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  1. 3 points
    In my quick read, I saw too much angst over whether someone is a "better" sex partner than someone else. When my wife is getting it on with another partner I hope that she is having the best time possible. Think about it, if my wife was going to dinner with someone else, would I want her to have a worse meal than when she went to dinner with me?
  2. 3 points
    I have seen the winter warning
  3. 2 points
    I have a friend that does castings if you are interested. I am primarily clitoral not exclusively.
  4. 2 points
    "For now, Winter is bracing herself for the impact the book will inevitably have on her and those around her — but she seemed undaunted." “I’ve been spending a lot of my time calming everybody else down,” she said. “This doesn’t feel like something I need to be afraid of.” I think that's brave. In our 25 years of swinging we have put a lot of time, effort, and anxiety into keeping our Lifestyle a secret - with limited success. My wife and I have often observed how the world excuses cheating - but not swinging. Hopefully books like Winter's will help remove the societal stigma around non-monogamy.
  5. 2 points
    We intended to go in the hot tub first, but it was raining. I bought a lifestyle deck of cards for ice breaking, but one of the cards suggested a spit roast. Not a recommendation for newbies.
  6. 2 points
    I consider myself very, very fortunate that I've gotten to experience watching my wife with two men. Absolutely thrilling!
  7. 1 point
    Would you be satisfied if you only had a toy to play with? We were with a young lady at a friend’s house who was recently divorced, then had an abusive relationship and is now living alone. She identifies as bisexual which she realized when she was in her twenties, she is now in her thirties. She claims to had sex with a hundred people so I asked sarcastically what was her best sex. Her answer had me think. She claims she is always satisfied with her toys, always satisfied she knows what she likes better than anyone and didn’t need anyone to help. She said she has dozens of toys and changes up depending on mood. What makes a woman enjoy solitary sex over human contact I wondered, I asked her and her answer was surprising, depressing and made me angry.
  8. 1 point
    We have and we haven’t. If meeting the first time was based on a profile other qualities must click both ways. Others posted women control the action something 99% true. Over the years I found those too willing to start play immediately sends up some red flags
  9. 1 point
    We have had similar offers. LS couples you only know online traveling somewhat nearby and wanting to stop by for one night only (in your case afternoon). We generally don't accept these meets as they always seem rushed and too high-pressure and, honestly, we have a circle of LS friends so we're not desperate to squeeze in a quickie. However, one setting where we do enjoy casual hookups is when on vacation - and your friends are on vacation. So the question is: Do you want to be the hookup that spices up their vacation? 🤔
  10. 1 point
    We've played on first dates on a number of occasions. We both of course have to agree. The way we do so is silent though; one or the other of us will squeeze the thigh of the other to indicate they are wanting to play. The other will do one squeeze back for yes, two for no. We haven't felt the need to discuss it out beforehand now for years. We both know what the other likes (and doesn't like). Best of luck!
  11. 1 point
    See the book review in the NY Times https://www.nytimes.com/2024/01/13/books/molly-roden-winter-more-book-open-marriage.html?unlocked_article_code=1.NU0.xNVH.KdCMWiKarPkH&smid=url-share
  12. 1 point
    Even though 100% of experiences cannot be satisfying, my wife much prefers actual humans over toys - or a combination of humans and toys - to solitary masturbation. I would imagine most women do. What did she say that had you so vexed?
  13. 1 point
    Reflect for a moment on what you do when you sit down at a restaurant and look around at the other couples. We are never initially asking ourselves whether they cheat or they swing. Rather, we ask ourselves are they happy being with each other? Are they looking at each other, holding hands, engaged in conversation, interacting with the staff? Are they smiling? Now think on the lifestyle gatherings you have attended. Meet and greets. Cruises. Parties. Hotel takeovers. Think about those couples in LS and in vanilla settings. Same questions. Perhaps some are interested in whether you swing. But…your partner, your kids, your reports at work, your buddies at the club, the other parishioners at your house of worship…their primary interest is in whether you are happy and content with each other.
  14. 1 point
    Some men are better in bed but that doesnt mean my partner and bf are up for replacement. It is a combination of emotional exclusiveness and sexual non- exclusiveness. Some would wish to form deeper connection which is possible bcoz Im poly but time management is the restraint.
  15. 1 point
    We tend to meet up for drinks, small snack/meal and then go to a hotel. Like many couples, we only have a certain amount of time to devote to meeting others, playing so by the time we meet up we expect to play that evening. I know many couples that will "date" (for lack of a better term) a few times before playing. That would be great except with our schedules we can arrange a day or two a quarter at most so when we get that day, we want to play. So we do a lot of front-end chatting before we meet so the first meet isn't like a blind date. By the time we meet up, the ice has melted.
  16. 1 point
    The confusion/conflation problem always exists when there are experts and non-experts in discussions of just about any topic, LS or professional or otherwise. Mrs. FL and I routinely run into the problem when we are having discussions with friends in our areas of medical expertise. We are happy when the conversation is "more right than wrong". Our conversational approach here is to point out that monogamy is fairly clearly understood as exclusivity; non-monogamy is therefore non-exclusive. There are lots of different forms of non-exclusive. Non-exclusive might mean "monogamish" to one couple, regular swing as couples to another, dating in an open marriage to another, polycule to another, and so on. Those distinctions become important mostly when a monogamous couple entertains the idea of (ethical) non-monogamy--what does the non-exclusive menu of options include, and what does each mean for the couple's relationship?
  17. 1 point
    My takeaways: Once again, the distinctions among poly, swinging, open marriage, and non-monogamy are conflated. "About a third of Americans surveyed in a YouGov poll in February of 2023 said they preferred some form of non-monogamy in relationships." Wow! "... there might be a scarcity of books by moms in open marriages because they are simply too busy: 'When you’re a parent and you’re polyamorous, who has time to write?' " That's why my writing about the lifestyle is limited to brief burts here. “Her story, which is about what it means for a mother to be erotically charged..." I need it more after I got into my thirties and had kids. "She’s grown more confident that her marriage of 24 years has benefited from their outside relationships. ... the surprising connections she’s formed with the “other women” in her life, including Stewart’s girlfriends and the wives of the men she dates." True.
  18. 1 point
    Thank you for your understanding.
  19. 1 point
    I like the variety of body hair on women, from shaved everywhere except her head, to letting it grow everywhere. Daniela will vary her body hair from a little landing strip only to letting her bush grow full and some pit hair. It's all female and I love it all, the variety.
  20. 1 point
    I saw from afar so I can’t say it was gorgeous whatever that means. As long as she is happy I’m happy. I do understand that some are more perfect, I suggested to take a casting of his. Her comment also made me look closer or I should say appreciate more a gorgeous pussy. Then again I never met a pussy I didn’t like.
  21. 1 point
    Posting pictures of cocks and “cunts” are strange. Posting a picture of yourself or you and a partner is sexier. I return to this post because we met the people we were with in the original post. Lin elbowed me saying that’s him, Mr Gorgeous Cock. Lin was blushing. I pushed her to talk to him as we were all clothed and conversation would be easy. Lin reintroduced herself luckily he remembered her. I made a strange comment that Lin thought he had a gorgeous cock making him uncomfortable. I laughed and assured him I am straight and that he impressed Lin to the point that she mentioned it that night we met. Now I was uncomfortable.
  22. 1 point
    If you deployed on a westpac cruise and are subsequently shocked by something, you're lying...either about the cruise or being shocked (...and that, from a sixth fleet sailor. The tales are infamous!)
  23. 1 point
    My wife and I met in college and have been married for almost 22 years. When we met I was the most jealous person you could possibly be and that continued up until our second or third year of marriage. I slowly started to notice I was aroused about the thought of her being a hotwife. Like others, she was totally against the idea but after seeing I was real, started warming up slowly, and I mean slowly, over the years. During my first deployment, she would role play some and very little online, but never any physical play. In fact my sex drive was at least three times than hers. When I came back home, she and I did a live Webcam and I was so turned on seeing all the attention she was getting. I was deployed again and still had this fetish strong. She found an old college buddy to soft play with. I called home and she told me about him and it drove us wild. Then she had an old friend that she gave a blow job to and some heavy flirting along with a small lesbian experience. She had no interest in anyone she didn't know or feel she had a connection with and I was just happy to get what I could. About another year and half things picked up steam again and she had an old friend she was hanging out with. They ending up messing around twice, and she actually had sex with him once. I was very aroused and couldn't believe after seven years of marriage, it finally happened. Things then got complicated mostly from me and her inexperience. She was trying to live out my fantasy and I wasn't very clear in what I wanted. Like an idiot would get mad thinking she was hiding things from me, when in fact I was supposed to find out that way. She let him get into her heart and mind more than she should have. I did more damage to a very good wife. She was only doing what I asked and doing it the best she could. Then she started feeling like she was used by this guy and the relationship between the two of them crumbled. I was so into the hotwife idea, I didn't realize how I was pushing her to talk about a painful experience until one night I pushed too far and made her feel like her telling me about it was more important than her feelings and thus starting a string of events that almost completely destroyed us. For the next three years, she still stayed with me, but we were far from good. Some days she would be ok, and others she couldn't look at me. There would be a few good days but I broke a good women. I couldn't fix it and thought we were going to split. One day things started to thaw and we started having a relationship once more. I never brought my fantasy up again and thought it was dead in the water. We had an anniversary and it went really well and when I got home after a four week business trip, I saw her miss me for the first time. I was relieved and even thought I still ran the thought through my head, never dared mention it at all. Unknown to me, she started a friendship with a male friend and became very attached to him. They had dinner together and she even kissed him, nothing more up to that point. I did find something on the computer, one blog she wrote that talked a little about it and didn't care if found out. I was floored but truthfully, I liked the idea. It was probably a month or two later we were having foreplay and she started hinting about it. She wasn't sure how I would take it since she was so hard on me about about the mistakes of the last time playing. She started hinting trying to get me to bring it up by asking what biggest fantasy was. I knew what she was getting at and finally I told her to have someone else touch you. We had the most incredible raw sex in years and all of a sudden we had passion too. She told me about her friend and we were having more sex than ever. We did it on trampolines, in my truck, and anywhere else we could. Marriage was good and exciting as it could be. She went to her friend's house a couple of times and gave him blowjobs before coming home and telling me. We would have mind-blowing sex. Her relationship with him dried up, but as soon as it did, a new friend was there to take his place. This was a game changer. He lived in another state. They chatted all the time, had phone sex, exchanged pictures and were really into each other. She planned a trip with him and they stayed a short distance from the house in a hotel, it was hot as hell to me. She went to his house a few times and ending up having sex probably five or six times after that. We took all our lessons from the bad experience and this one never has had any issues. The only thing she was comfortable doing was going solo and coming home to tell me. This went on about once a year for few years. She had an another old friend and went to stay with him for a few days where they had sex. There was a friend that came to see her and they stayed in a hotel here and had sex. Another friend from her hometown she only done soft play with. All these were fun but she didn't like the feeling she felt by telling me and I wanted so bad to watch it. She just had a trip to her hometown and met one of her fiends. They didn't do anything but talk, but when she got home, we had sex three times and sat up all night. We started discussing swing clubs and how fun they would be. She agreed to go and I found one and that is when a sexual awakening happened to her. I set up the account and thought we would probably go and if I was lucky I could watch her dance with someone and we talked about her kissing someone else. To my surprise, she took over from there, chatting and setting this up. She bought a short dress that a friend from the community helped her pick out. She was as hot as ever and we couldn't stop thinking about it She had never been as high sex drive as I am. In fact we would go two months with no sex and never more than twice a week. Since we had this conversation ten days ago, we have so much sex, we are both raw. It was so hot. We made it to the club and meet up with a single guy and a couple. The couple was nice but it fizzled out some. We took to the single guy and he danced with her, I danced with her, and at times we both danced and grinded on her. I thought this was going to be it, but was I ever wrong. I looked over and saw her deep kissing him and when we went to a place for privacy, she straddled him in her dress and they were making out. As he was eating her, she took my hands and rubbed them on her tits. Then I rubbed her clit and he fingered her. She even wanted me to hold her hair as she gave him a blowjob. I was in heaven and it was exactly how I thought it would be. No penetration that night, but it was the hottest thing I ever was involved in. We came home and had sex twice and every chance we can since. That was five days ago. She has found another couple we are going to meet tomorrow for dinner. We don't know how far it will lead but she and I are so excited. She even thinks things may happen and says she may want me to play with the other women. Not to mention, we are going to have a mfm with the guy from the club very soon. She had never been as high sex drive as I am. In fact we would go two months with no sex and never more than twice a week. Since we had this conversation ten days ago, we have so much sex, we are both raw. She told me she has never had this high of sex drive. When we aren't together we are masturbating two to three times a day. I have always fantasized about this and it seems like I wrote this script. I cannot not believe how fast it has moved in ten days. She now fantasizes about me watching her again and with another couple. It gets her going as much as it does me. It took twenty years to get to this point. There were a lot of mistakes and failures. We both learned and made the next one better. She is in control now and it is much fun. I love my Hotwife.
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