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Swingers getting together can be fun without sex. We were invited to a Friendsgiving party with friends we met originally for swinging along with people we never met before, only knowing them by association of friends. We enjoyed the idea of no sex, just laughs and conversation with like minded diverse people. There is talk about other swingers getting together in a social setting without sex being the ultimate goal. We have made many friends we originally met for sex, now making friends first before thinking about immediate sex. As you can imagine sex was talked about just not carried out.

We met a couple on Gunnison Beach and had two play dates as couples. At the end of the 2nd play date we were asked if my wife plays alone (yes), and afterward she continued seeing them as a unicorn for several months. Additionally, she dates single men 1 on 1 and has even gone on weekends- and week-long vacations - alone with them. With my full support and blessing. So to @AdamGunn2 point, women are no longer mistresses bc of financial arrangements. Today they have the freedom and independence to do as they please. In the Lifestyle the demand for ladies FAR surpasses the demand for men, so Lifestyle wives (like mine) are being mistresses/unicorns simply because they enjoy it and they are very much desired.

The more I got to know Daniela, the woman who became my wife, the more I realized that she was inherently not a one man woman. Our mistake in the lifestyle was becoming monogamous in marriage after having started our relationship while still seeing others. I was happy with it (I had been monogamous in my prior marriage for twenty years), but I got the feeling that Daniela was not in her milieu. After I told her that I was ok, more than ok, with her having other sex partners, she was much happier. I became much happier as well, including when we agreed that I should have other partners as well.

Dear Happy - Please seriously consider Hedonism 2 in Negril Jamaica. Affectionately known as Hedo by the regulars, it is an all-inclusive, clothing optional and lifestyle friendly resort. There is a buffet for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, also three restaurants where you order off the menu, the nude grill for food during the day and pizza late at night. Almost everything is included, all food, all alcohol, water sports like snorkeling or kayaking, there is the clothing optional beach and pool where you can wear anything or nothing, and the nude beach and pool and hot tub where nudity is required. Nightly entertainment is excellent, there are organized games like bocce ball, you can sit on the beach and read, or go to the nude pool and party like a rock star. There is a playroom near the nude hot tub that is open 24/7 and a large playroom open every night. If you want to smoke some weed, there is Hedo Weed, which is just like a dispensary in the U.S. If you go to hedonism.com, you can see groups that are going during different weeks of the year and find ones that interest you.. We love the Fluffs, fluffernutters.com, but there are groups for everyone depending on what they are looking for, younger people, older people, bi-ladies, etc. Also, you can read more info and ask questions on the Facebook group, Our Favorite Jamaican Vacation Place. Most people say it is the best vacation ever, and many book their next trip before they leave. Hedo has the highest return guest rate in the world, which says something. My wife and I will be going there for the 27th time in February. Check it out. It is exactly what you are looking for.

I know that's how it sounds, but we had mentioned to them that my wife sometimes plays and dates alone, so I took it less as an insult to me and more like they were a couple who (finally) saw a chance at having 3ways with a sexy, experienced lady. I'm 100% comfortable with her playing without me, and honestly it really turns me on so as long as my wife is on board then so am I. But i think my point to my earlier ramble is this: Lifestyle wives with supportive husbands are happy with the "mistress" role because they simply enjoy dating. They enjoy being desired, being taken to nice places, being doted upon. Like any date, they are in charge of whether or not there will be sex but if there is good chemistry with their date they enjoy the sex too. In a Lifestyle situation like ours, our wives can enjoy being the 'mistress' for all the right reasons.

We try to only use photos to make it easier for us to meet the first time. Within the first 5 minutes of meeting IRL, we can almost always tell if there is any connection. Even when there isn't a connection, it's usually a good time meeting other people with like minds. Bottom line is we always try to meet rather quickly after finding another couple that we may be interested in. It saves a great deal of time instead of endless back and forth emails and texting...

Cheating is not and never has been swinging. Swinging is something that you do WITH your partner, cheating is something that you do without your partner's knowledge and without caring about their feelings.

We have swing friends that were vanilla friends first so we know how to have vanilla fun with them often. Over the years our frequency of swinging went from constant to special times meaning it was so new to us that we couldn’t wait to get the sex going and it became a big focus of our friendship. What we learned was our friendship is much more, sex doesn’t have to happen to have fun.

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We are in a closed group of married couples who get together for planned sex play. These planned events happen just about every weekend with two groups, and every month or so we all get together. The weekly subgroups usually split by location, those living nearest one another forming the groups. Interestingly, however, some couples split up to go to the group events with their favorite play partners. Couples split up as well for alone play at other times, for both sexual and social intercourse. To the point, we also get together socially on an irregular basis with couples in our group. There isn't an expectation of sex, but whether sex happens depends on how individuals feel. It doesn't have to be everyone who got together socially who ends up playing.

Interesting topic. My observation is that within the greater Lifestyle/ENM community there’s a high degree of variability. Some folks are looking for purely anonymous sex with others who are seeking the same. Their liaisons are first name only (and that might be a nom du sex). The degree of social and emotional connection among sexual partners runs the gamut, with full polyamory and even joint residences (hi Petra) at the opposite pole. I’m not sure what the distribution looks like between the ends of the curve. Perhaps it’s a normal distribution, perhaps not. Thinking about it, I’ve had my share of sex at parties with partnersnwhose first names I didn’t quite catch, and the sex was lots of fun. But mostly I tend to have some sort of emotional connection to people I fuck. And frequently they become social friends. And I have a fair number of lifestyle friends with whom I no longer have sex, whether because of geographic factors or the sex stop being worth the effort 😂. And others among my lifestyle friends with whom I’ve not had sex, and probably won’t ever. .

Ha Ha are you kidding? The roads here are a nightmare. Roadworks everywhere, even a 20 mile journey can turn into a 1 hour mystery tour! He lives a good 350 miles away, with traffic etc it took us 10 hours last time we drove to their place for a party.

We found out photos are not truthful and profiles might be fiction. We aren’t models so we wonder what others say about us, I hope they find us attractive and aren’t just looking for quick sex. Personality counts plenty and agree we may be passing by some great new friends. Any meeting has to have equal reciprocal attraction.

I think you’re an idiot if you don’t send your ex a copy of this entire thread! Then he’s an idiot for not seeing what he’s letting go. I also think you’re both idiots if you don’t fix your relationship. Everyone makes mistakes………not everyone learns from them, you clearly have. I sincerely hope you two find a way, remember it can be a long path back. Don’t give up