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Wine usually works. When we host people, we have wine, cheese, crackers, other snacks. If people have us over for dinner, we ask if we can bring dessert or an appetizer. When I was in college , there was a comedy show that was like Saturday Night Live called Fridays. Larry David and another comedian were dressed as ultra Orthodox Jews who were in a spying organization called the Matzoi. When they visited their arch enemy spy organization, they brought a cake. The enemies said why did you bring us a cake, we’re your enemy? The Matzoi said when you visit people, you can’t show up empty handed. We agree.

When Alan and I first started inviting people to our home we were the recipients of many little gifts that ran a wide range types, wine was the #1, pastries, pizza, a few gummies and a number of sex oriented playthings. We were always appreciative while the type of gift gave us a hint of the personality of those we met. We always tried to use the little gift as an ice breaker and way to relax extremely nervous curious newbies. Now that we have a smaller play group Alan and I are invitees more often so when we go to a home we ask what we can bring.

lcmim has it precisely correct--do what you would do in any social setting. We'll add that mourn the decline of social graces. We think: 1. Invitations should be answered quickly, graciously, and honestly. 2. If you RSVP "yes", understand that your hosts are expecting you and are planning around you. 3. If you are going to be delayed more than 10 min, call. 4. If circumstances arise that will prevent you from attending an accepted invitation, let your hosts know immediately. ---- 5. Small gifts are always welcome. While we commonly give and receive a bottle of wine, more creative gifts are always welcome. A set of coasters. A piece of slate and knife for cheese. Make them small and useful. In the LS especially, make sure the gift is clearly "for the house" or at least to be shared, and not directed to one or the other person. No gift is ever expected, and just about all are gratefully received. Those that are not are sometimes regifted... 6. Look for signs of "house rules" such as no shoes indoors, no ashtrays, whatever. If in doubt, ask. 7. When your offer to help with this or that is declined, accept it gracefully. Use your own judgement on helping to clear the table after a meal, we always do. 8. Be sensitive to cues from your hosts as to what they want to do and what they have planned. It's their home, their show, and so on. Be especially sensitive to cues that it is time to leave. --- 9. Upon leaving, tell your hosts how wonderful it was to see them, dine with them, play with them, whatever. 10. In the age of texting, we make a point of sending a "safe arrival home" to our hosts, especially if we are driving in hours of darkness. 11. Some form of thank-you note is always appropriate. Your hosts made a special effort to share an enjoyable experience with you. While email is 'acceptable', a handwritten note sends a special and memorable 'thank-you'

The meet n greets is a good idea. That is a great way of building a network, which is where the gold lies. While you are at it start a dedicated g mail account with as little accurate profile as possible and attach a Google Voice Phone number to it. Use both of these as dedicated points of contact for your LS friends. This has two advantages. The first is that both you and your wife can access them , which makes it easier to stay in the loop for each of you. The second is that it allows you to give out your contact information with out the normal newbie fears of being outed. We even have cards with this information. Some people choose to use pseudonyms . We just use our real first names as they are quite common in the wild. Remember to play your OWN game plan , nobody else's. Best of luck.

So I have posted on here before man’s actually gone from doing nothing to actually doing something this has happened with a friend and stranger but my wife has now expressed a fantasy of going on holiday like Jamaica or somewhere like that and have sex with a black man, She has stated as before she would prefer to do it bareback, what is it like over there for these situations to happen?

Yes we did right there it caused me to have a raging hard on and she got off his cock sat on mine then sucked his cock abit more can honestly say the most intense and amazing thing we have done

Proving once again that even married people can have sex with others and it is perfectly normal and natural. Did you and your wife have sex afterwards? How was it?

Things did go all the way really, my friend was a little nervous I think as he didn’t know what to make of it but he was damn up for it he went inside get a drink and my wife said shall I follow I said go for it so off she went, I left it like 10 mins and I then nipped in the house to be greeted with her reverse cow girl him on the sofa, both of them naked soaking wet still and my wife loving the fact of saying your best mate is in me bareback he still had a nervous look abit but he was in is element after was ok no real weirdness mall said was up for it again for sure :-)

Well it's been a long drought with a lot of bad meetings and posers over the last two years. We've walked away more than once shaking our heads over the lies and untruths people told compared to what arrived at the meetings. One of the biggest problems was the "one party" is attractive in some fashion but the other is a dud. We finally decided to just try a threesome again and only have to focus on one person. We ran a craigslist ad and actually got what seemed like a pretty good prospect (male) met him for a beer. He seemed pretty good so we had him over Sat night. Wifey was a little unsure about screwing a just-about total stranger so I drew her up a 12 step program for guidance complete with cutouts and power point presentations only to have her go from step 1 to 12 when she just took him upstairs and screwed him. I had agreed to stay out of the first one so that neither one of them was nervous but would be in on the second one. We had the second session after and all went really well we had a great time. So the issue is this and frankly it's a stupid little issue. We realized the next day he had showed up empty handed. We paid the bill for his two beer when we first met and had discussed the fact that he liked red wine. Accordingly we bought three selected bottles for the evening along with chips, nuts, etc. We probably shelled out $80 bucks altogether. Now don't get me wrong we don't do this with expectations other than sex but still it bothered me in that at some level it seemed to indicate contempt or cheapness or thoughtlessness. None of which impressed us. I personally couldn't show up for an event like that without some flowers or chocolates or wine or even a plant it just seems like the "right" thing to do. So I thought I would ask others their opinion. Am I out to lunch here or is this an indication of bad behaviour? ****************** edit in response to another point brought up below the invitation was not for sex directly. It was a get to know us better meeting and something MIGHT happen but no guarantee.

What would you do going to a new vanilla friends home for dinner? Do that.

Following on from this awhile back, we have been round to my friends and tbh at first just had a laugh and a good time, nothing major happened but noticed a little flirty talk here and there when in the tub, my friend was referencing about my wife’s breasts in her bikini she had on then she actually just removed the top and made a excuse it was uncomfortable I was shocked at first and my friends jaw dropped through the floor, I went in house awhile later and I heard him say to her how he was shocked but it made is dick hard instantly, she said prove it which he stood up she legit pulled his shorts down abit and started to put his cock in her mouth I walked out and saw her sucking away and he nearly had a heart attack and tried to explain I joked and told him what we had already spoke about, but it seems the wife was definitely up for it

I’ve told her about the invite over, which I mentioned and her face seemed to light up I asked her if that meant she wanted something to happen between them.. to which she replied it would be a fun night with the 3 of us

I had a chat with my wife, I sort of said I think he fancy’s you, which she laughed a little but in a way like flushed as if yeah I know type of thing. and then she just came out with we haven’t been out with him for a while, does that mean oh we should meet him and now you noticed this we possibly get it on? From the seems of this just from a small convo we had I think this is something she is up for doing, it just so happens aswell he brought a hot tub and he only messaged me tonight saying oh you will have come over check it out, I’m thinking now I mentioned this to my wife will she kind of go for it off her own back if we go round?

We'd be put off if someone showed up at our house empty handed.

We have a friend who comes over every couple of months for a Saturday evening. He always brings a nice bottle of wine. I admit I would find it very odd if he did not; we always take a bottle with us when we go over to someone's house for the evening. It just what we do. It's not a dating thing; it's a thank-you for the hospitality.

No he offered to pay but we already had the bill. It was really no big deal at the time. It was just after...when we started thinking. The play date was separate at our house. So far the poll is now running slightly in favor of bringing something. I mean a bottle of wine is so freakin' generic everybody brings one. And one of the major discussions was about what wines he and my wife liked. I'm not much of a wine drinker myself but you'd think sitting there talking to a lady you want to **** about a subject you both like in common you might spring for something to impress her when you finally get the chance. Maybe I'm just too polite :-)

We have our face pics out there. It was a decide made after going to a couple socials. It was impossible to figure out who was who after the parties were over. After much talk we decided to open them up so people would know who we were. Thus far it works really well for the intended purpose. I did get recognized recently by a couple who I know in the area a couple weeks ago. It was all good, we're all here for the same thing. One thing I've noticed about not having private pics is that I don't have people contacting us hoping we have nudes in our private pics. I think it's cut way back on the amount of fake people who contact us. I don't post nudes at all.