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I'm in a contemplative mood this morning, and this made me think. First, if I were young again and knew what I know now, I would only seek partners to be in the lifestyle. Three reasons that I didn't understand when I was twenty - I'm not a one man woman; it makes me happy knowing that the loves of my life are enjoying sexual and/or romantic relationships with others; I have a strong Lesbian side. I could live in a closed poly relationship or an open one, or a mix as I do now. Just not a monogamous, strictly hetero one. In particular, I would not want to be a mother without being in a committed Lesbian, co-parenting relationship. I/we got into our current, wonderful poly family situation the opposite way. Basically, I met the man who would become my husband while still fucking (and admittedly in love with) my ex-fiancé. He said that is fine with it, and asked me to marry him. I believe that this is the ultimate future of relationships, since humans are inherently non-monogamous. We will start our sex lives with no expectations of exclusivity, meet, date, and eventually pair up and marry, but not generally become monogamous. Spouses will take pleasure in each others outside play. The problem now is that religion and society create such demons in us that must first be overcome.

Wow, I don’t know if the op is still around or reading this but if you are please don't blame yourself for what happened. You didn't do a thing wrong and believe you me I know about past trauma because I've been there. We recently had a hiccup in our swinging world but leaving my wife wouldn't even cross my mind. For what its worth your husband as thrown away something that he will probably will never find again. You did everything right, you supported him, you reassured him and you never gave up on him. It doesn't matter what happened in his past because you cant let the past rule your whole life. My past was totally horrific but I have the best wife in the world and love our life together and swinging just enhances it. I think its time to draw a line under it all and move on. Go out, enjoy yourself and you will meet someone else. I think over time your husband will really regret leaving you over such a trivial thing but he will have to deal with that. Also this thread is a warning to others not to jump head first into swinging! When we started we talked and talked before doing anything. We made ground rules and our first ever meet was very tame. We arranged to meet a guy for a bj meet. We decided that if I couldn't handle watching my wife give a bj then swinging wasn't for us. Obviously I enjoyed it immensely and then we took small steps, meeting different people and going a little further each time. So our swinging life evolved and still is. Good luck to the op and I would love to read how you go in the future so please leave the odd update.

It wasn't a concern for either of us, but when we first started having sex we quickly found that we both liked talking and hearing about our past romantic and strictly sexual partners, but only the good ones. The better the better. It turns us on. Also a turn-on for me is hearing about the guys and the times when we first started dating, then having sex, but were still seeing other people (and having sex). It wasn't cheating because there wasn't an expectation of exclusivity. Actually, the weird time in our marriage was the period when we were monogamous.

Question for the guys: Do you prefer FMF or MFM threesomes? It depends whether my wife is involved in the threesome. Similar to what my wife posted in another thread. Those were in the days when Daniela had relationships with married men whose wives didn't know.

I'm not bi, but I've had two gay experiences at my wife's and the other wives' insistence. The wives thought it was very interesting, but none of us men really enjoyed it, although we did cum. That was it, not to be repeated.

I think men can multitask just as good as any woman, it's the situation not the gender. I was a single father of 3 and I would put my multitasking against any woman because it's what you had to get done. I have been many times in a MFM situation where the woman would rather take the men one after another instead of both at the same time because they can't " concentrate ". How many men have been in 69 and the woman stops sucking while the man keeps eating and the woman responds that they couldn't " concentrate ". I attribute it to the man's senses, visual the pussy and butthole is right in his face, taste is a tongue away and smell the nose is right in it. I don't think women multitask better than men, it's the situation you are in to get things done.

I was once with an FWB, fucking her doggie (a position in which she was able to reach orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation) when her phone rang. For reasons that to this day — many years later — I fail to understand, she picked the handset off her nightstand and answered the call. I could only hear her side of the conversation, but over the course of several minutes, as I continued to thrust while stifling my own vocalizations, her end of the conversation became less and less coherent. She did soon end the conversation and moments after hanging up experienced what sounded to me like a substantial orgasm.

Since we've played with Joe and Shannon, my number of different men is up - to six. My number with women is a higher, but I don't think that counts. It is a rare day however, that I don't have regular hetero sex twice and am involved in some pussy licking.

Petra, I’m sure I posted this in some thread or another on this board, but near the conclusion of a party perhaps a decade ago, after about half the guests had departed and I was lounging nude on a bed, four women approached and began working on me. I suggested the two who were playing with my nipples stop because it wasn’t doing much for me, so from then on they just watched. The other two who were sucking my cock orally continued their pleasurable ministrations until I ejaculated in the mouth of one of them, who then ostentatiously snowballed the other. So, does this count as a four-women-on-one-man gangbang? I dunno? My sense was that the women were doing me for their own amusement; I just happened to have the good fortune to be an available male body.

Never thought of it that way, all I know is that I want right in her pussy after the first guy has cum. My mind tells me to fuck her as hard and fast as I possibly can. It's funny but the first guy will do her doggy style and me going second will roll her over and fuck her hard missionary .

Hello There, I did hesitate before I write to you but I'm the male half of couple and one day I was in the same situation as your husband and I did react somehow just like him!!! Let me explain to you how I felt maybe you will understand how to deal with situation. We met this lovely couple and things was going very well both having fun and enjoying our time but as some did explain to you seening your Mrs having fun with someone else for the 1st time it has it's effect on some men for the first time but when I saw my wife getting the same pleasure I'm giving her ( even better) I felt threatened felt unsecured felt like OMG she can do this!!! As much as I was enjoying the company of the other guy wife which she was doing her best to keep me occupied, I didn't see all her efforts I've only seen my Mrs opening her legs for another man and I did forget all the times we did wait for this to happen and I just simply stopped and left just like your husband did! Wouldn't deny it took me time to understand but you need to make him feel your heart fully with him and will always be, you will need him to feel he is the main man in your life and no one can take over his place, make him understand that your climax happen even when you play with your self and you wouldn't need another man to make you happy cause he is the only one can do but there lots of things can make any human been climax and do not forget to give him what he love the most ( lots of wild sex the way he likes it ) during this recovery time and he should be fine after little while and I can tell you he will be the one who organise it after this time all the best🤞

You know what? This is actually good news. He has opened up something very deep inside of him, a place where very, very few have ever been. He trusts you. He trusts you very deeply or he wouldn't be telling you this. Step by step. Build on it. If this is going where I think it might be going, he's going to love you even more deeply than before this.

He decided to tell me about some things he had repressed for many years one incident in particular that completely ruined his sexual confidence in his teens and he was terrified of dating and intimacy until he met me. Had I known that I never would have suggested it but he made it clear I did nothing wrong and does not blame me he kept repeating that, he thought he had a handle on it but seeing me with that man made him feel just the same way as he did back then and just wanted to run away. That's why he went to his brother that day he just needed to do a time out and get his emotions in check and I understand that now knowing what he went through what happened to him was just cruel.

Yes, try to find a counselor who will focus on the issue and not the choices.

I’m pretty sure from a physiological perspective a vagina would mostly be affected by the total amount of time it was receiving penile thrusting and not the number of penises involved. From the psychological perspective, yeah, probably very different.

A FMF is my worst nightmare in swinging world and one of the very few things we agreed would never happen when starting our swinging journey. So make sure he's on board with it all👍