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Swingers getting together can be fun without sex. We were invited to a Friendsgiving party with friends we met originally for swinging along with people we never met before, only knowing them by association of friends. We enjoyed the idea of no sex, just laughs and conversation with like minded diverse people. There is talk about other swingers getting together in a social setting without sex being the ultimate goal. We have made many friends we originally met for sex, now making friends first before thinking about immediate sex. As you can imagine sex was talked about just not carried out.

Ha Ha are you kidding? The roads here are a nightmare. Roadworks everywhere, even a 20 mile journey can turn into a 1 hour mystery tour! He lives a good 350 miles away, with traffic etc it took us 10 hours last time we drove to their place for a party.

Interesting topic. My observation is that within the greater Lifestyle/ENM community there’s a high degree of variability. Some folks are looking for purely anonymous sex with others who are seeking the same. Their liaisons are first name only (and that might be a nom du sex). The degree of social and emotional connection among sexual partners runs the gamut, with full polyamory and even joint residences (hi Petra) at the opposite pole. I’m not sure what the distribution looks like between the ends of the curve. Perhaps it’s a normal distribution, perhaps not. Thinking about it, I’ve had my share of sex at parties with partnersnwhose first names I didn’t quite catch, and the sex was lots of fun. But mostly I tend to have some sort of emotional connection to people I fuck. And frequently they become social friends. And I have a fair number of lifestyle friends with whom I no longer have sex, whether because of geographic factors or the sex stop being worth the effort 😂. And others among my lifestyle friends with whom I’ve not had sex, and probably won’t ever. .

Is he in another country? I believe you said that you live in the UK. Nothing is that far. 🙂 Exeter to Inverness is only 600 miles, less than a 10 hour drive.

Our early swinging mistake was being far to trusting. We thought every couple was like us and just looking for fun together. How wrong were we! Negotiating the world of swinging was far more difficult! From unicorn hunting couples to couples who's marriage is literally falling apart, and not to mention the couples who need to snort a line before a meet - we've encountered them all! These days we are very experienced and can spot fakes, dreamers and down right weirdos from a mile away.

I'm in a contemplative mood this morning, and this made me think. First, if I were young again and knew what I know now, I would only seek partners to be in the lifestyle. Three reasons that I didn't understand when I was twenty - I'm not a one man woman; it makes me happy knowing that the loves of my life are enjoying sexual and/or romantic relationships with others; I have a strong Lesbian side. I could live in a closed poly relationship or an open one, or a mix as I do now. Just not a monogamous, strictly hetero one. In particular, I would not want to be a mother without being in a committed Lesbian, co-parenting relationship. I/we got into our current, wonderful poly family situation the opposite way. Basically, I met the man who would become my husband while still fucking (and admittedly in love with) my ex-fiancé. He said that is fine with it, and asked me to marry him. I believe that this is the ultimate future of relationships, since humans are inherently non-monogamous. We will start our sex lives with no expectations of exclusivity, meet, date, and eventually pair up and marry, but not generally become monogamous. Spouses will take pleasure in each others outside play. The problem now is that religion and society create such demons in us that must first be overcome.

You are correct, I do prefer my men serially rather than in parallel. Not that I can't do it or haven't done it, I just prefer it. A dick in my mouth while trying to cum is more a matter of breathing. So for me, it's not 69ing, it's MFMing. I have control of the depth during 69, but not so much when one guy is pumping my pussy and one my mouth.

To me, the interesting part of your post is Regardless of position, I can orgasm vaginally on a dick without anything directly stimulating my clit. With oral, it's the clit alone, I don't need or want penetration. And the Os are different. Like any characteristic, there is plenty of overlap between groups. You are one who has abilities above not only most men, but also most women. A single parent of three? That makes you nearly super human. In our poly family we have a ratio of 1.4 children per adult, and I struggle with that.

I think men can multitask just as good as any woman, it's the situation not the gender. I was a single father of 3 and I would put my multitasking against any woman because it's what you had to get done. I have been many times in a MFM situation where the woman would rather take the men one after another instead of both at the same time because they can't " concentrate ". How many men have been in 69 and the woman stops sucking while the man keeps eating and the woman responds that they couldn't " concentrate ". I attribute it to the man's senses, visual the pussy and butthole is right in his face, taste is a tongue away and smell the nose is right in it. I don't think women multitask better than men, it's the situation you are in to get things done.

I was once with an FWB, fucking her doggie (a position in which she was able to reach orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation) when her phone rang. For reasons that to this day — many years later — I fail to understand, she picked the handset off her nightstand and answered the call. I could only hear her side of the conversation, but over the course of several minutes, as I continued to thrust while stifling my own vocalizations, her end of the conversation became less and less coherent. She did soon end the conversation and moments after hanging up experienced what sounded to me like a substantial orgasm.

Greatly agreed! Goodness for the gander grants grace for the goose, giving both gallant gestures grounds for gratitude.

"FuckLicking" ok, I too had to make sure this is what I think it is. The optimum position is for me (bisexual M joining a couple for MMF) is for the hubby to be standing bi the bed fucking his wife doggy while I am on my back beneath her licking her pussy AND LICKING HIS COCK with as much tongue surface I can muster on as much flesh as I can reach! IMHO, LICKING your wife's pussy while you fuck her is the "Goal Post" of bisex for we bisexual males invited to beCUM your MMF 3some. THAT along with licking and sucking his pussy wetted cock to keep it hard and eager to fuck some more. Licking "fucked pussy" to enjoy its proverbial "creampie" is also quite exciting. Bi "slangdef's" definition, this includes licking the ass-cock interface. Sorry Charlie, for me at least, that's a bridge too far. While I am TOTALLY into "rimming" it's conditional on freshly showered surfaces (and I have licked my own cum from his and her ass cracks a few times butt that butt had not been fucked, merely LICKED)

Don't expect much positive response here about this. Google women's most popular sexual fantasies and using a strap-on and seeing 2 guys ranks above 2 girls (though that is on the top 10 as well) but you would NEVER know that was even on the radar if you took the pulse in the LS. You are flat out told (as we've been) that if you list as a bi curious male here you diminish your chances by a 100. Then of course you get the whole homophobic tirades about how men who suck dick are really fags in denial and not really bi curious or sexually comfortable while the women (often the man's wife making this statement) ARE of course JUST exploring. What we can't figure out is whether this is just due to the men's insecurities or if the lifestyle simply for some reason draws women who are far more averse to this then the average vanilla female out there. What is really funny, in a sad kind of way, is that at the same time, I can out about 8 couples just this month who have contacted us who are listed bi female straight male with comments about well he really DOES have an interest or have played we just don't list THAT. Unfortunately the standard - that EVERYONE seems to talk about here but few seem to live up to (with regards to this issue at least) is be honest and communicate. We've declined these couples because if they're going to lie about this, then what else are they not telling us about.

I am Bi and my husband has recently said that he's curious. We haven't went down that road yet, it's been just talk. I'm on the fence about it, but am willing to let him explore his interest in it. That being said, I don't know if he'll ever get over the psychological mountain and actually try it. He wants me to 69 him while getting fucked from behind, so he can lick my clit. I'm game for that =)

We'll do just about anything but dude-on-dude. And when I say we are full-swap, I mean FULL swap. My wife will not only fuck the other guy, she will also tell him where to park the car, what to wear, and why he is just like his mother... Now THAT'S full swap!!!!