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At the beginning of the lifestyle we were slow and only had been with two couples the first couple we only had one experience and with the second couple we sticked on and had 3-4 experiences that year with them.

I wanted to finish 2nd also as I enjoyed her playing with my cock teasing me keeping me on the edge while she was enjoying and cumming over his bare cock

Bareback the only way, just as it’s intended dirty, raw unprotected sex is how it needs to be. Hot as hell

This was our first year with plenty of fun. We enjoyed a few group parties, camping trips and one on ones. Linda had more partners because women can go more times without refraction.

So many the first couple years we lost count (not that we were really counting anyway). After kids we slowed down, but the 4 years in the LS prior to kids were absolutely full of clubs, parties, lifestyle resorts.... the whole shebang. If i could relive any 4 years of my life lol

Wow, looking back at pictures and certs to try and reconstruct, it seems we were pretty slutty year one. Around 35 different partners between the two of us... Not really sure the number of experiences.

The ability to kiss is one of the reasons I prefer missionary over doggy. And although you can kiss during cowgirl, it's somehow not the same. (If I'm going to bend over during cowgirl, it's usually so he can put his mouth on my tits.)

Because you can’t unsee your spouse enjoying another man more than she does you. To her he will be new an exciting and you will see that. If you’re not ready, it can instantly destroy your marriage. You said you’re 25% on board and 75% not sure…………..you need to Run like hell! Would you gamble your wife on an any other wager that you have a 75% chance of losing her. If you can honestly say that you would be able to watch another man take care of your wife while you’re unable to get it up, you might be ok……this can and does happen. Most guys dream best case scenario and never imagine what can happen if it goes down wrong. This isn’t for everyone. Tread lightly

First, I’ve NEVER felt diminished as a man to see my wife getting intense sexual pleasure from another man because I love her so much that I want her to have that. (Besides, when she’s doing that, I’m busy getting my own pleasure from another woman! 😉) In fact, I just recently suggested that we try a 3some with another male because I want her to experience what it is to have two men there to give her pleasure and for her to give pleasure to. Does that make me less of a man? I know that when it’s all over, she’s going home WITH ME! Second, if your wife gets sexual pleasure from another man, what is there to protect her from? You need to protect her from being choked during rough sex … or having another man try to force her to have anal sex against her will … or having her new partner try to fuck her without a condom … or … Do you get the picture? But as long as she’s in her comfort zone and enjoying herself, there’s no need to protect her from anything. Just be there IN CASE she needs you and if she doesn’t, then you should both enjoy the partner that you’re with. Finally, you just gave the best reason you could have given for NOT swinging right now … that things aren’t “rock solid” between the two of you. There’s a well-known principle in The Lifestyle that it magnifies whatever the state of your relationship is. If it’s strong, swinging will make it even stronger because you’re both giving something hot and exciting to each other without any regrets. If it’s weak, swinging will make it weaker because jealousy and anger will creep in, adding to the problems you already have. If your relationship isn’t where it should be, it’s less likely that your wife see you as not a real man who should protect her than that she’ll see you as someone who really enjoys fucking other women. So yes, this sounds like a bad idea right now … but not for the reasons you think it is.

If you haven’t fantasized about watching your wife having better sex than you can give her……..RUN

Where to begin? So let me get this straight, swinging was your idea and you had sex with a better endowed man than your husband for his first time? You had a great time, essentially cuckolding your husband, not even considering yourself with whether he was ok…..If swinging was your idea, YOU should have made sure HE was the most important person and he was having a great time. What you did was selfish! You essentially fucked another man in front of your husband and showed him how good it was. You should have known he was having trouble if you looked his way??? Sorry to be so blunt …..but really, if it’s your idea you should have focused 100% on him…..that is if you ever want it to happen again.

Wife86, I'm sorry the night turned out so poorly. There are potential explanations for your husband's reaction, but it's hard to know what's going on without being able to speak with him. You're facing the same hurdle of course. Wild guesses; your husband didn't expect you to have as good of a time as you did. He might feel like he's lost something with you, and doesn't feel like he can ever please you again the way you were. There might be some deep seated jealousy exposed within himself that even he didn't know about beforehand. It might be that now that he's seen you having sex with someone else, he can't unsee it..and it keeps flashing back in his mind, like a small form of PTSD. I would strongly consider counseling to help work through this. He might not want to go, but at least have him go with you. This has to be talked out. It might take time, even a lot of time, but patience is key. For some people, swinging is just something that can not work. That's ok. It doesn't make him broken, or somehow less. Get back to being just the two of you, and stay with that. That doesn't mean we don't welcome you here to talk with us! Please do. If you have questions, we'll try our best to answer and help you through.

It is odd kissing has never presented itself as an issue for anyone. One time though my wife and her playmate returned from a shower to find Mrs playmate cuddled up and asleep on my chest. That did get a negative response. She jumped up like a scalded cat and he looked shocked and upset. It is a pity . I rather like it when the lady relaxes enough to drift off after.