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Of curse she knows I'm bi. She's watched when we played with another bi couple, and I would never go behind her back. OTOH, the number of males that have contacted me and couldn't or don't tell their partner is big. That's a hard pass for me.

Yes, not because there's a hymen that's ripped or the girl's anus is permanently expanded, rather she eventually learns to open, not instinctively tighten, and to lube up her bum hole and his dick first. Perhaps the bi guys on this forum can speak up as well. I think many stories here are untrue, but still form the basis for a worthwhile discussion. Agreed, nothing lost, but something found. A cause for celebration.

You can have anal with your wife anytime you want. You really didn’t lose anything.

Going over the ground rules with everyone involved is crucial and if you don't go over the rules this is what will happen. One problem I first saw was that you admitted that both of you were half buzzed, bad idea. Next, are you sure she was an anal virgin, maybe she has done it before? Anyway it happened, now what to do about it. I think both should stop until you both get on the same page with your rules. This is not uncommon, I have really seen problems about going bareback or ejaculating inside her. Having rules and sticking to them is important and later down the road you may adjust your rules. Talk this out and don't let this get between you, but don't swap until your rules are agreed upon by both!

Excellent advice presented above, we would strongly advise the same. Take your time friends and talk, talk, talk. The level of your communication (frequency, candor, honesty) will put grease to the wheels. Know what you are looking for and don't settle for what you know to be off the mark. Events take many forms; generally formal or informal. Formal events are often ones held by clubs, informal are house parties and the like. Some of the formal events are posted on the larger online sites as stated above, but the informal events tend to be network based (who you know, etc). The two of you s/b totally in alignment on this foray, if not, talk it out now, not later. Good luck to you both.

The meet n greets is a good idea. That is a great way of building a network, which is where the gold lies. While you are at it start a dedicated g mail account with as little accurate profile as possible and attach a Google Voice Phone number to it. Use both of these as dedicated points of contact for your LS friends. This has two advantages. The first is that both you and your wife can access them , which makes it easier to stay in the loop for each of you. The second is that it allows you to give out your contact information with out the normal newbie fears of being outed. We even have cards with this information. Some people choose to use pseudonyms . We just use our real first names as they are quite common in the wild. Remember to play your OWN game plan , nobody else's. Best of luck.

Join SLS or SDC. They list events in your area. Attend a meet and greet that is purely social and not a sexual event. Phone numbers mean dates. And if you are not vaccinated for HPV, do so.

It sounds like you are talking about cheating on your wife. That kind of thing is wrong, and risks blowing up your relationship with your wife. Please talk to your wife about this, and don’t have sex with anyone else without your wife’s knowledge and consent.

I’m sure I’m going to get some slack for my opinion, if my wife let another man do something that I’ve always wanted to do, especially without discussing with me first……. I would have stopped the playing instantly, got dressed and started looking for a good divorce lawyer. The sheer amount of disrespect it took on her part would’ve been all ever needed to see. I’m not convinced this story is true. For her to tell you no, then doing it with someone else right in front of you………….not really sure I’m buying this.