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We met a couple on Gunnison Beach and had two play dates as couples. At the end of the 2nd play date we were asked if my wife plays alone (yes), and afterward she continued seeing them as a unicorn for several months. Additionally, she dates single men 1 on 1 and has even gone on weekends- and week-long vacations - alone with them. With my full support and blessing. So to @AdamGunn2 point, women are no longer mistresses bc of financial arrangements. Today they have the freedom and independence to do as they please. In the Lifestyle the demand for ladies FAR surpasses the demand for men, so Lifestyle wives (like mine) are being mistresses/unicorns simply because they enjoy it and they are very much desired.

So to reply to your actual question … most men have never “met” a pussy they didn’t like! ;-D You’ll be fine …

Just a thought here - is it 'harmless fun"? Could a child be watching?

I'm not sure what the definition of "fat pussy" is. I didn't see a photo on your profile. I've seen a fair number of pussies and not sure what "fat" would be. Is there a "skinny" pussy?

I know that's how it sounds, but we had mentioned to them that my wife sometimes plays and dates alone, so I took it less as an insult to me and more like they were a couple who (finally) saw a chance at having 3ways with a sexy, experienced lady. I'm 100% comfortable with her playing without me, and honestly it really turns me on so as long as my wife is on board then so am I. But i think my point to my earlier ramble is this: Lifestyle wives with supportive husbands are happy with the "mistress" role because they simply enjoy dating. They enjoy being desired, being taken to nice places, being doted upon. Like any date, they are in charge of whether or not there will be sex but if there is good chemistry with their date they enjoy the sex too. In a Lifestyle situation like ours, our wives can enjoy being the 'mistress' for all the right reasons.

Numex, the phenomenon of the mistress has a long history. Before modern times, the rationale for the woman was one of two things: The more common was that being a mistress could reap financial benefits (kept woman.) The other was that there was a shortage of men, so in order to get sex, the single woman had to sleep with a married man. This was particularly evident during war time - see the myriad of stories and movies about women during World War II, for example. But now, things have changed. Women have rights and privileges they didn't have before the sixties, and effective birth control is available. I think that if a woman decides to become a mistress (as opposed to a third in a triad or a prostitute,) she might find the man very alluring, possibly powerful. For an example of this see The Sopranos. Or she has made a decision that marriage is not for her, at least at the moment, and she dislikes sleeping around. In that case, a married man would be very safe - he probably won't want to divorce his wife. All of this presupposes that the wife of the married man is either unaware of his philandering, or she chooses to ignore it for some reason, such as not being willing to destroy the family, or she can't divorce without economic penalties. I would suppose that the number of women willing to be mistresses in the current age in Western countries is quite low, just one or two percent of all women.

She wanted me to finish with her last so when she felt it was right to drain us she rode his cock harder and harder while wanking me off telling me everything she was loving about it, she then sat on mine and again rode hard and fast which in fairness didn’t last long haha

Two thoughts that have been on my mind. We had dinner with a vanilla married couple we know, and they are unaware that we are in the lifestyle. My wife Daniela and Samantha have been friend for some time. One thing that they share is that earlier in their lives, they were adulteresses with married men. Daniela with a number, Samantha with two, but with one of whom she had a baby at the age of twenty-four. She had a second child at the age of 36 with her now husband. We husbands both remarked that there is a type of woman that does this, a culture of being the other woman. The way they view these men, treat the wives respectfully, the way they see themselves. Any comments? My only rule when we decided that monogamy was not for Daniela was/is no married men unless the wife knows and agrees, which Daniela now likes better, having the wife involved.

The differences are not only attractive, they are important. How boring if all breasts, vulvas, or for that matter noses looked alike. Remember, they are interested in you, not just a small part of your body. A woman is the WHOLE pqackage!

Have you considered going to a strip club on amateur night? Your wife could exhibit herself and you could enjoy the reaction of the audience. I've only been to a strip club once long ago with Red and saw a sign for an amateur night. Unfortunately, it was before I discovered my Lesbian side.

Somehow the rest of this post, my second thought, never got posted, although I saw it there when I originally wrote this thing. Anyway, something that Daniela did early in our relationship sticks in my mind and keeps popping into my head. We have always been very open about our past romantic and sexual relationships. We both like telling and hearing stories about those encounters that we both had, the good ones. It is foreplay for us. It was perhaps our third date and our relationship was quickly becoming serious, but we hadn’t yet had sex. After dinner and a play, we went back to Daniela’s place. There was the chance, the opportunity that it would go further, but despite my desires, I didn’t pursue it. My concern was that I didn’t want Daniela to think that all my attention to her was simply to get into her pants. We kissed and parted that evening, but Daniela told me later that she was expecting and hoping for sex. I had left her unsatisfied, so she called up and went to see a male friend of hers that she had never had sex with, went to his place and fucked him all night. When Daniela told me about that during one of our storytimes, shortly before we got married, it bothered me a little, but turns me on a lot. Bothers me that it should have been me fucking my future wife instead of some undeserving guy, but turns me on because she needed it so bad because of me and gave him vigorous sex on my behalf. I love having a wife that loves sex, is full of life, and goes after it. Any thoughts?

Thanks, we're still a little new/nervous about going to a club. Not quite there yet. Having someone willing to only watch sounds pretty amazing, but there's also something thrilling about the anonymity of doing it from our hotel room. It feels safe to us, like we're doing something wild without the consequences. I don't know if that's the exact way to put it, but hopefully you understand what I mean.

We have many nights with friends with no sex involved. I think too many posts on here are to show who has the most sex or craziest sex. In reality don’t we all have friends we want to have fun with outside of sex.

We know a man who enjoys watching us. You can try finding someone like that who only wants to watch or go to a club like the Green Door.

Once during the course of a long FWB relationship the woman visited me one afternoon in my upper story hotel room. We didn’t fuck, but I was nude and she was stripped to her waist. (She had great boobs, large and pretty firm; fucked them more than once, but not that afternoon. She gave me a long and wonderful blowjob, leaving me stunned when I finally came. It was only then that we noticed there was a roof on another part of the hotel that was one story lower. And a half-dozen working, who had put down their tools to watch. I was too post-orgasmically zonked to do anything, but my friend got off the bed, turned her gorgeous boobs toward them and made an ostentatious bow before drawing the curtains.

Anything is possible, but it's generally done at an hour where children are not awake.

You need to go to a nude beach, after you see all the different shapes and sizes and scars, you will leave feeling much better about yourself!

Do what a lot of couples do on their first visit to a club … agree that if you play, it will be only with each other. Just use this time to soak in the sexy vibe and maybe meet a few people whom you can “file away” for another time. You’ll likely find that people are much more accepting of you than you think they’ll be AND you also won’t have to deal with the jealousy of seeing your husband with someone else. WIN-WIN!

Peoples vision of their own body is quite often harsher than necessary.

Desire Pearl is the most deluxe, followed by Desire RM, then Hedo 2. Unfortunately , drug cartel crime makes us unlikely to go to the Desires. We have been to all 3. Hedo is fine, though, and we are spoiled and enjoy luxury. My understanding is that North American tourists order drugs from Uber Eats (cartel 1) and Door Dash ( cartel 2) gets mad and starts shooting. Not at Desire, but at other resorts in Quintana Roo, the state in which the Mexican Desires are located. Probably nothing bad will happen, but the neighborhood has declined.

Had a call from my wife last night while she was out in a bar she told me my friend was in there who obviously we have had couple encounters with lately. She asked if I would mind if she went back to his after and have a good fuck session I agreed and said go enjoy his cock again she said it might be strange me not there but she loves that dirty sex they have. she returned and told me it was hot dirty fucking for ages and cum on his cock so much she forgot how many times it was just a shame I missed it.

I wanted to finish 2nd also as I enjoyed her playing with my cock teasing me keeping me on the edge while she was enjoying and cumming over his bare cock

Bareback the only way, just as it’s intended dirty, raw unprotected sex is how it needs to be. Hot as hell

...so it has a small amount of people and most are going to be in England. It's the same problem as starting any website for meeting/socializing. There aren't very many members and probably even less around you so why join, even if it is free. We look at swinging as a hobby we do together. Most hobbies have a high start up cost...say golf (cuz golfers are also swingers, just not the same type): need clubs, shoes, and practice...easily can cost $500 to $1000. Even at the cheapest you are talking about $250. Let me tell you, swinging is a HELL of a lot funner than golf. Joining most swingers websites are like $20 a month. Even a LIFETIME membership at SLS is less than a set of cheap golf clubs. If you aren't serious enough to spend a few dollars, then you probably bringing some sort of drama to the party.

"Totally disagree Mrs Sav; we're from the same general area as you and we stay free on Swing Lifestyle because most of the people in Alabama are fakers when it comes to committing to a meeting and executing. " I am sorry your experience here in AL has been less than successful. In all our years swinging we have never encountered problems with fakers in AL or any of the the numerous states we've lived in. I'm don't know how you can make a broad statement that "most" people in AL could be described as "Fakers " when we've met 100's of people at clubs, parties and from SwingLifestyle right here in AL ;including many that are from your area. Like everything else in life you get from it what you put into it.......a well written profile,a nice email with some depth of character, some nice photos ,a positive mindset and a willingness to seek those of like mind and mutual attraction are all it takes. I wish you success Mrs Sav

I'm up for meeting up with a couple for a threesome this weekend