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These were people engaging in legal, normal, consensual activities. I hope that the day comes when everyone says either "So what," or "Let me see."

While The New Yorker article tends to lump (as PeterJ points out) various flavors of non-monogamy, the central thesis--namely that consensual non-monogamy has become somewhat mainstream in Park Slope (Brooklyn) marriages and prestige (recognized production companies and production) TV --is on point. The New Yorker is widely regarded as a bastion of literary reporting and of literature: the editorial process there is fierce. Authors need to be incisive and accurate, and they expect to be humbled by fact-checkers, editors, and copy-editors. Two quotes jumped out at first reading: "To some extent, art is catching up with life. Fifty-one per cent of adults younger than thirty told Pew Research, in 2023, that open marriage was “acceptable,” and twenty per cent of all Americans report experimenting with some form of non-monogamy. " and "These shows, with their well-off couples ready to experiment with open relationships as a marital pick-me-up, depict the surprising fate of a radical social proposal. Non-monogamy, once the province of utopian communities like Oneida, which maligned matrimony as just another form of private ownership, is increasingly being presented not as a threat to bourgeois marriage but, rather, as a way to save the institution and all that it affords."

A woman wearing her wedding ring while playing with someone other than her husband 🥵

Earlier this week the highbrow magazine The New Yorker published "How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?" with the subhead "Once the province of utopian free-love communities, consensual non-monogamy is now the stuff of Park Slope marriages and prestige television." If the fact that the writer presents polyamory and ethical non-monogamy as synonyms correctly suggests to you a lack of detailed knowledge on the subject, you would be correct. Still, I found it worth the read and recommend it to others on the board. I believe that even if you aren’t a subscriber you can get a couple of free articles. https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2024/01/01/american-poly-christopher-gleason-book-review-more-a-memoir-of-open-marriage-molly-roden-winter?utm_source=nl&utm_brand=tny&utm_mailing=TNY_Daily_123023&utm_campaign=aud-dev&utm_medium=email&utm_term=tny_daily_digest&bxid=5bea0f4a3f92a404695e127b&cndid=13110541&hasha=3347331cce0b215f4cce863e282d9b9e&hashb=88b18aaa506f34f15fdebabfef4bcc1bb24fc8b8&hashc=7388a910b6bd7b9c5706b003aa22c841db3ec005b9711f8ce4e1b70480ca4e08&esrc=VERSO_NAVIGATION

Our party play is limited to a small group until now. We are invited to a party tonight with I believe will be “ multi-generational” 20s to 60s. Rocky and I are closer to the older so are nervously interested in how we will fit in with with a younger crowd. We know the ones closer to our age and will find our comfort spot if we have to. Because of anxiety Rocky just took a generic Cialis hoping to go more than 2or 3 times, I told him to stay away from the bourbon. I am less anxious, more hopeful that a younger gentleman finds interest in me even if that sounds creepy. Knowing some of the other women I don’t know how lucky I will be. Wish me luck. Happy New Year everyone and be safe.

Well said NWAtlSwing!

The couple has a right to have sex with whomever they want and even make porn. No one is trying to put them in jail for it. Their employer has a right to decide they don't want open pornographers working for them. Free speech means the government does not put you in jail. It does not mean you are free from the consequences of your actions.

My GF and I had a no kissing rule for a long time and we got rid of it probably a couple of years ago. And yet since then neither of us have kissed anyone else. We decided that we just didn't want to kiss anyone else. So while we don't have the official "rule" anymore, we both kind of still abide by it.

You must allow your wife to pursue the sex that is her fantasy and that she enjoys. Let your wife choose the man or woman who she wants to have sex with. Let her also decide when, where, and how she wants to do it, and most importantly, whether she wants you to be there or not. Make it all about her pleasure and fun and that that you will not play with another woman. Listen if she wants to talk about her experiences, but don't interrogate her if she doesn't want to talk. NEVER criticize her choices. Then enjoy the adventure that she takes you on.

and that is why we blur/crop faces... and don't post videos.

Rohit, if I had a dollar for every time I see a husband on this board asking how to convince his wife into swinging, I'd be able to afford dinner at the nicest restaurant in any major city. "Convincing" doesn't work. All you can do is open doors, discuss it with your wife, be patient, and then maybe some day...some day...she might consider the idea. For my wife, I never dreamed she would ever actually consider swinging. She made that very, very clear when we were dating when I informed her I'd been part of a polyamorous triad. There was no way she was interested in that or would ever be interested in that. Fast forward to six years after we were married... We'd never discussed non-monagamy at all. We'd never discussed swinging. I'd honestly never even thought about her having sex with other men up to that point. Once or twice she mentioned the poly triad I'd been in and how wrong she thought it was. Then one evening, out of the blue, she says "I think it would be nice to have two men massaging me at once" (she loves massage). ~6 months later, she was having sex with another man, her toes curling, delightful sounds emanating from her, and she couldn't get enough. The rest is history. Sometimes it works like that. I'd venture to guess most of the time it DOESN'T work like that. Be thankful you found a woman to marry, someone to hold, to love, to laugh with, to make love with, to spend your life with. You are incredibly, incredibly lucky. Count your blessings.

The mind boggles. WTF were these folks even thinking? Being a public figure while enjoying a discrete non-convential erotic life is one thing. Deciding to publish it all over the internet is another thing. My late father-in-law was a university chancellor. I’m highly confident he and his wife never made and/or distributed porn videos. Of course his career in academic administration pre-dated the ability to produce do-it-yourself porn. But even if it hadn’t…🙄 now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to start searching for those videos. 😉

Rohit — What if your wife *wanted* to fuck other men but you were completely against it … would you want her on this board asking for advice on how to convince you to let her do it anyway? TeamCalgary is right … quit while you’re still ahead!

I also love it when a trusted partner makes a mess of his cum all over my body.

I agree, I have seen this in other women when they saw my cum for their first time. First they jump because they are startled by how it squirts out, then they have to touch the cum, and last is if they are curious enough, they taste it. It's like I am not there, they are only focused on my cock and cum!

For me and my wife the most pronounced fetish is about cum. We love creampies, sloppy seconds, licking a cumfilled pussy and snowballing. For us there is such an incomparable intense, exciting, and reliefing feeling when a man fills a womans pussy. She gets an orgasm, when she feels how a man burries his cock deeper in her, starts to twitch and pumps his cum in her. Good sex has to involve creampies for us and the play with cum.

My husband asked me to be his hotwife. I love the sneaking around aspect of it. So often I will roleplay that he does not know and that I am cheating on him, even though I am gonna tell him afterwards. I never tell him before or ask for permission. It makes it all just a little bit wicked and I love feeling naughty.

Mr loves a perfectly shaved, no stubble, no deoderint smooth armpit to lick.