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I've never been asked this, but before I met my wife a younger man asked her if she would have sex with him. She used to babysit him when she was in her 20's. Now she was in her late 30's and him in his early 20's and he told her that he always had a crush on her and now that he was an adult was hoping that it was a possibility. She kept him around as a FWB for a while. I met him recently at a funeral for one of his family members. Nice guy. I can see why she kept him around for booty calls. So, she did "help him out" and it ended-up being pretty good.

A very insightful post with many interesting observations. It makes me think back to when I conceived my first child. Clair had become accidentally pregnant by David and I/we decided it would be good for both of us to have our first child as close together as possible. My husband was fine with it, so I got busy with both Red and him. It was exciting in many ways and an indication of my husband's love for me. Being partnered/married with one man and having the child of another is very primal and a sign of female dominance.

One couple that I spoke of her partner “lovingly” held her for each insemination by the selected donors. Not a sex play thing or love making thing.

Indeed, we actually had another night round his at the weekend went round had a laugh a drink etc.. then my wife decided she had waited long enough got herself naked and asked which of us was going to fuck her first, we both took our clothes off stood there with hard ons and I said you chose. she walked over kneeling down and put her mouth around my friends cock and sucked the hell out of him then headed to the sofa and told him to fuck her as dirty as possible and told me to wait my turn I honestly nearly cum just watching them fuck so dirty on that sofa

We mostly swap with other couples. After 1,2 or 3 meetings, we realize: 1. It’s no longer novel and it is in fact routine and formulaic; 2. One or both of us are not that attracted to the other partner or couple; 3. One or both of us are not thrilled or compatible with the sexual abilities of our swing partner. However, in many cases, we like the other couple as friends and we would like to keep them as friends. However, we note that once we stop the sexual relationship, the other couple rarely wants to remain friends. We’re not naive and we realize no one wants to be rejected. But it is a hard trick to pull off. Sort of like staying friends with an ex. What are other people’s experiences?

Some are "Gold Star" Lesbians, who have never been penetrated by a man, and will only be with another who is the same. And if you're thinking... yes, I've been rejected by one. Two, actually. For me, it's the balls and the thought of what they produce that I find most attractive. Which leads me to another thought: I know one Lesbian couple (definitrly not Gold Star) and several hetero ones who conceived by artificial insemination (not IVF), the turkey baster thing. It puzzles me why they didn't just have sex with the intended father and skip the complications. If you want to avoid any semblance of lovemaking, just do it doggy.

I have. My wife and I are best friends with two couples that my ex-wife and I used to swing with almost 20 years ago, and I recently reunited with the first couple my ex and I ever swung with. My wife and I are currently playing with the husband of a couple my ex and I used to swing with, however we do not swing with any of the forementioned couples. We've decided to keep those relationships vanilla for the time being, and they're okay with that, also.

Since we are looking for friends first and the benefits then follow, once the benefits taper off, we still have the friendship. Some couples, that we found were not a match for whatever reason, we don't stay in touch with (we'll answer if they reach out to us, but that doesn't happen often). Our 'principle' couple (the one we dated for years) has moved away, but we still email and talk even though getting together is a rarity any longer. I still need to break down and start the search for our next 'naughty best friends'...

That is a sight to behold. My wife and other wives in the group can have an extraordinary play session, deplete a man, then start right again with another man, sometimes her husband. He can be working away, she holds a short casual conversation with someone, then gets into it like what just happened hadn't. It indeed demonstrates a woman's sexual power. In the alternative, she could take on a second man to bring her to climax.

Yes went well tbh I had a raging hard on which my wife then decided to get off and ride me while taking his cock in her mouth again which was damn hot no repeat that night after everything was ok though my wife has asked when we should head around again as she did enjoy getting fucked hard and dirty by him i asked if they mentioned condoms at all he said do they need one for it which she said no let’s fuck bareback which he was also then happy about theres been no weirdness at all so all good

Yes we did right there it caused me to have a raging hard on and she got off his cock sat on mine then sucked his cock abit more can honestly say the most intense and amazing thing we have done

Proving once again that even married people can have sex with others and it is perfectly normal and natural. Did you and your wife have sex afterwards? How was it?

Things did go all the way really, my friend was a little nervous I think as he didn’t know what to make of it but he was damn up for it he went inside get a drink and my wife said shall I follow I said go for it so off she went, I left it like 10 mins and I then nipped in the house to be greeted with her reverse cow girl him on the sofa, both of them naked soaking wet still and my wife loving the fact of saying your best mate is in me bareback he still had a nervous look abit but he was in is element after was ok no real weirdness mall said was up for it again for sure :-)

So many posts say don’t do it with a friend and there are a number that started with friends. I don’t see many negatives from the friend hook ups and I can see who is the the better choice, the friend who you already have so much in common. As long as everyone knows it’s just sex, sex is fun. I wish I realized that fun sex is great when I was younger. We look back at our lives and all the missed opportunities. Our first swing was with strangers who I owe so much to, they made it so easy. I told a friend who wanted us to be her first and because of the negativity I read on all those posts stopped us. We suggested our first couple to get them over the hump, pun intended. Now we are part of a group and we are all friends.

Sounds like you had a fun night, I would also be interested in knowing how it went I think its pretty cool that you crossed this barrier with a friend, for me I think being able to see the same people regularly and therefore being able to go bareback is the ideal

We used to be put off by this, but it doesn't really bother us anymore. One of our favorite "couples" is a committed LS couple where the woman is married to someone else (also in the LS, though they rarely swing together) and a committed male who is essentially her full time boyfriend that she hangs with regularly and also swings with.

To concentrate on and thoroughly enjoy each man. Orgasm twice my favorite way. Have both men ejaculate in my vagina, the way I like it. Because you know that you love it. Or at least will put up with it to get in my cunt. It feels good, much like just having my bum hole fingered while fucking. Anal alone doesn't do it for me, but I'll submit if I've already been satisfied.

Knowing my wife and her thoughts we will probably all naked with me and my friend have our cocks sucked and getting rode hard

This quote right here from one of my favourite contributors to this forum that unfortunately told me they were leaving a while back when a troll was running rampant here for too long nails it for me! It is super sexy watching her passionately working over a cock with her beautiful mouth and it is easier to appreciate the visual when it is being done to someone else.

In most situations these things burn hot and fast, then flame out. Sometimes they don't. In our group, feelings have developed between sex partners not married to one another; we're all good with it. Affection is spoken and given out in the open. Why is this such an issue among otherwise open minded people in the lifestyle? Why is it ok that some guy is playing with your bride's tits while she is fucking multiple men in multiple orifices, getting great orgasms and giving orgasms with other men's cum in her pussy, ass and mouth but, but if they care for one another it is a step too far? My wife is particularly in love with one guy, and his wife. So? My wife doesn't love me any less, she loves me more. I'm flattered that he finds the same great qualities in her that I did. Yet she chooses to live with and have a family with me. If anything were to happen to me, I've bought her financial insurance, she has a career, plus she has emotional insurance: a couple she loves and that loves her. For my part, I have a special partner among our group. We have an attachment beyond sex, although not as wide and deep as my wife does with her special couple.

My wife is very, very skilled orally and to some extent has 'ruined' blowjobs for me as I've been spoiled and it's quite difficult for others to bring me to climax orally--only a few in the lifestyle have. Watching her perform is a sight to behold--it's extremely erotic seeing her fixated on the task, enjoying the process and looking watching the face of her partner as she's sucking out his soul. It's also very hot to see how another man responds to your treatment, losing their cool, speaking in choppier sentences, almost overwhelmed. Watching videos of my wife sucking other men is probably my most frequented porn.

Agree with all the above. Additional thing; we have a line in our profile about the need to tell us you read that line when messaging us. If we haven't contacted them, they've cold-contacted us, and they don't mention that line? Instant delete/ignore. They didn't read our profile and aren't really interested in who and what we're about, which is a bad recipe for bedroom pleasure. Some understanding of their role, either in their profile or in their initial messaging, is useful. Additional men are in many ways a sex toy. That's not to denigrate them; they are more than that, but it is important for them to understand their role.

I so very much love to watch the Mrs. suck and swallow another man. she has been told that she has a very special touch, at first she was not into it but now loves it, and goes after it like a hungry kitten after cream. It is so very hot and I love her so much more for sharing this with me. We have a rule that the man always has to kiss her deeply after.

It was very hot watching my partners suck a man to completion. Kim was my favorite to watch she encouraged guys to fuck her mouth. Then hold her tight as they shot in her mouth. For me watching the guys wife holding his cock as my partner sucked was incredible.

I don't seek out coworkers for sexual relationships, but I have slept with one specific coworker that I had an incredible amount of sexual tension with on more than a few occasions. On a sexual level we are like kismet, fated to fuck. I travel frequently for work and when I travel with him, we do not sleep alone. We also don't sleep.

Well , I just had to write. Our kids are all over 21, 2 still live at home because of school, one night they were all out and weren't supposed to be home, we went to dinner with a couple, had a great time and came back to our house. We would give them a lift home later after play time. Well, we were all very horney, went upstairs took showers, all 4 of us together, went into our bedroom, and began our sex fun, I am in a 69 with the other woman and have already cum several times, we have the boys cocks in our hands, just a pile of sweaty horney people, when I hear a noise and realize someone iis home. One of our kids decided to invite his friends back fro a movie and some beer, i can hear a bunch of kids downstairs. He calls up and says he is home, not sure how long, There is only one way out and that is down through the living room. We start to laugh but don't know what to do. We figured we are trapped, so we actually finish off the guys, rub a few more orgasms out of us and get dressed. I slowly open the door and don't hear anything, it seems they decided to go out back and have a fire in the fire pit, we all run down the stairs, out into the car and drive off. My hubby and I get home after dropping our friends off and pull up to the house and go in and run into my son with a confused look on his face. We said we felt like running out for a drink! That was the end of it, phewwww

We gave a small party last month that was centered around trying a Sybian. This was our first swing party. There were two other couples and the guy who owned the Sybian there. He demo'd the Sybian and we went downstairs to watch a DVD of the Sybian in use. Things dragged along for about three hours while we sat in the living room watching the DVD, snacking, and talking. Finally, we went upstairs again to see the Sybian. The three women kept declining to try the Sybian. Finally one guy said, "The last woman to undress uses the Sybian first." Suddenly, women's clothes were flying everywhere. Then, my partner said, "We are not doing anything while there is still guys with clothes on. Men's clothes were then flying everywhere. Very soon, feeling and touching of breasts and dicks started, one of the woman tried the Sybian, a guy and a gal were sucking her nipples, and the party was on. We now realize that the critical thing is to get everyone nude, and then nature takes over.

Last house party we went to, I stacked the deck - set something up with a fuckbuddy. So, after a period of socializing, I said to him, "Let's fuck!" We went into one of the bedrooms, and by the time we came out, the swinging was in full swing, so to speak. Usually just takes one person to make that first move, and everyone goes for it.

We have a stip poker game called "Naked" each card has an article of clothing on it, so if you have the winning hand you give one of your wining cards to each player, this specifies what comes off. After clothing is gone, favors work well I also recently bought a book of party games, they go from mild to wild. Havent had a chance to use it yet but they are all set up for foursomes or moresomes. I think how you start out and with what depends on the people you are with, the boudries which are in place and the comfort levels already developed. And as someone else said, Sex doesnt have the be the end result everytime. Fun can be had in many different ways and there is always another night for additional fun if all has gone well.

We played strip poker. After somebody lost all their clothes, then they have to perform acts. This eases everybody into the mood and provides a bit of suspense. When we played with my wife's old college roommate and her boyfriend, we were pleasantly surprised when we found her college roommate didn't wear any underwear.

Hot tubs seem to be the 'let's start' button! And a great way to start too! Once one person starts to strip to get to the hot tub, the rest just follow along. Once in the tub the fun just starts. If it takes some time to start you can sit up on the edge (too hot in the tub) and your SO can simply rub your leg, or something equally innocent. OR... if you are lucky the opposite partner will do the rubbing! Have a great time! Sarah

Hot tubs are a good intro, especially if everyone gets naked first, and we love it as an intro. But if you are a couple like us who does not own one, my experence is it is always awakard at first, but after some small talk, a couple things we do, is one my wife will say well shall we go in the bed room, and we all usually go there and things get going, or I will mention how it is always awakard the first time couples meet, followed by a "1, 2, 3 go, and start taking off my clothes, and others will follow. Face it we all know going into the meeting we are there to play, once the clothes come off, all is good, things happen naturally. One other thing we do alot is the wife is dressed in a sheer night gown with a light silk robe over it, so it is easy for me to slip off her robe as we are all talking and things just progress from there. It is amazing how nudity or simi nudity moves the party along to the next level. Good luck, and enjoy, once you are all naked or start stripping the rest will fall into place. The good thing about couples who are comfortable with each other, is sometimes it is almost a race to see who gets naked first.

We host couples at our house from time to time and have a hot tub for just this reason. We find that if a couple is comfortable enough to go into our hot tub with us then we're fairly certain they are ready for more. The hot tub is secluded so we offer the option of wearing suits or not. If the couple is really hot we just come walking out of the bathroom naked and ask what they are waiting for. facelick

We've done the wild thing with friends while the kids were home but they were in diapers and asleep. They were so young that even if they'd woken up and gotten out of tghe crib, they wouldn't have known what was going on. The kids are 9 and 7 now so no we would not run the risk of getting caught by them. We don't feel there is anything shameful about what we do, but as responsible parents, you never want your kids to see any of this even if it's just you and your spouse. However, if the kids were asleep and friends were in the jacuzzi with us we might do some playing under the water.

Mrs. Alura needs no guidance. I used to hold her hair out of the way so I could see what she was doing but it's short now so I don't need to do that. I touch her shoulders or breasts depending on the position but usually I just watch her. She's gorgeous with her smile wrapped around my cock and that wonderful twinkle in her eyes.

My hubby gives me a backrub while he gets his blowjob. The better job I do, the better job he does. And the better job he does, the better job I do. It's a win win situation all around.

There is a guy at work whom several people know him and his wife swing. (Many guys wished they did also when they met his wife ). Although I don't believe they know about us I've often thought if swinging would be something to explore with them. Some of the challenges have certainly been weighed and so far we haven't gone any further with the idea. Thanks for the great information.

We have had a similar experience to that described above by Wildflower. In fact we met two couples, one via an ad and one at a swing club, where it turned out that the woman worked at the same government department as Brian. We developed a good friendship and swinging relationship with both couples which lasted many years until they moved away from our area. From time to time Brian and one of the women attended the same conferences and it was accepted by Jo and the other woman's husband that while we would book two rooms only one bed would be slept in!

We have and it has turned out fine and still continues to be okay. But we didn't contact the other couple through work. We met through a swing site and so happened after chatting that we found out that my hubby and his wife worked at same place. We thought it through before proceeding any further with a relationship and everyone was fine with the situation and we have continued from there. Glad we did they are an awesome couple and we think the world of them. My hubby and her act the same as before us all getting together, so no one at works would be suspicious or start gossip and the such. I just feel really lucky because in most cases this sort of situation goes sour.