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You are right about that. The thing that caused me to post it here is that, my wife sent it to me in the context of our own marriage. It was meant in a "See we are doing pretty good, my dear" sort of way. The quality of play with others often reflects the state of our own play between just us. This varies from absolutely brilliant to "Maintenance" sex. ( I don't care what is on the schedule. It has been a week. Shut off the computer, TV ,phones, and come to bed.)Getting distracted is an easy pattern to fall into. As we age the inexorable decline in all body functions can be a bit depressing. I was just in such a situation and she used the article as a pick-me-up.

Suzy is not very vocal during sex, and oftentimes doesn't talk about it after. That, plus the fact that we've only had 2 experiences in the lifestyle so far, and they've both been very recent - so after 30 years of monogamous marriage, the last time I went down on anyone besides Suzy, I was a clueless 20 yo that, lets be honest, didn't care about much else besides getting off. But with age comes wisdom, one hopes.

As swingers in our 50s we have seen and been with plenty of senior swingers and we have to agree that the photos in that article were unflattering! Still, it brought up many good points about how to change what sex is to be a better fit with a 'old age'. But it didn't touch upon what those of us in this forum do in terms of involving other players - which I think is a great way to keep things hot and fresh 😀

That was me the first time I attempted oral sex on a woman hiding my nerves with enthusiasm trying to return what she did to me. Lucky for me my first woman was patient and directed me. To answer what do I like is all the things the poster is doing. In the context of swinging I enjoy all the different techniques partners try, no two partners are exactly the same. Vive la difference.

It differs. Just as every man likes his BJ a little different, us ladies like different things. The women I've given oral to don't follow the same pattern I enjoy. And the ones I've been with more than once aren't always consistent each time. Sometimes gentle tip-of-the-tongue on the clit is it...other times it is a nibble here or there...maybe a finger should be worked in. Basically you have to play the room. Pay attention to the reaction of the person you're giving oral to. Take mental notes on what gets a reaction. Note 2-3 different things and rotate between them. Eventually you'll be able to determine that rank of those things, or the receiver will tell you where to stay as they approach orgasm.

The question that I find important to ask each time, because even for the same woman the preference will change depending on the occasion, is whether she wants to be digitally penetrated in her vagina, bum, or both. I always ask when I go down and have it asked of me. When penetration is requested, it's usually the index and middle in the pussy and the ring finger in the bum hole. That's my preference. Otherwise, there's usually no further discussion. A good partner can sense what's working. (Hint: for me, tonguing my vag isn't one of them, it's just not enough stimulation. Just stick to licking my clit.)

A question for the women: I've always considered myself pretty darn good when it comes to giving a woman oral. I truly enjoy it, and could spend the whole night doing it! I wholly subscribe to the theory that "licking sucks, sucking rocks." And with my wife's newfound proclivity for squirting during oral, I have been patting myself on the back a lot lately My wife likes the way I go about things, but now that we are (slowly) branching out into sex with others, it got to me thinking: What exactly do women like when receiving oral? Does technique matter? Do I need to keep the same rhythm, or mix it up. Fast? slow? Concentrate on the clit, or take in the entire scene? Suzy likes it when my hands roam - caressing her body, tits and nipple play, a little bit on the asshole...and I like the idea of making it an entire body sensation. But I'd love to hear what other women like.

Sam Kinison!

The photographer, Marilyn Minter, published a coffee-table book with an extended set of photos from the same sessions. See https://www.amazon.com/Marilyn-Minter-Elder-Sex/dp/2365680712 It played to generally favorable reviews, see for example https://www.cnn.com/style/article/marilyn-minter-artist-elder-sex/index.html Passion has no expiration date; the (unsettling) question is whether it has a "best by" date.

I like direct clit licking .... until I don't! It really depends. The good man is the one who reads me as he does it.

We invited a co-worker over after her got if work to have sex with my wife. He got there late and after the three of us playing on couch kissing sucking her big tits I had to get to bed because I had to get up in 3 hours for work. I left them on couch and went to bed. I did walk out once when I her day no not that!! He was trying to put his cock in her ass she reserved that for me. She told me he had a nice cock but when she told no ass he pin her to the floor and held her down stuck in her pussy took about 5 strokes pulled out stood up pulled up his pants and left. No thanks no good bye justopen the and left. She was laying on floor naked with his wad rolling down her ass. She was pissed and so was I. The next day as I was getting off work he was just walking in the parking lot walked up to me and said tap me on my chest and and said “she was a good fuck” I knocked down and said Asshole we never spoke again. He asked for a transfer two weeks later.