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I'd go with the connecting rooms like you used to have. There's a chance things may happen again! This story reminds me of my then girlfriend and I on vacation. A very good friend of mine joined us for part of the vacation, and we all stayed in the same room. One night, my girlfriend and I were having sex with her on top. At first, she was completely under the blanket, and we were both very quiet. We thought, but weren't sure, my friend was asleep. After a while, my girlfriend sat upright on me and shirked the blanket off. The room was dark, but not completely dark. Nothing was ever said, but I'm pretty sure my friend got to enjoy the view.

Two girls that hold hands while their respective men orally pleasure them is very sexy. A lifestyle variant for sure!

I agree. Wow things certainly have changed for us/me. This is the best of both.

If nothing else this topic proves without a doubt the diversity of physical/emotional differences from one person/couple to the next. Regardless of being in the swing/ENM/Kink lifestyle. Everyone has their personal acceptances/expectations/limits and they are/will always very from one to another. For most these will change and very over time, length of time spent and experiences in their chosen lifestyle. The only real hard and fast rule and it applies equally to each individual, consent, no means no and is universal, in and out of the lifestyle. In defense of women (some men as well) in general not all are able to be direct, tend to be more submissive, are not confident or vocal for does, don’ts, stop etc. I have had many experiences with women play partners, mostly first time play where I ask about do and don’ts and not get much more than a shrug or murmured “I don’t know”. I have experience and in many cases avoided situations where the husband/boyfriend seemed quite controlling for the most part of her do and don’ts then what he would follow himself……to “just show her a great time, what ever you want”. Sex play by assumption is also not advised. I think in the end you have to judge for yourself, individually where your acceptances and what you are not. If you are with someone, or committed relationship you have to have a discussion between you both of your personal acceptances and that which is not. And do be aware that there will be situations where in the heat of the moment something happens….how this will be discussed and reconciled. It’s adult activity……requires some reasonable level of adulting…..without threats.

I don't understand this. If she was fine having the conversation with him beforehand telling him that anal was off the table then why wouldn't she say something during when he went in for it? Especially if her SO is right there. If you don't feel safe in a situation with your SO right there then are you ever going to really feel safe in a threesome?

If you don’t feel comfortable saying no, then you have no business in the swinging game!