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MFMs work because a woman can satisfy multiple men much better than a man can satisfy two women.

There are posts here about couples who have a "No Kissing" rule. I've realized that I enjoy seeing kissing, as deep as they want. Any others? Kissing isn't sex, but it makes it more intense and passionate, something I like doing and seeing.

Hello all, My wife and I are in our 40s and are Evangelical Christians and have been reading alot about how its actually not sin to swing and not adultery, based on scripture. We would love though to maybe chat with another evangelical Christian Couple who are more studied than us just to give us some tips please? We are British and in the UK, so obviously will be virtually but we would really appreciate some tips from a biblical point of view aswell as just knowing we are not the only Christian swingers Hoping another Christian couple will be willing for a quick chat sometme and connect? Thanks all

For me, foreplay can be verbal/visual. Kissing is not a requirement.

We learned that not all goes great when meeting others. Most of us write of great times, great sex and enjoying all we do then we realize life isn’t perfect. We are lucky that we found new friends that help us forget the mistakes we made along the way, not all our meetings turned out the way we wanted. We read, talked and chose wisely and still made mistakes. As careful as I thought we were we found out people aren’t always truthful, people have agendas, people hide facts. My mom used to call me a Pollyanna, I never truly understood the real meaning, I do look for the positives in others, I trust people. I know I am not alone, others have shared negative encounters, I read others. Life is not all roses, true friends open your eyes to beauty.

Everyone is different. How they perceive things in life, and for most everyone changes in acceptance, expectations, morals, beliefs and concerns over a lifetime. Changes in science afford society to change and expand what is acceptable. Up until the late 50s-60s birth control was quite limited and the fear of an unwanted pregnancy was very real for women married or not. It certainly limited women ability to explore their sexuality based on societies norms. But did not completely stop or control all women because a number of had some sexual experience at some point in their lives. And yes infidelity and unwanted pregnancies and unwed pregnancies did happen. So sex happened still, just not talked about, and has been proven by DNA that women have passed their DNA via offspring more than males over the history of humankind. most of us lived through the changes from the 70’s to 2024. Personally I do not think it’s anyone’s business. Over my lifetime my experience has been in many cases the man who judges a woman’s value, relationship value based on a “body” count has enough to hide on his own. After all, if women are having all this sex they must be having it with somebody. And still in this modern era males always looking to get laid get a shitty attitude, judgmental on women who did the same. And so based on that the need to not be truthful, lie, misrepresent, omit etc is a survival mode in this judgmental society. It be like women asking men how often they masturbate. If nothing else in this lifestyle women and men learn pretty quickly that sex as an extracurricular activity and not a relationship/love requirement opens a new world and better defines a relationship. It not only allows women the opportunity to explore themselves but also proves a woman’s body when it comes to consensual sex/sex play has the ability to have multiple partners and for most multiple orgasms as opposed to males.

I worked with a guy once whose wife never paid the bills, and he had no idea what she did with the paycheck. He had cars and furniture repossessed and his electricity, as well as telephones disconnected plus water more than anyone I have ever heard of. He had to borrow money from his parents and couldn't get credit anywhere as well get medical anywhere except the emergency room. Now all that said, one day a fellow worker found out that his wife had been cheating on him. Confessed to us it hurt him real bad but he forgave her. He didn't divorce her. Now, the guy I told you about first, blew up and said no way I would keep that _ od d___ bit__! He should of divorced her! An old man nearby said, "Sir, I don't care for your language and second you should have respect for all women. It sounds to me that the only thing you value of your wife is her pussy ---- not the person. She is a human being first with a soul and feelings. They risk their lives every time knuckle heads like you knock them up and have no sympathy for them. That man understands that. He became her eternal companion because of who she is and care for her, not own her. He understands a woman's privates are not who a female is. They are only a nice necessary package that is attached to them. His desire is to make her happy. She knows that now. He proved it in the most selfless way. I bet my life she will give her life for him. Son, you should ask yourself will your wife die for you? Better yet, he went on, will you give your life for her no matter who she has sex with? Which is more important her privates or the woman? Have respect for women. They make us all who we are. That simple speech I believe changed him. I remember it a lot. I saw many times when that TV camera pan the bench in a college football game those huge players jump up and start waving at the camera and yelling ----------------HI MOM!!!!!!!!!! My wife has had sex with many men. That makes her happy because it's fun. I've been asked what if she leaves you for another man. I say she doesn't have to leave me for him. They can move in. After 53 years of marriage, I can use the rest and above all I know I can count on where the paycheck goes and that the bills will be paid. Now about the topic of this Form. Don't judge people so much from their past. Hope and pray they have learned good things and character from it. If you are still awake, thank you for reading. i

Yeah, we *thought* there are good ones. Have to be … seen too many stories on here of how much some couples absolutely LOVE their MFMs! We know it’ll be somewhat of a slog, but in the end it’ll be worth the effort. Our swingers site account is on Ess Ell Ess (read it phonetically). We can search on our own there using the criteria you mentioned — plus those who are *paid* — but we’re not quiiiiite ready to do that yet. We unblocked our Profile to singles back in late October and we’ve heard from around 60 males. (NO females … go figure!) 50 or so are rejects for various reasons, but the other 10 are worth considering and 2-3 seem like gems. The absolute best of the lot, judging from his introductory message and profile, lives two hours from here … we likely wouldn’t have searched that far away. But it’s in a NC coastal city that we love to visit anyway, so it wouldn’t be a huge burden to pay him a visit even if we don’t click. We’d still have a nice dinner and drinks, and get to spend another weekend in a place we enjoy … WIN WIN!

There certainly are good single guys out there. In fact, there are some golden single guys out there. I've been friends with a couple single guys I met in the lifestyle for going on 20 years now. But, you'll wade through a lot of no-goes for sure. I don't know what swingers site you are on, but I would look at contacting some single guys yourself, and if you have the option to, I would filter by those only are certified, have photos, and have been active in the past 30 days or so.

We very much play on the first date, and plan to do so. That doesn't mean it always happens. Sometimes, as others have mentioned their is a lack of chemistry, or the other couple doesn't want to play on the first date or a host of other reasons. That is fine and their choice and we have no issue with it, we're not going to pressure anybody to do something they don't want. However, we are on a swinger web site to meet people and have sex with them. And, if we have great sex with them, we want to meet them again, have sex with them again, and this way we become friends with them, which is great! We would much prefer to have sex with the people first, and then become friends. We have met several lifestyle friends this way. Its always great to meet up with them, catch up as it were, and then have great sex with them. We also have made friends first, finally went to have sex with them, and it was not all that great. Now, we have friends that can't understand why we can get together with them, but are reluctant to move forward to the bedroom. Yes, we can, and have been honest with these folks, but as much as honesty is preached here, (and its important), not everybody likes honesty, especially when it's not what they want to hear. So instead of having great sex with friends, we end up in an awkward situation with friends, and nobody has sex. Or, If we decide to have sex with them, so we don't hurt our friends feelings, because, well, they're our friends, we end up in a situation were both of us are "taking one for the team."

Basically it's another fetish and not really meant to be analyzed beyond that. You could argue that it's wrong to tie people up, blindfold them and whip them and of course you're right. But in the context of a fetish where all parties are consenting adults who are engaged in the act for mutual pleasure, then there's nothing wrong with it - even if you don't understand it. The BBC thing is the same.

Looks like an asshole joined and started this thread, jerked off and never came back. Bye Bye Bye.

Are you guys okay? We are all concerned.

I'd bet the other couple's sex life just caught fire 🔥🔥 It's probably good that things didn't progress far. It gives them some time to talk and figure things out a bit. Keep us posted! I think we're all curious!

We met this couple and we all agreed to play. They were very nice personally and we had a great playtime.

How could I not? :) Though, I didn't want to interject too much. One of them in particular was fantastic for her. She could not get enough sex with him. I didn't want to deny her time having sex with him, when I could have sex with her at home. A week later, she followed this evening up with a solo date with him. Hours and hours of sex. She came home a very happy woman :)

We have always had an agreement that if a 'mistake' should happen and my wife gets pregnant from another man while swinging we will accept the child and raise him/her as our own. I was always prepared to accept that possibility - although it never happened. It gave my wife peace of mind knowing that an accident like that wouldn't ruin our marriage.

Kissing does have an extra layer of intimacy. That is why we like to kiss partners. We both like to see each other kiss.

Like I said before: How can you have sex without foreplay? How can you have foreplay without kissing?

And if doing oral on each others genitals is ok, why not kissing?

Daniela and I kiss other partners, but the most exciting thing is for one or both of us to be fucking someone else, but kissing one another. We've also had situations where we fucking each other, but kissing someone else. I don't like that as much.

The ability to kiss is one of the reasons I prefer missionary over doggy. And although you can kiss during cowgirl, it's somehow not the same. (If I'm going to bend over during cowgirl, it's usually so he can put his mouth on my tits.)

Never have understood the no kissing rule. Doing everything except kiss? I know all the reasons why I just don't get it.

Yep we've been to the lux they have rooms for such things. Some things are better left to a personal level rather then a big crowd or a big crowd behind closed doors. We are looking for a place that we can search for a couple go out for drinks and establish an actual friendship that has its intentions to see each other naked eventually or planned ect.

Because for men fidelity is instinctually important to ensure paternity of the child the woman he has committed to is theirs. These instincts developed before birth control and paternity tests. So a woman who has faithfully fucked her husband ten million times is ok, but the woman who has had ten partners is not. I'm an odd guy because I am proud of the fact that my wife's number is five times mine. Although as she has pointed out as a previously married man, I had much more sex than her.

Neither of us has had a lost condom experience. we both have had several broken condom experiences a few when we were dating each other prompting her to go on the pill. She has had other men accidentally cum inside her due to the condom tearing. I have had the same happen to me while with other women during our lifestyle experiences. But we never had a panic over it. Most always it was laughed off. with one younger couple we met and played with the young man came in the queens mouth the recovered and during some vigorous pumping had the condom fail and emptied himself inside her. His wife was the apologetic one. But we laughed it off. Her husband said we might as well go without a condom as it was only fair to his wife. She jumped at the chance. We spent the afternoon and later after dinner the evening playing with each other skipping the condoms intirely. We ended up being great friends both in and out of the bedroom. I had one experience with a younger mid thirties woman who required condoms for her birth control but she didn’t panic she told us she only played when her cycle was not ovulating. My last experience I was very apologetic, stated it tore, but she and her husband thought it as a huge turn on. He pulled out of my wife took off his condom, mounted his wife and came in his wife. They said it was always a fantasy they shared but were afraid to ask swing partners. They also joined our group of friends for more adventures. Again, it is and can be serious depending on the couple or woman involved and you must be upfront about it. We were lucky that most did not find it disturbing.

We had a chuckle when a sex partner left his condom in her and his cum ended dribbling down her ass. We knew nothing would happen to her as she takes birth control and the condom was an extra precaution. We all laughed as one of the ladies licked up the remains.

1. No 2. It doesn't matter, it's my choice either way, which I would make with my husband.