Leaderboard

If you are looking for an unattractive single man, you’ve met your match.

We had single males — and females — blocked from early on because we were interested only in couples. But we’ve never done an MFM and have talked about it some recently, so we removed all the blocks in early-mid November just to see if there was any interest in a couple our age. So far, we’ve heard from 0 females … and 30 males! Shocker, eh? 😂 They range in age from 66 down to 24. We’ve read on here that trying to find another male is as difficult as trying to find a cheeseburger at McDonald’s, and that if you just throw a rock in *any* direction, you’ll hit one. Guess those are both true statements!

We've been to Desire Resorts (both in Cancun) numerous times and go 2-3X per year. Never have we felt unsafe. I would be more concerned about many of the cities in the US than I am in Quanta Roo. We don't venture into Cancun except getting to the airport from Desire. If you are wanting the "upscale" experience, then Desire Pearl is your choice. RM is ok but lots of construction for upgrades now. Cruises: We have been on 16 lifestyle cruises chartered by 6 different companies. The cruises are not all the same in terms of experience so your choice may be different than what others recommend. So here is a summary of our experiences: Companies that charter Clothing Optional / Lifestyle friendly cruises: Bliss / SDC / Rockstar / Desire / LLV / Couples Cruise (no longer doing cruises) Difference between Bliss ( booking the larger ships) and the others (booking smaller ships): Bliss: Mainly Caribbean and larger ships (figure 2300-5200 per ship. Popular because they leave FL so travel is easier. Can be intense with loads of people and makes it difficult to find a couple later because of the sheer size. Muliple playrooms. Less expensive ~$4200 for 7 night balacony cabin. Drink pkgs can be expensive and run over $1000 extra for your cabin (both have to purchase a pkg even if only one wants to drink). Others: A wide variety of intineraries (Europe, South Pacific, South America). Ships are smaller with 700-1000 per ship. More expensive at ~$8000 for a 7 night balcony cabin but drink pkg is included. More intimate - easier to meet and find couples the whole cruise. Food is better then the Royal Caribbean/Celebrity ships Bliss charters. We prefer these cruises over Bliss because of the wide variety of ports each day and each trip and the ship size and vibe. Who to book with: We book exclusively through Lynn at The Swinger Cruise. Her site www.theswingercruise.com shows 14 different cruise options for 2024 and she books a lot of cabins on each. We've tried other agencies but she does the best job. She has booked over 100 Clothing Optional cruises over their 13 or so years of buisness. Feel free to reach out to us on any questions. We are not travel agents or affiliates. Just a couple that have experienced a number of venues and experiences.

It's just you...NO, of course this is very shady.

We got a greeting message from someone on SLS. He gave us his first name. He didn’t include a picture. He’s got a single’s (not couple’s) profile. The profile has *no* pictures. The profile says he’s bi curious. The profile lists his age as 63 … his desired age range is 19-77! In the profile, he writes that he loves “daytime meetings during the week”. . Is it just us or does this sound more than a little shady?

She has been before and admits to enjoying the attention. I have ED and could use the help. She has gained weight and has it in her head she is disgusting looking to other men. She needs it and needs it bad, the attention from other men as well as some hot, steamy sex

I like anal, but it alone doesn't get me off. Anal/vaginal DP, however, is a treat both physically and psychologically, and gives me great Os.

Insightful post, in that there are many things between the sexes that are not the same and can't be treated equally.

I saw an article in the NY Times today written by the daughter of Ronald Reagan about Sandra Day O'Connor. A few paragraphs went into the struggle that Justice Day had with her husband John's Alzheimer's dementia and how she faced it. Quoting: "Sandra Day O’Connor Told a Truth About Marriage That Few Others Dared To By Patti Davis My father [Ronald Reagan] had died two years before, and during the decade of his illness, I paid close attention to what other people chose to share about Alzheimer’s. There was a notable silence about placing a family member in a facility designed to provide safe, appropriate care. I so admired Sandra Day O’Connor’s openness, and I imagined the thousands of people in similar situations who felt gratitude that someone was shining a light on a dilemma that so many suffer through in the shadows. In 2007, she went even further, allowing her son Scott to disclose that John had fallen in love with a resident at the facility — and that he did so with the former justice’s blessing. In an interview with KPNX-TV, a Phoenix station, Scott described how his mother would watch John and his new partner sitting on a bench together, clearly smitten with each other. “Mom was thrilled that Dad was relaxed and happy and comfortable living here.” She continued to visit him, though he no longer recognized her. People with Alzheimer’s lose connections, memories become frayed threads, but the desire for companionship runs deep — deeper than the disease. It’s fairly common for patients to develop new romantic, even sexual, relationships. But it’s something that few people feel comfortable talking about." This makes me proud to say that I am polyamorous. Although it was very late in life, this showed a wife's genuine love for her husband. It would have been so easy for her to do what everyone would have expected, pulled him out out of the facility and raised a lot of fuss and drama. But she didn't, she responded with love.

mim — Note that I said “could have” … not “would have”. ;-D Like you, we had our priorities. Although to be totally honest, the idea of swinging didn’t really occur to us until several years after the kids were all gone. Like many males, I had told my wife in bed — more than once — how exciting it would be to see her with somebody else, but we never actually considered acting on it until our 60s. Maybe one of these days, I’ll recount the story of how that discussion came about.

NC , We asked ourselves "Should we have started sooner?" also. Our answer was a resounding NO, for us. Starting sooner would have been distracting from what we should have been doing then. When one door opens another is at least partially closed. When we were in our thirties, having children was the focus, mission accomplished. In our forties and fifties launching our children into adulthood was the focus, mission pleasantly accomplished. Our mid sixties and seventies have thus far been focused on exploration together. Most likely we are cultural outliers. It suits us.

From my experience having started in the lifestyle (but not exactly swinging) not long after I became sexually active, I would say that the best age is from the beginning. There are two reasons for this. The first is that humans are non-monogamous by nature, so it's best to throw off the religious and social inhibitions and constraints as young as possible. (Better even if one is raised without them in the first place.) I struggled a little with non-monogamy; not my own, but my husband’s and boyfriend's. From what I've read here, it's much more difficult for couples who have been married for twenty years to do so without doubt, drams, and difficulties. The second reason is that having multiple sex partners, and knowing that the person or person you love do as well, is physically and emotionally fulfilling. Let the fun begin early!

My use of porn was primarily when I was younger, looking to learn. For instance, after my first vaginal and anal experiences, I was curious how it actually looked up close. What I found for that and just about everything else was so fake and poorly acted, it was humorous. Women don't want semen shot all over the outside of their body, especially their face, and it certainly doesn't make us spontaneously orgasm. The videos that are real are the "amateur" ones, but they are mostly old fat people shot in situations with poor lighting on what must be old camcorders. After doing it several times, I got bold and comfortable enough to ask that we do it in front of the mirror so I could see what I wanted. That was much better and more exciting, and in a way made us/me look more impressive than any porn I had watched. Now if I want to watch anything all I have to do is ask the others in the family; they oblige and it's much better because it has the twinge of jealousy to go with it. Porn is much better live with people who you love.

Mine would have to be when my wife and I were in high school. My then girlfriend and her friend snuck over to my parents house at night. I had my buddy sleeping over who's girlfriend was also the one who came over with my girlfriend/wife. I had a bedroom on the ground floor so we snuck them in through my window. It must have been around midnight. Little did we know we were swingers at such a young age. Well we set up a wall in the middle of my room and each couple took their side. After about 20 minutes of doing what teenagers do their was a knock at my bedroom door. Can you say my heart just about stopped !! I was thinking my mom is going to kill me. Both couples were naked!! I did not know what to do. So my wife and her girlfriend jumped on one side of the wall together so they could not be seen. My buddy jumped into my bed. And yes it was a water bed so their was a lot of noise. I jumped on the other side. As soon as I got into bed the door opened. Now picture this two naked guys on a water bed with no blankets at 12:30 at night. My heart froze ... it was my sister!! Who was about 19-20 years old at the time. She was in the family room with her boyfriend. She opened the door and saw us naked and just closed the door. I know she was going to tell her boyfriend that she just found out I was gay! I jumped up and went to the family room and said "I'm not gay, we have our girlfriends in the room" We laughed about the situation and my parents never knew. They were sound asleep.