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Our thoughts from the beginning ~15 years ago were that if we found people whom we had a lot of fun having sex with, it seemed silly to move on from them just because they weren't new to us anymore. We weren't concerned about attachments forming. We've had some great long term sexual partners from this. So yeah, some special relationships developed.

We didn’t. Took a meeting, then a date, on the third meeting WOW.

Do others have that One Special friend in the lifestyle that you play with? We decided sex with others could and would be fun, sex with no attachment to enjoy sex and new sexual adventures. Our marriage is secure and our love has never waned before or after our active summer. My husband had a limited sex life before me, a thing he hates me repeating. I was not overly sexual before just more active. We discussed before joining a site that we should experience more sexual variety. How can I be his best if he had very little to compare even if I end up not being the best. If the better is out there I want him to enjoy. Truth I also wanted sex for sex with no pretense of love or relationship. Now the summer of exploration is over that led us to a relationship with the original find. No promises of just them or just us for them, we aren’t forming a poly family we are going to enjoy the special feeling we have for them. Do others have that special relationship?

We met on a cruise and swapped before the cruise was over. No plans, never thought of it before, it just happened.

Our first swinging experience was a house party in El Paso. Sabrina got in the hot tub with two hot girls. As their SOs were both occupied elsewhere, they went from the hot tub to a king sized bed pretty quickly with me in tow. I sat in a chair and watched the three of them play for over an hour. When they were ready they asked me to join them. We played for a little while, and Sabrina asked me to go find some guys to join. I found three single guys, and this turned into an orgy. It was incredible.

I’m keep thinking part of the fun this summer was being free to new partners. This is going against my own post about having that special friend and not needing new over and over then thinking t about the excitement of doing the opposite. No decision has to be definitive.

Nope, we like meeting new couples while on vacation. Nude resorts or beaches is where we like to meet couples that are interested. Having that special couple is not important since K works such a heavy schedule. Yes, I guess it is good to have someone to socialize with, but for us it adds to our vacations to be on the lookout for a potential swap.

If it's something you want to do then do it but I don't know if that is really a step towards swinging. Tons of people enjoy sharing pictures and videos but I would say the majority of the time it never leads to swinging. Just my guess.

We have been dating one other couple for over 10 years and just in the last year they moved further away. We still see each other...once in a great while, but are thinking it may be time to find to find another couple or couples and form a small group. With Covid and how difficult (but totally worth the difficulty) it was to find that elusive spark for all involved, we have had a hard time getting started again.

I've been with many a woman who doesn't want 'power', they want the man to satisfy them. With some, the situation is a turn off, I feel like I'm being used. But since I am, at heart, a pleaser, when I see the 'power' I have over them, to give them a great orgasm, it can be fun for me.

I love to reclaim K after swinging, the feel of sloppy seconds and she needs a little more fucking before being spent.

Shouldn’t taking directions from the woman be part of the turn on? 🙂

I'm proud that you're exploring and doing it on your terms. I know what you mean. I'm sort of living it with two other women in our poly family. Are you bi at all? For me FFM is the best sexual experience. Please let us know how it goes with this guy. You're on an interesting adventure together, I understand and envy you.

It has mainly been the whole line-up thing these last times when I have met him with other girls, and there is something about those dates that I feel is a big turn-on for some reason; there is something thrilling about being one in the bunch like that. I guess it is the submissive side of me that causes those feelings, haha. And of course, there is also the whole actual sex part, where I observe the other girls go crazy when he has his way with them, and the whole anticipation when he has walked up behind me and I am like "any moment now...!".

We generally do not swing on the first meeting. One of us may have noticed something amiss and we would like time to discuss. So we usually meet for a vanilla dinner at a restaurant. An exception is on swinger cruises or resorts. But we usually met on an excursion or a trip or somewhere first.

Sure did met an experienced couple for a drink brought them home and next thing we knew after a little naked hot hot tubing. He was fucking the wife and his wife was suck me. Then again we have never done anything half way. The hard part was getting them to go home and lets us reconnect afterword. This was long ago and we enjoyed it and learned a lesson. Anytime we are with a couple that wanted us to be their first we always get a hotel room and let them have the room for the night after the deed is done.

We "half" swapped our first meet with another couple. Everyone played and I had sex with the other wife, but the other male made the mistake of cuming too soon in his own wife and couldn't get it up for mine... Since that time (when we're active) we've kept of the trend of playing on the first encounter if it feels right. Our schedules are difficult and we all know what we're hoping for, so why delay gratification if we all synch?

I'm not sure why, but this thread brings back feelings in me and I must digress. Reading these posts makes me glad that I/we are not traditional swingers. I would feel left out and awkward even as a woman because early on I became suspicious of men who took an interest without knowing me because I looked and still look much younger than I am. When I was 17, 18 I looked as if I were 13 - very thin, no tits. Guys would hit on me who either thought I was that young and willing to risk it or knew my age and had a fetish for flat chested, young looking girls. (I wondered sometimes if these guys saw my ugly cunt with my big clit and lips, wild bush, they would feel the same.) For all my outward confidence and assertiveness, I need to be in a comfortable situation to enjoy sex. My poly family and occasional dalliance have given me this.

I'm with Fitlakecouple on this. This has disaster written all over it in spade and then some. It's often said on this board that it's a bad idea to try to bring friends to the idea of swinging. It's ok to make friends of swingers, but not swingers of friends. It stands a VERY high chance of ruining friendships. Here, in this case, you've got a 'chance' to ruin friendships with a whole circle of friends. Your GF will forever have a reputation among your circle of friends, and it won't be a nice one. There will be judgment and contempt, even from those who have sex with her. They will laugh about what a wild night it was, and what an absolute slut your GF is. She will never be just another person at any other gathering that includes any subset of those friends in the future. She will be an object, and not much more. I'm quite sure the wife-to-be will be extremely upset about the whole thing when she founds out (and she will). There will also be a lot of people who do not attend this party who will know about this night, and may well include people whom you 'd rather they didn't know. I'm sorry, but even though your GF is 100% onboard with this, this is the sort of thing that nightmares are made of.

I agree with you. The issue is the guest list and that it's tied to a friend's wedding. She compares it to other parties we've had like super bowl, birthday parties, etc. but the difference is we had more control over the guest list and everybody knew what to expect upon walking in. On the other hand she thinks it is OK because it is blessed by the groom's brother and he is the one who is technically in charge of the bachelor party. If the groom wasn't such a close friend and we didn't know the people well I would probably be much more willing to move forward but this complicates it too much for me. My GF did say that she can just strip and then there can be a more private after party with those who are interested in moving things further. It sounds fine but I'm not confident it will exactly work out that easily at a bachelor party as things can escalate right there. A better solution would be doing the bachelor party and then having some people from the party (who are in the know) come to an after party where my GF can entertain. I am not saying it is necessarily a good idea but it's probably the most reasonable option of them.

What a great way to ruin the wedding and a friendship at the same time. Let us know how it turns out!

Because of the mix of those who have had and those who have not been with her. The majority being vanilla. Past secret activities and that this is just prior to your friends wedding this has warnings, red flags and potential disaster written all over it. What happens at this stag party will not stay at the stag party, for sure bits and pieces will get around. also, I assume that if this is the plan…..the bride to be has a similar option? other then that a “themed” gangbang, group sex or orgy is diffenately a great and wild time. We have organized a few dozen of these. But that is not for then new, inexperienced, vanilla or those secretly flying solo.

Yes, we played on our very first time out. And everytime afterwards but one. We live in a rural area I guess you could say. Travel time could have made a difference in this but I'm doubting it right now. Even the one time we waited until the second date, we would have on the first one. Vol

Mrs. Alura and I had sex on our first date, so we may not be the best ones to ask. In our other experiences, the first meeting allowed us to get to know prospective playmates well enough to decide if we wanted to fuck them or not. In all cases, both couples knew before dinner was over that the next meeting would be to play. After dinner on one of our first meetings, the four of us switched partners, sat in their van and "made out" for awhile. They were both good kissers; always a great sign! We played with them for several years. Mr. Alura

Can't say that we swapped on the first meet for our first experience. That was years ago and we had known the gentleman for quite a while. However, we have played numerous times with people that we just met, having only known them for a few hours...ummm and in some cases a few minutes (orgies are a strange and fun thing). In fact, now when meeting people we usually have a plan in place to play (meaning an idea of where to go play) if everyone is agreeable to it, no sense in wasting time if you are all getting along. Teresa