy. I hope my infatuation with large penises that I get to see at nudist places last forever. I want to be 100 years old and still enjoying sex.

Usually there is morning sex, but an hour!? Do you not work? What? There's always penetration. And orgasms. Many times one of the guys has to hold back while the first of us cums or go twice to get the woman who was left behind in the morning. The three of us women have gotten hornier each year into out thirties. The problem is that the two guys in our family have not kept pace, that's why we girls 1) share a (married) guy on the side, whose wife (who knows and appreciates us) has no sex drive whatsoever, and 2) being Lesbians as well helps. A lot.

I am his Viagra and he is my Cialis. My libido is on the increase year after year, and he has kept pace with it. Sleep naked, enjoy every aspect of your body, and the secret is - I allow him to molest me for an hour every morning, includes everything except penetration. All day he is erect and ready. The right food is also important - lot of herbs helps.

There is so much truth here, it bears repetition: 1. Being active contributes to being sexually active. Exercise -- break a sweat and work it out exercise favors sexual activity in so many ways it's hard to count. Physically fit, better circulation, positive self-image, natural antidepressant...the list goes on. My dear wife--we have known each other 41 years--roll out of bed and hit the gym at least 5 days a week. We do it together because we value that time together. 2. Get out of the rut and change it up. Get the fantasies going, go on dates with LS couples, go on an LS cruise or trip. This does not just happen. It has to be intentional, planned, executed...and savored. I'll add a couple of things... 3. Never, ever take your partner for granted. Send them a text--or better flowers. Do the little things around the house without asking. Make sure that you look good, even when it's just the two of you. As the wife of one of my colleagues remarked about 40 years ago, "Foreplay is 24 x 7". She was right. 4. Make the time. It is all too easy to let everything else get in the way of intimacy. Overworked. Bills to pay. Laundry to fold. Visit the parents. Once and again, your relationship with your partner is your #1 priority. Treat it with the respect it deserves.

Regular exercise I is another factor in keeping our libido's up. I can't remember the number of times we went to the gym came back and had a quickie. We do a lot of different things to keep it interesting. Quickies in the middle of the day, a 'kink' nite, travel sex. You really need to devote some time into breaking a rut and keeping your relationship intact.

Considering that my wife and I have been married longer than some in this group have been around (54 years) and that alone will put us in the category of older -- I prefer the term "Mature". Enough of that and I will try to answer your questions. Considering the social pressures at the time of our marriage, our sex was limited to missionary until I could cum and that was it. My dear wife got nothing out of the experience but --- some sperm. Many, many years later (maybe 35 or 40) I started to learn how to please her so she enjoyed the experience.While my wife had never complained, neither of us really knew any better. Fast forward to about 15 years ago (2000),I felt that the romance was gone from our marriage and commenced to read more on how to move out of our rut --- it had become very boring even though we still had frequent sex; about 2 to 3 time a week. My wife was now accepting of different positions and new foreplay techniques. Mind you, she still harbored many of those Bible interpretations that may pastors preach that are not really in the Bible. This feeling of hers has been a very large mountain to climb and has been a major block to any possible swinging adventure. We are satisfied with sex a couple times a week but now we both really focus on the intensity of pleasure that we both receive. Yes, even at our age, we have a more enjoyable physical experience than 15 or 20 years ago. One thing that has really help was the purchase of Philo Thelos "Divine Sex". I purchased the book and never asked or pressured her to read it but she did pick it up and has already read about 1/2 of it. I can see a difference in her already. When I first brought up the subject of swinging, she had a very typical response -- "You don't love me", "You just want to have sex with other women", etc. Today there is still very good sex, no heated discussions and yes, we still love each other very much. Yes -- I would like to experience sex with other women! My wife should experience other men as well. I do experience stress and tiredness as I still work every day in our laboratory and am building another new house. So I can really identify with other men even though they may be 20 or 30 years younger but I enjoy sex and giving pleasure to my wife; that is always goal Number 1. I hope that our roller coaster sex life answers you question but if not just fire your queries my way.

In a committed relationship, a change-up is required at least occasionally. This is needed without regard to age. Libido can go either up or down with age and there are at least a dozen factors that could influence this change. From my experience, as a man, the guiding principle is "use it or loose it". My interest in sex goes down right after finishing the sex act. But within an hour, interest is back up again. But if I go a long time (days) not having sex, it's takes more thought and effort to get back into the groove. After menopause, my wife became a virtual sex machine. And she needed little help from me for this. I understand that the hormone shift does exactly the opposite for some women.

We went pre-Covid. Have several friends that rave about it but our experience wasn’t great. It is cozy and hidden. Host was super cool. We got the day pass and came Saturday afternoon with intent to stay for the swingers party after a day in the pools. both have a couple of extra lbs. 40s at the time, we fit right in with the other guests. all the chairs by the main pool were taken. So second row back with meh sunshine. Sat around the pool and swam a bit. Mineral hot springs are very nice. Then decided to explore a bit. Did the sauna and went to the pool house, party room which isn’t very spacious. Has a couple recliners and a round sofa in the middle of the room that gets moved to become a dance floor at night. A few people were fooling around outside but we wanted to get out of the wind and hopefully play on the the round sofa; nope. A couple decided to take a 3 hour nap instead. Back outside. Sun low in the sky, getting breezy go the fire pit was lit. Hugely smoky. Normally not too bothered but the wind was whipping the smoke in our eyes where we couldn’t see. Hot tub time. A couple of couples with us. We relaxed and enjoyed. Next thing you know 6 couples who had rented rooms came to the hot tub. Really rowdy, shot gunning Pabst and 420. Looked like they might have drove up in the Breaking Bad meth RV. back to the pool house. Couple finally up from their nap but now time to move the couch and open the dance floor. Not our scene so back to the pool. Crowd had thinned as sun went down so couple of chairs free but smoke still whipping in our eyes got back in the pool. snuggled, kissed, touched for a while. Until we noticed one of the “hill folk” had migrated to the main pool. Watched her take on 3 random dudes bareback under the water. finally we had enough around 930. Left. Went to one of the Casinos in the area for dinner and a little gambling. No desire to ever go back.