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I'm still around. Surprised anyone still remembers me. I might not post as much as I used to, but I do read the forums occasionally.

We have been to Hedo 2 in Negril 26 times since 2010. We usually take a shuttle bus from the Mo-bay airport to Hedo. We generally do not go off the resort, but did go into town and to Rick's Cafe a few years ago with another couple. One time, we took a taxi from the airport to Hedo. The driver was stopped at a checkpoint. All he did was stop, roll down the windows, the cops looked in, then waved us through. The driver said they know who they are looking for. It is not the tourists, as we are the bread and butter of the Jamaican economy. Just like most any city in the U.S, there are places you don't want to go. In our 26 trips, we have never had any kind of problem. At Hedo, there is security many places around the resort 24/7, along with employees and other guests. One time, my wife tripped and fell, and security was there to help her in seconds. A female may want an escort to walk them to their room late at night, but just about anyone there is happy to do that. The guests take care of each other there, which is something I have never experienced anywhere else. I know about the U.S. Dept. of State warning online. There are many places in Jamaica that I would never go even if you paid me. However, I would not hesitate for a minute going to Hedo. Go and enjoy yourself. It will be the best vacation of your life, and you will make friends with awesome people from all over.

In my experience, there are many 'Single' married men who are like sharks cruising around looking for sex with other women. The vast majority are not to be trusted. Basically because they are 'Cheating' on their wives and families and being selfish idiots... I have met many good couples and single women and men in the lifestyle and they are the one you should be looking for... In particular 'Single' men are so easy to find... But finding a 'Good' single man is a not as easy as it might be...

Ignore this guy and move on. The drama that a married man brings, or at least the risk of that drama, isn't worth the 30-45 minutes of possible enjoyment. Trying to find a guy to complete an MFM is like trying to find sand on the beach. There are quite a few other options that don't expose you to the risk of finding your rabbit boiling in a pot on the stove.

We’ve never done one of these but started talking about it several months ago. At that time, just to see *if* there’d be any interest in us, we unblocked our SLS Profile for single males. We’ve now heard from more than 50! They’ve been weeded down to maybe half a dozen prospects that we’d consider IF we decide to do this at all. (The jury is still out on that.) Today, one of those half dozen, who’s been corresponding with us off and on since a week before Christmas with a single’s Profile, revealed that he’s got a wife who “has no interest in anything sexual anymore”. WTF? Now we don’t know whether to just blow this guy off (figuratively speaking) due to his complete lack of transparency or — if we decide he’s otherwise the first choice — call him out by requiring him to bring her to our first face-to-face. So! If you’ve ever had this happen, how did you deal with it? If you *haven’t* had it happen, how do you think you *would* deal with it? Thank you to all who take the time to reply.

It's a number I remember hearing, but after digging around a little it seems I was off, and statistics put it more around 15% - which is still a lot Link

I would be very strict about this if the supposedly single guy is wishing to form a V or Triadic polyamorous relationship with us. Otherwise, if it is just play, I would just ignore him. Or if there is really chemistry between us, and he is clean, then why not? I dont wish to judge nor make assumptions as to what his motivations could be in wishing to swing with us alone, without his spouse's involvement. It would not ruin their home, but a poly relationship will.

Safety is relative. This is true everywhere in the world. Where there is more poverty, there is often more crime. Where there are drugs, there is often more crime. Still, you have to evaluate your own tolerance for risk. We agree, and Mexico is not on our list of current destinations of interest. We just don't have the risk tolerance, and there are alternatives that we prefer.

We met many guys for investigating MFMs. Of course, some of them were married. We got pretty good at figuring out if they were lying about their wives. When they told us their wife was cool with it and we decided to meet for a drink, after a bit we'd ask when they got married - month and year was good enough for our purposes. Then, a bit later in the meet if there was sufficient interest on our part, we'd ask the guy to call his wife to give us permission. And when we got her, we'd ask when they got married. Needless to say, over half the guys told us they wouldn't call, forgoing any chance with us. Yes, one guy gave us the wrong month and year. Was he a fake who had a friend pretending to be his wife? We'll never know. We did find that guys who were no longer sleeping with their wives (or very rarely,) were usually above average in the sack. So there's that . . .

Desire RM, Desire Pearl and Hedo 2 are all gated communities. I think it would be unusual for drug cartel people to show up there. I would be careful about hanging around outside of those resorts.

Wish I could edit that post. Should say "It can go..." 😕

Why BBC? How about AWC ? Average White Cock! This sounds so wrong. Why is race part of it? Now I notice the OP was a one and done. He came and is done, Literally

We once thought that, but we're both in our 50s now and see no sign of slowing down - quite the opposite in fact!

Adam, I agree completely and enthusiastically with everything you’ve written here! Most particularly that, as the Blues Project sang decades ago "(t)here’s no tome like the right time, and baby, the right time is now!"

I had what is now called a hotwife in my twenties, participated very briefly in foursome activities in my thirties, and my 2nd wife and I enthusiastically took up swinging in our early 50's through our sixties. The best time to be swinging: Now! If you (and your significant other, if you have one,) are excited about sharing yourself with other people, then you'll have fun no matter what age you are. Can you do stuff longer and more acrobaticly when you're young? Of course! On the other hand, as you age your experience allows you to appreciate what you're into more and more.

Think you meant accepted way. Today same sex marriage is much more common from the way our parents saw marriage. We now know several same sex couples, I never know if a partner is a business partner or a marriage partner though I’m not shocked seeing happy loving people together. Putting a label on relationships is backward thinking, conventional pairs have evolved, sexual orientation has evolved, LGBT is widely accepted in our everyday lives. I never considered myself bisexual in the true sense until I really thought it through. I’m not in love with other women the way I love my husband. I can separate sexual pleasure from sexual love. I’m aware there are lesbians who have no attraction, even repulsed to have sex with a man, I respect them and applaud that they can live their lives happily. The same with men who would never think to be with a woman, or truly heterosexuals who would never play with the same sex. As a liberally open woman I understand how the lesbian couple still can enjoy the pleasure I feel only from a man.

My wife had an update to tell me last night, she was talking to our friend who told her what I thought was hilarious fact about the woman couple we met, the women have a male friend that visits them that is half their age. To me it sounds a fantasy movie theme for the women and the young man.

We have married lesbian friends one of which I dated before they married. Her wife also dated guys before they became a couple. I was not totally surprised that they became a couple, more surprised when they married, it made me wonder what I did that pushed her that way. Good news they both enjoy men for sex and happy that the friend I dated still enjoys me to please her the way only a real penis can do. Who is luckier, I have a wife and our two friends. Marriage is about love, sex is about sex. My thought they have a love connection yet are bi.

My wife started her sex life with an older girl in high school. Although she started fooling with boys shortly thereafter, she did consider herself lesbian for a while and this girl was her primary, regular partner even as this girl went to college and Daniela moved to high school. She says that sex with another girl was more understanding, tender, and instructive than the boys who were just trying to shove it in her. Daniela's young female lover also taught her how to deal with boys.

One was very active with the men in the group, the other less. When the one was with me her wife watched and even kissed her as if giving her approval. I did not have sex with the quieter wife, I did see her play with the people she knew.

I would categorize these women as bisexual, except that instead of having fallen in love with and marrying a man, they married each other - women. Unlike many bisexual women who marry a man and occasionally want pussy, they married pussy and occasionally want dick. And just like women who start out straight then have their first bi experience with a woman, it is possible for a woman to start out totally homosexual and have only Lesbian sex until her first bi experience with a man. Clair in our family was like that, totally Lezzie for the first eight years of her sexual life (she started early) , until she was attracted to a guy and found that she enjoyed men as well. She lost some Lesbian friends over it, but still most of her lovers were women. According to Clair, my husband was the first man she fell in love with, i.e., could see herself having a permanent relationship with. Clair was my first Lesbian encounter. So she moved in with us.

Sexuality is on a spectrum. People have a little or a lot of same sex interest.