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I completed a long a I dare say scathing response to this. Then the internet crashed and I lost it. So, I'll summarize. 1. The fact that your psychologist is FAMOUS means nothing. Get over it. It says nothing about his ability or his advise. Telling us that only serves you in putting him on a pedestal where you can belittle the "un-famous' advice you receive here. 2. There are many swingers that see sharing there partner as the ultimate form of intimacy. A gift if you will. IN fact, many would say that their relationship benefits from the sharing. 3. Exclusive is a control thing, not a giving thing, especially if it is one way. IE you are telling your wife she must remain exclusive or ...... It is simply an agreement, but that doesn't mean that when couple decide not to be exclusive they can't build intimacy or connection is a special way. 4. As I sit here in my 44th year of bliss with my high school sweetheart, I can tell you that our intimacy and connection is as strong as ever. Swinging is just another part to our adventurous and committed relationship. Now your psychologist may know you better than I. He may know that you are not open to, prepared for or interested in sharing your wife, but to draw broad generalizations is just wrong. What I'd want in a psychologist is an open minded individual (famous or not) that would help you explore your feelings around her request, help you to articulate them without judgement and help you and your wife explore, together, without judgement or wrath why she might want to swing and how that might work or not work for you both.

I agree, but not for the reason that you may think. If a man pushes it too far with multiple women, he can not get erect and is depleted of cum for his wife/partner for a final, reclaiming round. A woman never has a problem going one more time.

I’ve read every word in both of your posts as well as all of the replies. All of your questions — and the answers you’ve received — matter *only* if you’re considering swinging with your wife … which it sounds like you’re NOT! And since (you say) you’ve already told your wife “no”, that should be the end of it.

We entered into ENM after twenty years of monogamy. We talked about our sex life (experiences previous to marriage, where we would like to go,) for three years before we finally decided to get into sex with other couples (and eventually, singles.) By the time we got around to it, we'd considered everything. As a result, we had a smooth and pleasurable introduction to the Lifestyle, and neither of us was surprised, disappointed or concerned with what we were doing. Specifically, we decided that we'd both been active with others before our marriage, so the idea of being non-exclusive wasn't a big deal to us. Our marriage remained strong all through our Lifestyle journey (nearly twenty years,) and we had no physical or mental problems. We made a decision to use condoms for all penis in vagina activity; we felt the risk of catching something from oral was low enough to be acceptable to us. We never caught anything. I believe that non-monogamy is not risky to a committed couple as long as they have talked it through and have good communications skills. When something goes awry, the couple must talk it out and agree to go with the most cautious viewpoint. It worked for us.

There is no shortage of very hot single males to play with in Vegas. If you are only going to tease, a male strip club is good, but if you want it to go further, use SLS, post a hot date and you can have your pick. We usually ask 5-6 guys to meet us in the hotel bar. Sabrina will have a few drinks, talk to all of them, then pick who she wants to play with. One time, she took all of them to our room. 😈

The problem with the term "slut" is that it is subjective and only seems to apply to women. See, a "slut" is usually a woman having more sex than someone else approves of, which also happens to be more sex then they are having themselves. So no, a woman is allowed to have as much sex with as many partners as she pleases and anyone who has a problem with it can f*ck-off.

Sadly Club Relate and Lynda Gayle are gone now. She was so good at introducing newbies to the lifestyle both with an interview and question sesion in the afternoon before a dinner with several of the evenings regular attendees. Lynda always had at least one massage table reserved at the evening party when she would give each newbie a genital massage with the help of other members on other body parts, fun was had by all. I remember that after I came she got a warm damp wash cloth to clean me up, warm so I would keep my erection for the play area. Wu got introduced to the Eroscillator which one of the regulars had brought, he showed Wu how to use the different heads to get herself off. Another later time Wu was helping with massage and one of the larger cocked guys who had just finished fucking someone came to help too reaching around her dribbling more cum down her backside, perhaps trying to get her attention? Great times for all at the massage tables!

I am a bit confused. The psychologist in your first round was a woman. In this round it is a man. I am to assume that you are being advised by two psychologists then? For what it is worth married happily for 40 playing for about 10, no difficulties related in any way to the LS. You seem deeply unsure about several things. It does not sound to me like this is a path you should follow at this point. If you did not consent, then I might suggest that neither is your wife. She should have known better than to drag you along. If you had pushed her against her readiness I would tell her the same thing. Either way it is playing with fire.

Short answer: Very! A professional masseuse wants to protect his/her reputation, and screwing clients and getting found out would sink them.

When I was much younger I was intimidated by women who had a strong, uninhibited sex drive but no more. Women should be free to love and embrace sex as openly and freely as men do. No such thing as "too slutty" in a lifestyle that embraces sexual positivity and adventure!