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In short, my answer is no. I have a friend from High School that I used to be close to, then we grew apart and recently resumed a relationship with (albeit somewhat superficial). Apparently he is in the LS and has had a number of experiences with his ex-wife. He's asked me to help set him and his current GF up with some of our friends but I've resisted completely. Who you refer is a reflection on you and, despite liking him, I know he and his GF are headcases, super jealous and a bit reckless. It would probably be fine, but my wife is temperamental about the LS as is and the last thing I want is to create issues with the friends we actually still have a relationship going with.

Not sure how to explain this, but I do the best I can. This past weekend, a good friend of my parents who they swing with for years and 1 of my first swingers partners came over to my place and ask me to help me out with something. His son wants to try the lifestyle. And he asks me if I and my bff can give him his first 3some. I didn’t gave him an answer straight away, I told him I will think about it. His son is 30, recently divorce, no kids. I knew him. I used to babysat him when he was younger when his parents were at parties and that and when my family and invited his family for supper and that. I only seen him once in the last 15 years or so. Last time I saw him was on his wedding night from his ex 5 years ago. He knew his parents were swingers but never felt it was for him at that point, from what the parents told me. I don’t mind doing the favour. They helped me a lot in my early days of the lifestyle. My parents helped me when I asked them if I could try swinging and let me “play” with their friends. I know it’s somewhat embarrassing question to ask your parents and then your parents asking their friends if they want to “play” with their adult children. Same as your friend asking you to ask another friend for a “hook up”. I always consider my swingers friends as a second family and family help each others “within reason”. I am curious how often question like this get asked. Thanks for the reply

I grew up in the south where my mom’s female friends would get together and socialize weekly. These women would be wearing their best and the beer drinkers would check me out and some would go as far as gasp and then sweet talk indirectly by flattering to my mom while I was still there. Lots of her cute friends were extremely friendly and subtly flirtatious. It mostly embarrassed me at the time. One in particular looked like Marylin Monroe and in contrast we had a strong platonic bond. It was not until I reached their age that I think back and remember them as quite attractive. I then started to get more unto the wave length and then fantasize about what it would have been like at the time to be with any one of them as a first time. By the way, the film No Hard Feelings on Netflix covers a tiny bit about something that brushes on this topic, at least at first.

My marriage started as a threesome; I brought my boyfriend (ex-fiancé) along with me. The love and the sex were wonderful, but it was a challenge keeping them satisfied, but I never failed to respond positively to any hint that either one (or both together) of them wanted it. Women have it easily that way. And I never regretted having made love or letting either of my men just "use" me. It wasn't that I needed help sexually that led me to set up my husband with other women, it was the thrill of knowing, watching, participating with in him and another woman.

My GF likes Yandy because it is cheap. My GF is active in her slutwear so she prefers finding something cheap that can be destroyed rather than buying some nice at Nordstrom's and risking it getting ruined. Depends on if you're active in it and type of sex you're having I guess but she had a nice dress ruined and then decided to buy her slutwear for cheap.

Interesting topic... My wife and I met during a swinging party and were introduced to each other by a mutual friend. Basically I was told that Rose needed a man to look after her after a messy divorce and she was feeling a little sad and unhappy. After we had a few 'Dates' with just each other Rose moved in with me for weekends... Which eventually led to us getting married.

My wife found some nice things on Nordstrom’s website. We may trot over there later. We were invited to a New Year’s Eve house party. Haven’t been to one in several years. Looking forward to it. My wife has historically warmed up and “meets” most of the males and some females at house parties. At first alarmed, later amazed and in awe. P.S., we get invited back.

Well that is a good question... Probably better than my original question... I began in my early 20's and have kept dabbling in and out of the lifestyle over the years... ( I am now officially a Retiree...) Over all I met 'older' people until I was into my mid 30's and after that most people I met were of a similar age group. Year by year there seemed not to be much age difference... Then it was like a whole new younger generation came in and I found that there was a more even general spread of ages... from 20's to 60's 70's etc.

No one has regrets or says to wait. I will rephrase the question and ask what is the median age of swingers? Do men tend to be older or younger than the median? On the other end, at what age do swingers fade away, e.g., at 80?

We were both sexing around a great deal prior to marriage. We met in a group sex setting. Sort of crazy that we didn't swing from day one. I think is would have been amazing. However, we never thought about having sex with others as a couple in the beginning. I assume it was because we had so much exploring of each other to do. We did tell each other all about our exploits which fueled our nonlove making (the crazy sex portion). Still it never came up, to swing. Our sex partners range 20s to 60s as well. We are building steam as we go. As for a good age to start? For my husband it was when our fantasy play got out of hand and he realized he might need some help sexually with me. For me it was when I recognized that my fantasies were projections of what I wanted in real life that I wish I'd continued from college and the fact that I had truly found the best man for me and wanted to share every single experience with him, no matter the experience. No specific age number, more of a time in life.

My posts here discuss one or the other of two aspects of the lifestyle - the sex itself and the social/psychological. What we've started with Joe and Shannon has had more of an effect on us in our family (in a good way) in the latter realm than we expected. The sex is fun, the companionship with them is good, but not great, not as close as some vanilla friends. However... When we were all playing together at our place first time, the connection between Joe/Shannon and Red/Lora was obvious then from the start. But as David, Clair and I watched it made the three of us feel ever much closer. It was a chemical reaction. In those moments some old bonds were broken and new ones formed in their place, at least temporarily. After the weekend that Red and Lora visited them too, I could sense that things had changed in our poly family. Perhaps not changed so much as something extra was added, not only with the loving and intense sex in our family, but also in our everyday interactions. As Red and Lora described it, it wasn’t about the sex itself that they had with Joe and Shan, but the shared freedom they experienced, and knowing one another as they hadn’t before. There is new excitement among us in the family.

Yep. I keep telling him I need to go at my pace and he is being ridiculous so I'm pretty sure I'm done with it all until he can slow tf down. He tells me I need to do more research and he's done this before so if we go to the party we are suppose to have sex with other people sooooo it's not happening. Even though I clearly stated if we both felt comfortable that night we could renegotiate terms. Apparently he forgot the most important rule. No means no. He tells me we can not just go and observe because people expect it because it's why they are there. So yeah as excited as I was to take this adventure he had ruined every step I have taken to prepare myself for what I thought was going to get a really fun experience. I'm so frustrated right now because I have told him for years I would never even consider this until I went to a party to see if it's something I could really do. Thank you for validating my feelings.

We had our first swap on an innocent cruise after going to a nude beach with other couples we met on the cruise. I had no intention to do anything more, no sex was discussed, no swinging, no swapping, the nudity was only because we figured we would never see these people again. I still blame liquor, I wasn’t drunk, that allowed me to agree to sleep with another man.

Do you find it necessary to post on every post? I can quote fiction too. I do not like green eggs and ham! Would you like them here or there? I would not like them here or there. I would not like them anywhere. There is only one truth, the first three posts every day

We are not swingers, per se, but a poly family. But before that I was just a slutty newlywed with a boyfriend Red and had just gotten comfortable with hubby David playing. Red didn't care to play, just have sex with me. An accidental pregnancy is what created our poly family. Our live-in girlfriend Clair got pregnant by David despite being on birth control. She was upset and offered to have an abortion to keep us "as is" in our relationship. It took me about two seconds of thinking about it to decide that there was no reason not to start having children. We took the rest of the day off from work, she took three or four pregnancy tests, we cried together and decided that I would try to get pregnant as soon as possible so we could have our children as close together as possible. I stopped taking my pills that day. We told David and Red and both were overjoyed. I had sex with both David and Red and got pregnant within a couple of months. We are all extremely pro-choice, and this was our choice, the right decision.

When I was in graduate school two married couples engaged in an exchange of spouses. I don’t believe either couple were engaged in regular ENM activities; just couples in their late 20s or early 30s doing a bit of erotic experimentation. And I don’t know if the play was planned or spontaneous. But one of the women did become pregnant. I also have no idea if the couples knew for certain if the play partner provided the male genetic component of the prospective baby, but I do know the woman elected to end the pregnancy. It’s been a long time since I’ve had sex with a woman who wasn’t post-menopausal, but when my first wife was in medical school in a moment ruled by a high level of emotion on both our parts we had sex with no contraceptive protection and she became pregnant. There was no way we could manage having a child at that point and we terminated that pregnancy. In combination with a later miscarriage of a planned pregnancy, that careless episode did some damage to our marriage. On two other occasions FWB partners became pregnant. In one case our deep and almost lifelong friendship continued unscathed. In the other our 20-year friendship never really recovered. Looking back from the perspective of my 70s I regret all three of those instances.

Daniela and I kiss other partners, but the most exciting thing is for one or both of us to be fucking someone else, but kissing one another. We've also had situations where we fucking each other, but kissing someone else. I don't like that as much.

I've never been asked this, but before I met my wife a younger man asked her if she would have sex with him. She used to babysit him when she was in her 20's. Now she was in her late 30's and him in his early 20's and he told her that he always had a crush on her and now that he was an adult was hoping that it was a possibility. She kept him around as a FWB for a while. I met him recently at a funeral for one of his family members. Nice guy. I can see why she kept him around for booty calls. So, she did "help him out" and it ended-up being pretty good.

I am a man that regularly goes bareback in the lifestyle. I do discuss beforehand and I regulary get tested and ask for the same of my partners. It is not perfect but I do think it is reasonable when you go bare. The next question is do you risk pregnancy by not pulling out. That is even more thrilling than playing bareback. Yes, I pull out on her request.

We only use condoms for anal when there is a great deal of back to back. with that said, bareback anal happens more than you'd think because there is not a wife among us that doesn't get off watching our man take it anally and getting cum filled. It is how we clicked as a group. We masturbate to this more than anything else. Our husbands are 100% with us on this, they love to see us take it anally bareback getting cum filled. Everyone cleans well afterwards before any more goes on. We have extra showers to accommodate. Over time you will find modifying your home comes in extremely handy once you have a well established sex group. So we definitely prefer bareback. Everyone in our group is about the real deal, real feel, real cum. We like the act, the visuals, and the cum play. As for penises, a bare penis is the best feeling penis, no doubt. We trust everyone after getting to know them well so far no one has blown it, no stds. We have a few newer couples slowly integrating. We are keeping it fairly safe with them so the husbands use condoms. I know the wives well enough to see whatever they do with their men is most likely okay for the rest of us yet we still take the cautious road. Once we get to know people, see how they interact in a sexual setting, learn their tendencies, we are open to bareback sex. I encourage building your own group of trusted sex friends.

Um... no. One of the things that I think is the best about swinging is the opportunity it provides for people to just let go and get as wild as they like. While their particular idea of fun might not be my idea of fun, that doesn't make them "too slutty". The few situations I've seen where I've heard someone complain about someone else being "too slutty" it's usually been: One woman complaining about another because that other is either getting a lot more attention for one reason or another or is getting attention from someone the complaining women had her eye on... or A guy complaining about a woman because he's not getting any action from a woman who has been playing with a number of other men. In both situations, it seems like it's more sour grapes than any sort of valid assessment. It's truly amazing just how openly sexual many women are willing to be when in a situation where they feel they're both free to do so and safe in doing so. I think that there are some who feel threatened/jealous/shocked/whatever at that sort of behavior, and thus judge those that do feel that free as "too slutty".

I had a couple respond to my add stating " Would like to meet with you, because we have never played with a black person before." I asked what were their expectations of playing with a black female, and their response was "I heard they like to f**k for hours and never get sore." This was a new one one me. I never bothered responding back. In an ideal world we would not see color when we look at each other, but it's not, and we do. This I have accepted long ago. What really bother me is when expectation are placed on me because of my color. Just for the record, all black men dont have big ones .