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In my quick read, I saw too much angst over whether someone is a "better" sex partner than someone else. When my wife is getting it on with another partner I hope that she is having the best time possible. Think about it, if my wife was going to dinner with someone else, would I want her to have a worse meal than when she went to dinner with me?

I have seen the winter warning

I have a friend that does castings if you are interested. I am primarily clitoral not exclusively.

"For now, Winter is bracing herself for the impact the book will inevitably have on her and those around her — but she seemed undaunted." “I’ve been spending a lot of my time calming everybody else down,” she said. “This doesn’t feel like something I need to be afraid of.” I think that's brave. In our 25 years of swinging we have put a lot of time, effort, and anxiety into keeping our Lifestyle a secret - with limited success. My wife and I have often observed how the world excuses cheating - but not swinging. Hopefully books like Winter's will help remove the societal stigma around non-monogamy.

We intended to go in the hot tub first, but it was raining. I bought a lifestyle deck of cards for ice breaking, but one of the cards suggested a spit roast. Not a recommendation for newbies.

I consider myself very, very fortunate that I've gotten to experience watching my wife with two men. Absolutely thrilling!

Would you be satisfied if you only had a toy to play with? We were with a young lady at a friend’s house who was recently divorced, then had an abusive relationship and is now living alone. She identifies as bisexual which she realized when she was in her twenties, she is now in her thirties. She claims to had sex with a hundred people so I asked sarcastically what was her best sex. Her answer had me think. She claims she is always satisfied with her toys, always satisfied she knows what she likes better than anyone and didn’t need anyone to help. She said she has dozens of toys and changes up depending on mood. What makes a woman enjoy solitary sex over human contact I wondered, I asked her and her answer was surprising, depressing and made me angry.

We have and we haven’t. If meeting the first time was based on a profile other qualities must click both ways. Others posted women control the action something 99% true. Over the years I found those too willing to start play immediately sends up some red flags

We have had similar offers. LS couples you only know online traveling somewhat nearby and wanting to stop by for one night only (in your case afternoon). We generally don't accept these meets as they always seem rushed and too high-pressure and, honestly, we have a circle of LS friends so we're not desperate to squeeze in a quickie. However, one setting where we do enjoy casual hookups is when on vacation - and your friends are on vacation. So the question is: Do you want to be the hookup that spices up their vacation? 🤔

We've played on first dates on a number of occasions. We both of course have to agree. The way we do so is silent though; one or the other of us will squeeze the thigh of the other to indicate they are wanting to play. The other will do one squeeze back for yes, two for no. We haven't felt the need to discuss it out beforehand now for years. We both know what the other likes (and doesn't like). Best of luck!

See the book review in the NY Times https://www.nytimes.com/2024/01/13/books/molly-roden-winter-more-book-open-marriage.html?unlocked_article_code=1.NU0.xNVH.KdCMWiKarPkH&smid=url-share

Even though 100% of experiences cannot be satisfying, my wife much prefers actual humans over toys - or a combination of humans and toys - to solitary masturbation. I would imagine most women do. What did she say that had you so vexed?

Reflect for a moment on what you do when you sit down at a restaurant and look around at the other couples. We are never initially asking ourselves whether they cheat or they swing. Rather, we ask ourselves are they happy being with each other? Are they looking at each other, holding hands, engaged in conversation, interacting with the staff? Are they smiling? Now think on the lifestyle gatherings you have attended. Meet and greets. Cruises. Parties. Hotel takeovers. Think about those couples in LS and in vanilla settings. Same questions. Perhaps some are interested in whether you swing. But…your partner, your kids, your reports at work, your buddies at the club, the other parishioners at your house of worship…their primary interest is in whether you are happy and content with each other.

Some men are better in bed but that doesnt mean my partner and bf are up for replacement. It is a combination of emotional exclusiveness and sexual non- exclusiveness. Some would wish to form deeper connection which is possible bcoz Im poly but time management is the restraint.

We tend to meet up for drinks, small snack/meal and then go to a hotel. Like many couples, we only have a certain amount of time to devote to meeting others, playing so by the time we meet up we expect to play that evening. I know many couples that will "date" (for lack of a better term) a few times before playing. That would be great except with our schedules we can arrange a day or two a quarter at most so when we get that day, we want to play. So we do a lot of front-end chatting before we meet so the first meet isn't like a blind date. By the time we meet up, the ice has melted.

The confusion/conflation problem always exists when there are experts and non-experts in discussions of just about any topic, LS or professional or otherwise. Mrs. FL and I routinely run into the problem when we are having discussions with friends in our areas of medical expertise. We are happy when the conversation is "more right than wrong". Our conversational approach here is to point out that monogamy is fairly clearly understood as exclusivity; non-monogamy is therefore non-exclusive. There are lots of different forms of non-exclusive. Non-exclusive might mean "monogamish" to one couple, regular swing as couples to another, dating in an open marriage to another, polycule to another, and so on. Those distinctions become important mostly when a monogamous couple entertains the idea of (ethical) non-monogamy--what does the non-exclusive menu of options include, and what does each mean for the couple's relationship?

My takeaways: Once again, the distinctions among poly, swinging, open marriage, and non-monogamy are conflated. "About a third of Americans surveyed in a YouGov poll in February of 2023 said they preferred some form of non-monogamy in relationships." Wow! "... there might be a scarcity of books by moms in open marriages because they are simply too busy: 'When you’re a parent and you’re polyamorous, who has time to write?' " That's why my writing about the lifestyle is limited to brief burts here. “Her story, which is about what it means for a mother to be erotically charged..." I need it more after I got into my thirties and had kids. "She’s grown more confident that her marriage of 24 years has benefited from their outside relationships. ... the surprising connections she’s formed with the “other women” in her life, including Stewart’s girlfriends and the wives of the men she dates." True.

Thank you for your understanding.

I like the variety of body hair on women, from shaved everywhere except her head, to letting it grow everywhere. Daniela will vary her body hair from a little landing strip only to letting her bush grow full and some pit hair. It's all female and I love it all, the variety.

I saw from afar so I can’t say it was gorgeous whatever that means. As long as she is happy I’m happy. I do understand that some are more perfect, I suggested to take a casting of his. Her comment also made me look closer or I should say appreciate more a gorgeous pussy. Then again I never met a pussy I didn’t like.

Posting pictures of cocks and “cunts” are strange. Posting a picture of yourself or you and a partner is sexier. I return to this post because we met the people we were with in the original post. Lin elbowed me saying that’s him, Mr Gorgeous Cock. Lin was blushing. I pushed her to talk to him as we were all clothed and conversation would be easy. Lin reintroduced herself luckily he remembered her. I made a strange comment that Lin thought he had a gorgeous cock making him uncomfortable. I laughed and assured him I am straight and that he impressed Lin to the point that she mentioned it that night we met. Now I was uncomfortable.

If you deployed on a westpac cruise and are subsequently shocked by something, you're lying...either about the cruise or being shocked (...and that, from a sixth fleet sailor. The tales are infamous!)