My above post is interesting not because it is rare or unusual, but because I gave the thinking and motivations behind who I was, am, and what I did.
A married man involved with a single woman lover is very much a cliché, it is found everywhere, across most cultures. What I was trying to dispel was the notion that we such women, or at least I, are desperately looking to pry a married man away from his wife. During that time, I wasn’t looking for a husband or long-term partner at all. I was happy and content to a large degree being an intimate third in a marriage.
What I like about our current arrangement is that I still have intimate relationships with married men, including my husband, and including but beyond sex, but it also includes intimate relationships with their wives, including but beyond sex as well. Now I not only still have the dynamic of having relationships with married men and their knowing wives, but I also now explore the dynamic of my husband being in very intimate relationships, one in particular, with other women. I’m glad that my husband and I were monogamous for a while after we got married. I played that role and know what it is like, and am glad my life didn’t go down that route.
If you want to meet a woman like me, I’m sure you know one of your friends or coworkers who has a piece on the side. Get him to introduce you to her. Get to know and understand her.