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We too took a Covid break. We have since been with a few friends , but will be returning to the Hotel Party seen for New Years. It is amazing how much "others" have aged in those years.

I agree, a very lucky man indeed hunguyet, GoldCoCouple is right. When you spring this on him, I think it's important to make him comfortable with this, and let him know it really is ok, and that you are very happy he's getting to do this. To be sure to make it clear what the boundaries are, if any. Also, condoms? Be clear. There's the surprise, but also support that needs to be voiced. Some guys could be very taken aback by this, and not sure how to react. Also, if alcohol is to be consumed, make sure he goes light with it before hand. Some men (me included) have first time jitters and mr. happy doesn't quite respond the way we'd like to think he would. Alcohol doesn't help. Please let us know how it goes

Counterintuitive we played during the pandemic and are playing less now. During the pandemic we had time to search for the right match, we played primarily one on one and we were able to stay healthy. We have always been up to date on vaccinations and met some great people, Alan I made some terrific friends. More recently we limited those we met, happy to share times a very select few as we returned to a more regular work schedule. Ironically we went on a vacation to Europe, fully vaccinated, along with a younger friend who we felt needed to get away, and we all got Covid. This wasn’t a LS vacation, Covid just happened.

We were only dating the one couple and they choose to slow things down during covid. They then moved about two years ago, and we have been thinking about starting back up more recently now that we rarely get to see them due to the distance involved. Getting started again, however, has just been difficult, knowing how hard it can be to find a four way match.

No, this is not an uncommon thing to have happen. Every couple should have rules and limits that are mutually agreed upon before continuing (and that should NEVER be violated although they will probably adapt and change as time goes on). As bbarnsworth pointed out, and it is one of our few remaining rules, is that we move at the pace set by the slowest member...no pressure and nothing but understanding. Another rule we have is that if either of us wants to pause or stop, we both will stop with no explanation necessary. Our relationship will always be more important than something we are doing (together) for fun. Your wife needs to know that you will 100% always support her with whatever SHE decides to do. She needs to be able to trust you completely, and that you will not judge her on that trust. This includes sexual fantasies as well. As it says in our signature below, "If you don’t have to lie about sex, you don’t have to lie about anything. - John Williamson"...this is SO VERY true but still one of the hardest obstacles to overcome - knowing, trusting, letting every guard down with your partner and having them stand by you, without judgement or repercussions, no matter what. Yes, you two need to talk...but start out with whatever she would like to do is fine with you. If she says that she wants to keep this a one time thing, then let her know that you support her choice and leave it at that. She very well may come back later and change her mind once she sees that you are letting her have the lead in this. Good luck and let us know how things are going.

Expanding the thought, it satisfies my bisexual nature in a different way to take a penis, which has just ejaculated in a vagina and dripping of cum and her juices, into my mouth. If he finished in her mouth, I enjoy kissing her and snowballing. In her bum, forget it.

We are on a break now due to a few reasons. Some mistakes made. We talk about comebacks but for now we just talk.

I'm not seeing any glaring red flags here telling you it should be a thing for memories only. It sounds like you have the kind of relationship that can work well with swinging. It is a concern that she won't readily discuss sexual topics, but I don't know that it's a show stopper. Things don't have to be verbalized in that respect with the one exception that both of you must be on the same page about rules/behavior boundaries. There's an old saying around here, which I think you're following by default; move at the pace of the slowest. This is a very, very new mode to be in; ethical non-monogamy. It may take time for your wife to work through things logically and emotionally. I'd recommend focusing on discussing how this new adventure works with your relationship, how it makes both of you feel, what it might look like moving forward, and less about specific sexual aspects. Welcome to the forum :) We're a helpful bunch, and will gladly answer any questions you might have as best we can. For my wife and I, there's no way we would have gotten into swinging without this forum, now going on 15 years ago.

We're in a closed group of seven couples and like to mix it up.

That's what I like about the lifestyle and our group in particular, always something new to explore.

You should talk to him before this happens, but, if you don't, you need to make sure to let him know what the limits are while it is happening. If you are okay with him fucking her, then as things are getting started, tell him it is okay for him to fuck her...just this one time. He needs to know that this is okay this time, but not to assume that he can fuck her whenever he wants in the future...maybe only when you are there as well. You don't want any mixed or incorrect signals or understandings. He is a VERY lucky guy. We continue to await our invite in the mail...

I'm not good at describing stuff in writing I am very animated and do better when I can talk and wave my arms around It is basically instead of just being on your hands and knees you want to slid your knees out to the side a little, this lowers your back side and makes it easier to enter. You also still have good support, then you can either stay on your elbows or I like to just hug a pillow It's mostly the knees that make the difference. When you spread them out to the side you can adjust your height for the male. I hope this helps.