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They are exploring, and while they may profess eagerness to engage in sexual activity, the newness of the situation is often scary. I agree that the woman is the lead, whether they know that or not, but be very aware of what all the individuals are feeling. Go slow and make it clear that if nothing sexual happens the first time, that is okay. We did not engage in sexual activity with our fisrt couple, but they we caring and full of information, which lead us further. Also, as I remember, they could have served burnt tennis shoes to eat, and that would not have made a difference. Our brains were focused on other things.

Good luck! Remember to have fun!

Yes, I'm still very much in the lifestyle. Recently got out of a relationship. Single and enjoying it.

About amounts after Mary's girls night out where she had sex with a stranger, our neighbor invited us to a clothing optional bar B que. Mary and I had talked about swinging but had not decided on it yet. At the bar B que Mary has on her string bikini, which hardly covered her 35b breast and her shaved bottom. It took a while of seeing others naked before we decided to skinny dip. I was amazed at the attention she received from the other guys who kept brushing up against her. Ad afternoon turned into evening everyone went inside leaving bathing suits at the pool. The host then knowing this was our first party dared Mary to give me a bj in front of the other 9 couples. As she was sucking my cock. One of he men came up behind her and looked at me, then grabbed his cock and motioned that he wanted to fuck her. I knew it was now or never so I shook my head yes. He started shoving his cock into her. At first she was shocked, but I told her it was OK. After he came in her she looked at me and gave me a passionate kiss. Before t he night was over she had sex with 4 of the other men at the party

This afternoon is the event. No is no and we’ll take it slow with clear and full consent. But we have played with newbies who are total tigers. We’ll see!

As you go forward, but sure to always ask 'is it okay if I {fill in the blank}' and try to get an acknowledgement from both of them.

Unicorn in the house 😀

We agree 100% with the vanilla first meeting concept. Although it is sometimes greeted with derision. One potential person we thought of meeting with called me a pussy for suggesting this. I said thank you for vetting yourself. With tomorrow’s couple, we had a nice vanilla dinner. My wife asked the other woman if she wants to go to dinner again or visit us to play and she chose play. It has occurred to me (and her husband has suggested) she is a minx.

For most other people here, our play with Joe and Shannon is not noteworthy, but for us polys it makes us feel like swinging noobies. So I feel compelled to post, but you don't have to read. To summarize, Red and Lora visited Joe and Shan at their place for a long weekend, then later I did solo. Now in two weeks they are going to visit us and stay in a nearby hotel. Joe is clear that what he's looking forward to is Red and David taking his wife (individually and together) while he watches, is insulted about what they're doing with her (or more likely complimented, the way I've seen him take it), and deal with the aftermath. Shannon is excited too. I'm looking forward to getting Joe to fuck me while he's in that state, but it will be a fight with Lora.

I'm still around. Surprised anyone still remembers me. I might not post as much as I used to, but I do read the forums occasionally.