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Hubby and I both wear sunglasses at the nude beach. I’d be disappointed if men weren’t checking me out as thoroughly as they wanted to. That’s a turn on for me. And in turn hubby and I both enjoy the views.

That is very true. I had swing partners before that behaved differently when in a same room with my SO, compared with when we are playing separatelym which is more unrestrained.

A non-lifestyle co-worker asked me how do you not stare when on a nude beach? She knows I sometimes go to a nude beach, she wants to go to one and doesn’t know how to act. Without telling her major details I told her we went to our first naked beach with people we just met on a cruise. Both couples were attractive fully clothed. Both claimed it was their first time. I tried not to look even though you just have to. I admit even though being straight I had to look at the women too. Told her to wear dark sunglasses. I told her if you are like me it is difficult not to look. I even find myself looking at people who aren’t attractive. I said she will see many more unattractive bodies than people who are models. Very very few perfect bodies. Where do you look? Am I the only one looking at genitalia? Male and female? I honestly don’t think about sex outright. I might look at men as sexually attractive and jealous of women with flat bellies.

Hubby and I have been married for over 20 yrs. We are in our early 40’s. Hubby travels overseas a lot with his business and kids have grown up. Since I turned 40, my sex drive has gone insane. I told hubby about it and he suggested opening up our marriage. I was very confused and a bit upset in the beginning, but now open to the idea. However, I am not comfortable being with another man by myself as I feel threatened by men for some reason. I have always been bi curious and wouldn’t mind trying with another woman, ideally who is similar age to me and similar circumstances. We are classy, educated, clean and disease free and prefer someone like me. What would be the best starting point to look for someone like that as I tried a few sites and found out that there are a lot of men who pretend to be a lady or a couple? We haven’t tried any clubs as we don’t want to be seen in public.

We are in the younger group but we have a life outside of sex. We enjoy being with friends, going out to sporting events, music events, travel, camping, hiking and life. We have plenty of sex at home that is very fulfilling while sex with others is not the primary thing in life.

Your first assumption is more plausible. The gay theory might not hold as I can see the bulge in the crotch area 🤣

Curiouscouple2001, my apologies. My reading of earlier posts suggested to me that there was no birth control at all.

Thank you everyone for the message. Adamgun, to answer your question. My wife is excited and intrigued by the potential adventure. I have the same feeling as long as things go as we want them to. After chatting with this gentlemen, we are getting a feeling he is more of a dom rather than a bull. Even though there really is no emotion through "text" persay. You can read a lot on their needs. We are going to meet him for a coffee, and we have boundaries that we will do our best to stay with in them. On the other hand, he keeps fishing . This coffee meet started as a meet and greet. He has attempted to see if a potential addition is down to a potential exploration. My wife and I agree that anything is possible depending on the compatability. I'm sure he's excited, but he must respect our intentions. We shale see how it goes and I'll report back.

The question I have that you didn't elude to is, what does your wife think of this? She's the most important person in this equation, and her feelings should be considered above all. If she has trepidations, back away, it won't be worth it. On the other hand, if she's interested, how do you feel about it? This type of relationship takes a tremendous amount of trust on the part of the husband. If both of you are up for it, I'd start with baby-steps. First night, dinner and sex, then she's home by a decent time. Next time, stretch it a little. At any time, if it's not going well for either of you, call an end to it. It could be a lot of fun, but it could also be a real challenge to the core of your marriage. Best of luck.

I wish this was fake but it's not sorry

We go to Jamaica and I suggest going to Hedosism II. A lot more open swinging going on as compared to other resorts. I am sure that if you can't find what you want on the resort, just ask a lifeguard, I found that lifeguards can get you anything!

I only stare when they are walking away from me.

Depends if the tide is in or out, if you know what I mean.

I think men have many standards of attraction to look at. I want to say a penis is way from the first thing that attracts me to look at a man. I am thinking, I’m not looking at a penis unless something else attracts me first. Clothed or not clothed men can be attractive enough to look at. On a nude beach I will look at a great body, then look up at the face. I think I check a butt before a penis. Not saying I don’t notice a penis. I will also look at a woman who is physically attractive. Breasts. A butt too. I will notice if she is shaved or not. I great looking woman is just that great looking. A good body makes me make comparisons to myself. I certainly would not say there are fewer criteria on looking at men.

It really depends. I love to look at guys and am comfortable with them looking at me although most do try to hide it. If we get to talking and it becomes clear that he or she are swingers, we will even comment about their “parts” if it comes up in conversation. I have told guys that I liked the way their cocks look or like the way they have groomed. If they are pure nudists we don’t go there.

I look at the whole package, women and men. I'm a people watcher. I'll sit for an hour on a flight layover or delay and just watch folks. I find people very interesting. I find naked people interesting and erotic. I like to see genitalia in all forms. I do try NOT to stare.

We both wear sunglasses. No one else can see where our eyes actually are.

It's hard (pun not intended) to not stare as a newby. After a while you will one day realize that you haven't been staring. That is when you can complement someone on their appearance, or their tats, or their flat stomach without sounding like a pervert. Welcome to naturism.

I never been to a nude beach. I would probably stare at the seagals.

Just like in real life when people are clothed, I tend to look at the total package. Of course I look at breasts and pubic areas of women, that's to be expected. But I also look at faces, necks, arms, torsos and legs. The biggest thing is not to stare.