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I couldn't tell you how women that I have rimmed them and they had never had it done to them. I thought most men rim their women until I started asking guys that I worked with and many gave me the distinct " Hell No !"

As a bi-woman, I do like to do oral to a girl as much as I like to receive it. Every woman is different; depending on our mood, we may want one thing or a mix of different things. Rather than relying on a particular technique, you should do it passionately and always pay attention to your play partner. Listen to her moans and breathing, and pay attention to the subtle movements she makes; she will guide you in the right direction. Do not be afraid to innovate or improvise at the moment; you will be surprised how many of us like to get our asses eaten, for example.

Though the original comment is a decade old, I'm always curious why women don't swallow. Three times in 30+ years is not swallowing. I understand that it is the woman's decision and whatever she decides is fine. I'm always curious why a woman chooses not to. A horrible experience the first time? A mental block because semen is "gross"? Religion? Marriage? I wasn't the most experienced guy before the LS but had a fair amount of experiences. I've been with women who gladly swallowed, did because it was in her mouth and some who would take a little and then handjob it on their chest. I haven't encountered a woman who refused to do it. I always tried to end up on my back when I get near the end so the woman can decide to do whatever they want with it.

Thanks for all the feedback… well we made decisions and we will live with them. Went to their house last night. Had a few drinks. Wife was slow dancing with the neighbor. Sat on the couch. Got a very nice blow job. Neighbor did my wife. I did his wife. He came on my wife’s chest and I came in her. neighbor’s wife didn’t want any in her or on her. That’s ok with me! I guess we are in the LS now? 😂

I’ve mentioned in this forum several times that at a party a decade ago when I was in my mid-60s I played with a couple who were in their mid-80s (and had been swingers since the late 1940s, before the term existed). They were so wrinkled! It was a bit shocking as I began to engage with them. But as things progressed that feeling fell away; I was just into sharing pleasure with this lovely couple and they looked fine. (For me it’s the personality and the sex that counts; "looks" are decidedly peripheral.

The Guardian is into it. https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2024/jan/21/still-searching-for-the-one-when-polyamory-is-more-fun?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other

My wife has told me several times she wouldn't have married a man who won't eat ass

Me as well. My favorite is an FFM situation where one of us women is in the middle. It's totally different whether I'm in the middle fucking the guy while eating her (extra points if she's sloppy), or I'm lying back being eaten and watching the MF action, but both are physically and psychologically enjoyable in their way. We mostly do FFM where the MF is the doggy position, not missionary with the second woman on top. And rarely with the guy doing both the licking and fucking. Performing oral on a woman for me has the sense of both being generous in providing pleasure to her and controlling her as I bring her to orgasm.

Sam Kinison!

You are right about that. The thing that caused me to post it here is that, my wife sent it to me in the context of our own marriage. It was meant in a "See we are doing pretty good, my dear" sort of way. The quality of play with others often reflects the state of our own play between just us. This varies from absolutely brilliant to "Maintenance" sex. ( I don't care what is on the schedule. It has been a week. Shut off the computer, TV ,phones, and come to bed.)Getting distracted is an easy pattern to fall into. As we age the inexorable decline in all body functions can be a bit depressing. I was just in such a situation and she used the article as a pick-me-up.

The photographer, Marilyn Minter, published a coffee-table book with an extended set of photos from the same sessions. See https://www.amazon.com/Marilyn-Minter-Elder-Sex/dp/2365680712 It played to generally favorable reviews, see for example https://www.cnn.com/style/article/marilyn-minter-artist-elder-sex/index.html Passion has no expiration date; the (unsettling) question is whether it has a "best by" date.

Starting Late, I’m going to assume you didn’t just post this because you wanted a thrill from reading women write about receiving oral. (You’ll note that none have responded.) As a male who has given oral to well over 100 women over the years, I will offer a couple of observations. I had a bi-female FWB who appreciated the quality of the oral I gave her sufficiently that she arranged for one of her female partners to join us. She told me that men generally were better at cunnilingus that gay or bi women because "women just assume you’ll want to get licked the same way they do." For sure I didn’t make that assumption. It’s remarkable how differently women want to be orally pleasured. Some like the lightest of tongue, licking labia until they are sufficiently aroused that they want direct clitoral stimulation. Women are all over the place in how they want to receive oral. Some like a firmer approach. Sometimes a lot firmer. An FWB when I was in grad school once urged me to get my teeth engaged with her clit. For most women I’ve known even a gentle nibble from me would have brought an abrupt end to the session. This woman wanted a lot of teeth. After a gentle dental caress she said "Harder! Bite it harder! Why do you think they call it eating?" 😂 My recommendation to you is that if you find yourself with a woman where the opportunity to give her head presents itself, you should ask her upfront about how she likes to be eaten, and tell her you want at least a bit of feedback about what feels good and what feels better. Don’t you do that when you are receiving a blowjob?

When my wife was in her single days of having relationships with cheating married men, she said that they treated her like a treasure and with respect, that's why she preferred them. They not only got sex, sometimes kinky sex, that they didn't get at home, they also got understanding conversation, empathy, and encouragement that they didn't necessarily receive. That's also why we prefer our group of married couples who we play with now. It's not just a quick fuck and goodbye, there is genuine feelings and appreciation between us and the people we fuck. It doesn't both me that my wife will exchange I love you's with one of the guys, he appreciates her and doesn't treat her a a quick fuck whore. He cares.

Fantasyfun, I think this guy's a keeper I hope it continues to develop into a long term boyfriend sort of situation. My wife had that with two different men (not at the same time), and it was grand. I'm really, really glad your wife is having such a good time!!

Jeez, my wife and I have been together for 33 yrs now and I can count the times she's actually swallowed probably on one hand. The first time she almost gagged to death and it was shortly after I met her when she was 18, essentially had her backed up against the headboard and let one fly so she didn't have much choice other than to accept it. The other...two??...maybe, she was actually more than happy to accommodate. One particular extraordinarily hot and heavy session she actually jumped off after i had cum in her and began frantically going down on me wanted more cum out of it. I vaguely recall one other time...IN 30 PLUS YEARS! So essentially I'm averaging 1 swallow per decade.