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You know there are like 40,000 people waiting for you to upload your photos. I know it's so juvenile, but....I still love looking at naked pics.

When dynamics change so do relationships. It is the same when the friends divorce, or one of them dies. In the LS it is a matter, I believe, of how much sex was the driving force. We have had it go both ways. The friendships change, but with some effort can be maintained as something different.Sometimes for the better. In our family , one of our children married one of his group of friends They later divorced. The marriage was not healthy. He is now with another of that group, who had been married to someone else of that same group. This group is probably 20 or so in number. Now this group is still there. All of them are supportive to each other including the exes. While the individual families are fairly traditional, in many ways including the children it is Tribal. I marvel at it.

"As a woman with a Lesbian side, I ask myself that question whenever I hit it off with a cute girl. But even if there is mutual Lezzi interest, I have found that being bi can also be a deal breaker. Quite a high percentage of Lesbian women don't want to be involved with another woman who also likes men. Men, OTOH, don't care if a woman is licking other pussy. " Couplers I have heard that about lesbians, I don't get it. We are all about sharing what we've got, our adventures, our bodies, showing both genders. I do not know any lesbians, everyone I know is bi or gay. Evan the gay men we are around are not like that, so any insight on why more of the women are?

There was no time to think it over. It could have worked if he left the room with that assurance! 🙂

I have. My wife and I are best friends with two couples that my ex-wife and I used to swing with almost 20 years ago, and I recently reunited with the first couple my ex and I ever swung with. My wife and I are currently playing with the husband of a couple my ex and I used to swing with, however we do not swing with any of the forementioned couples. We've decided to keep those relationships vanilla for the time being, and they're okay with that, also.

Part of this may stem from meeting these friends inside of some LS venue. I sometimes wonder if having the sexual part enter into it too early can be a problem. If there were some well established commonality before things became sexual it might be different. This plays out in the Vanilla world as well. Consider the "one night stand" as opposed to a couple that starts dating after having been acquaintances , then friends who eventually become lovers. My sons community that I mentioned earlier is an example.

Since we are looking for friends first and the benefits then follow, once the benefits taper off, we still have the friendship. Some couples, that we found were not a match for whatever reason, we don't stay in touch with (we'll answer if they reach out to us, but that doesn't happen often). Our 'principle' couple (the one we dated for years) has moved away, but we still email and talk even though getting together is a rarity any longer. I still need to break down and start the search for our next 'naughty best friends'...

It is not that simple as it was not a typical swing partnership. The bf is a partner in a polyamorous relationship. I'm just sharing that sometimes it happens without the intention of favoring one partner over the other.

It happened to me without an intention to cheat. My partner always wanted to do me anal but I always refuse. With another bf on a separate occasion and room, I gave it to him first. I didnt know if he was too adept at it or it was the heat of the moment. I let my partner do it eventually but it was not my intention to let bf have it first. It just happened.

As the others have stated, there are so many negatives with this couple that I'd also suggest you avoid them. From experience I can tell you that an experience with them would be disappointing to you, and to your husband. How do you approach them now? Simply and honestly, tell them after thought that the two of you are no longer interested - have a great life. If he asks why, do not tell him your reasons - it's none of his business, and a revelation will only lead to argument. Continue to search for another couple or female. You'll find them eventually, and your husband will be quite happy then. Better to have patience than a letdown. Best of luck . . .

I also would say to throw this one back.

We agree. And keep in mind although there are common threads of thought, expectations, desires, endless different ever-changing rules and go/no-go (by individual/couple, single, solo) one time event to poly relationship. Variations/mix like Lottery numbers. Of coarse in the end it is the two of you, your choices. I will share what we have told couples, singles and solos new to or in the lifestyle: Although many do try to address this like dating it really isn’t but everyone has their own comfort level. Use of swing sites is fine but often open more as a source of entertainment. Most, not everyone, but I would venture 80% of those who are active in the LS are quick to draw the line on too much written/telephone conversation. Best communication is always personal, in person. Contact on line but early on arrange in person public meeting. Public place always but enough privacy to talk openly. This would include a hard and fast rule, only platonic, friendly people getting to know one another. No intimate contact at all. And even here once, twice and move forward or move on. We always advocate meeting like minded people at parties (home or club), hosted meet n greats (public) LS events and private hosted LS groups. You meet like minded people, loads of fun….and it is social, no sex participation required. The best way to meet people.

Meeting them is not in your best interests as a couple. If you're not happy before the initial meeting, we can't see it getting much better, especially given the wife's apparent disinterest.

You don’t need this couple … there are plenty of fish in the sea.

How on earth does someone who has never done anal, isn’t physical prepared or mentally prepared just take it in the ass in multiple positions without having their ass completely destroyed? Not to mention the mess it would be without being prepared a head of time! I guess if it was just that easy for your wife to take it in the bum and you saw she was why didn’t you just take your turn as well?