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For us, deep kissing is absolutely part of a nice date with another sexual partner. For her, it is an elementary part of preparing for his entry into her vagina and being able to let herself completely go.

Interesting. For me, what fires my desire to have sex with my husband after he's had sex with another woman is my jealousy, which has never gone away. Unfortunately, he is usually not physically able to immediately go again. Taking him in my mouth, however, is satisfying. I may be satisfied, I may be spent, but when he wants me right after another man has taken me, just as I am, sloppy and sweaty, it turns me on tremendously.

John Lennon: God is a Concept by which we measure our pain I'll say it again God is a Concept by which we measure our pain I don't believe in magic I don't believe in I-ching I don't believe in Bible I don't believe in Tarot I don't believe in Hitler I don't believe in Jesus I don't believe in Kennedy I don't believe in Buddha I don't believe in Mantra I don't believe in Gita I don't believe in Yoga I don't believe in Kings I don't believe in Elvis I don't believe in Zimmerman I don't believe in Beatles I just believe in me, Yoko and me, and that's reality

Anyone have a clue on this? We aren't looking to swap pretty sure we don't fit the criteria of soft kinda up to whomever your dealing with. But we are looking to go out flirt laugh and maybe go back to the house and watch another couple have sex or vice versa but....how do you search that??

MyLab Box. You still need to send in and wait. Depending on what you are testing for there are different tests which is expensive. Our suggestion if you have symptoms take the smarter choice of seeing a doctor. If you are actively meeting strangers get checked on a regular basis. The biggest suggestion is know who you are with.

Yes, not kissing would make me feel like I was holding back, especially during orgasm.

I would say that age has changed a lot for me. I can feel significant changes, especially in terms of potency and the ability to have an orgasm and cum inside her. I can no longer hold out as long and cum as easily as I used to. By involving other men, we were able to compensate for this and she can continue to enjoy her naturalness as normal.

Hello and sorry if my posting might have a few comprehensibility errors. English is not my native language. We are a Christian couple that lives our faith, takes it seriously and also enjoys having sex with others. It's certainly not swinging in the true sense, as it's more about threesomes with men, but a foursome with another couple would also be a sensual experience for us. Since no one would be betrayed or used, we find it a natural way to share love with others. For us it means not keeping our intimate love relationship as a couple to ourselves, but sharing it with others and we also see sexuality as a gift from God to us humans that belongs in good hands. We see our love as something valuable that we like to share with others as a form of gratitude and thus make others happy and let them share in our love. We have very good friends with men with whom my wife and I enjoy having intimate contact and who are very good for her and our love. If one of the friends has sex with her, he is part of our happiness at that moment and we give him part of our relationship happiness in return. There is no cheating because we decide or do everything together and we accept the men into our relationship together. When it comes to the whole topic, you simply shouldn't forget the naturalness of the attraction between men and women and the naturalness of sexuality. Lust is a gift from god that is not necessary to have children on your own. Especially when you look at the body, the woman with the clitoris has an organ as a gift from god that is only responsible for her sole desire and pleasure. And this desire and sexuality has been given to us, with many facets and also with the possibility of having children. We also have a clear Christian view on this. Accepting sexuality as a wonderful, valuable gift, as well as the life given to us, are absolutely Christian foundations for us. Our love has become much deeper, more intimate and stronger through sharing with others. And we can meet each other more openly and be more honest with each other.

@couplers yes so true. It all depends on her interest and desire We have had a number of solo males and several solo females over the years that were in a sexless marriage/relationship that ranged from medical, distance, lost interest….but still married. In our experience all were over 45 yo and the oldest was a lovely woman who at the time was 67 (2004). All had no issue with having us check that out. All had hall passes from their spouse. A few we developed a social friendship with. It worked because it was just sex. https://www.statista.com/statistics/1367096/us-sexless-marriage-by-generation/ we also have advised couple and singles interested to attend a house party or club. You will find willing participants join in a safe/friendly enviroment. And usually the hosts at the party can point you in the right direction.

Everyone, every couple, is on the spectrum between vanilla and lifestyle, I believe, either IRL or in their fantasies. If it is in their fantasies, then you are doing them a favor teasing it out. Interesting that the Lesbian approach was the one that made the connection. Were there any previous signs. Were the women nude? My prediction is that the next step will be same room sex between spouses. Good luck!

I always enjoyed 'reclaiming' sex. The thoughts that another guy had been there, done that excited me, made me harder. As a result, my wife always enjoyed it a little bit more.

We started young (around 30) and back then we were attractive, insatiably horny and energetic. Now we're in our 50s. We try to stay in shape and watch what we eat. I take Viagra now and I get pretty tired if I'm playing past midnight. When we play with couples we usually like them mature like us bc we don't want to pale by comparison. But when we play with single males we like them 10 or so years younger - and we seem to play with a lot of single males these days.

For us, regardless of the swinging activity, it was always just extended foreplay for our lovemaking.

Hi! There was lots of kissing. It was really great. The women both came a couple times each. It was really playful to start, and during most of it. Towards the end we got down to business. All-in-all, it was a great experience!!

I find it interesting that you've never received oral sex from your wife. I have a feeling that might change when you continue down this lifestyle. Just don't get too upset or bitter if another dick makes it into her mouth before yours.

Hi. I typed a reply, but it seems to have disappeared. 😂. It was very much a group effort. Not a threesome. We had discussed where we could cum early in the encounter. From start to finish, it was about 30ish minutes. Not super long, but super fun! it was the neighbors wife that gave me a BJ, while my wife and her husband danced and made out. The girls each came twice. Then it was the boys turn. I came in my wife, while the neighbor was giving her husband oral, and she was rubbing my balls. I came in my wife, while the neighbor stroked it out of her husband on my wife’s chest. there are ZERO regrets. We sat and talked and drank for 2 hours afterwards. This morning, my wife and I agreed that it was a lot of fun!!

Thanks for all the feedback… well we made decisions and we will live with them. Went to their house last night. Had a few drinks. Wife was slow dancing with the neighbor. Sat on the couch. Got a very nice blow job. Neighbor did my wife. I did his wife. He came on my wife’s chest and I came in her. neighbor’s wife didn’t want any in her or on her. That’s ok with me! I guess we are in the LS now? 😂

For a couple to not miss out on "younger fun," yet be secure with partner sharing, I think it best that they meet and fall in love in the lifestyle.

Best age is before 50, our age when we started. We missed out on younger fun. When your relationship is secure is the best age.

I love cum and hair pulling; I love to feel cum being pumped into me and on me. I also love feeling cum dry on my nipples. Also; it really turns me on when a man holds my head by my hair as I have him in my mouth, feeling the grip slowly tighten as he approaches orgasm. I also have a thing for silk and satin, the touch is so sensuous and erotic.

Bareback swinging or hookups are probably my biggest fetish, along with women being a bit of a size queen. I often return to this forum to share a link of the polls here on bareback sex.

The benefit of allowing a wife to stoke and feed her sex passions is that increases her desires for you. And unlike a man, sex with other partners doesn't diminish her physical capabilities for more sex. Well done. I find that touching. May I ask, after discussing the weather, how does the conversation about your wife go?

Good evening everyone and happy new year. We have deserted the flake. The gentleman who we connected with mid November has been going great. He is 14 years older than my wife which I beleive is a kink for them both. She is the hot sexy young woman and he is the mature dom male. My wife has been going over weekly during her extended lunch hour ☺️. He had introduced her to anal with baby steps which she is slowly begging to enjoy. She says the sex has been incredibly which is great to hear. After each session, we sit down and talk about the date. She really enjoys his size, passion and endurance. The after sex care has been good, they typically cuddle and then take a shower together, rather then the last male who was wam, ban and out the door lol. This current gentleman and I keep in touch by text daily and go for coffee every so often. Hopefully this keeps going strong. I do find that our relationship has grown stronger and we have sex more often. Regards

My marriage started as a threesome; I brought my boyfriend (ex-fiancé) along with me. The love and the sex were wonderful, but it was a challenge keeping them satisfied, but I never failed to respond positively to any hint that either one (or both together) of them wanted it. Women have it easily that way. And I never regretted having made love or letting either of my men just "use" me. It wasn't that I needed help sexually that led me to set up my husband with other women, it was the thrill of knowing, watching, participating with in him and another woman.

I find these "how we met" marriage stories romantic. How it should be - love blossoming obviously without sexual jealousy.

I've been with quite a number of women. I can't say I've ever observed a woman to have a "fat" or "skinny" pussy. Reality; a lot of men are shitty. Sad, but very true. Please don't allow these men from your past to live in your brain rent free. They're in the past for a reason. I can't imagine any reason why you should feel self conscious about your pussy. Plus, dicks don't come equipped with eyes. :) We are our own worst critics. You could be a perfect 10+ bombshell and still find fault with yourself. I've observed this before. There was a young lady of my acquaintance whom I interacted with on a daily basis. She was amazing in every way. VERY smart, quite talented, easy to talk with and hang around with, and absolutely gorgeous. When she wasn't around, I heard quite a number of young men talking about her, about how perfect she was. Yet, I once inadvertently overheard her talking in highly critical terms of her body. I couldn't believe my ears. At the end of the day, it's not you who gets to decide if you're beautiful or not. It's not you who gets to decide if your body has imperfections or not. All you can do is put your best self forward, and let the world worry about itself. I seriously, SERIOUSLY doubt that if you do get into swinging and find yourself getting into bed with a man other than your husband that that man is going to see you naked and go "OMG!!! SHE HAS A FAT PUSSY!!! I'M OUTTA HERE!" It just isn't going to happen. Whatever questions you have about swinging, let us know! We're a helpful bunch and will be happy to answer your questions!

If I find a woman attractive and like her personality I could care less what her pussy looks like as long as it not a penis! It isn’t any more important to me then what a guys penis looks like to my lady. Sexual organs do not define a person as attractive and something we do not need to see to know if we find someone attractive or not. In fact if that is all people show on their online profiles we are not even going to bother talking to them.

That was me. During my physically formative, early teen years, my older sister tormented me about my pussy. I have a much larger than average clit, especially for my skinny (or athletic, as I like to think of it) body. My sister speculated that I was growing a penis, which frightened me. I also have a tight, smaller outer labia and a larger, full labia minora. Not those big meat curtains as some women have, but my inner ones are well outside the outer ones. So I had plenty of worries what guys would think of my cunt and of me. As it turns out, they like it! Then I found out women like it too. Now I'm proud of my pussy.

So to reply to your actual question … most men have never “met” a pussy they didn’t like! ;-D You’ll be fine …

You need to go to a nude beach, after you see all the different shapes and sizes and scars, you will leave feeling much better about yourself!

I can only speak for myself, but I don't think about a women's physique, personality is more of a concern for me. Sure I have had different shapes of pussy and I like my pussy bald and with a big clitoris, but it doesn't matter, I love them all.

My wife experimteted by cheating with her friends husband. Her friend participated the first two times. Then he asked if he could have one on one sex with my wife. The idea to involve me came about and we started to swing as two couples. I found out about the cheating part later on. Effetimely my wife made the decision that we should brcome swingers. Swinging definitely changed our sex life. Lots of new things like oral and new positions. Many years ago before we were married we swapped just time with friends. We now tp get back with them and have a fun time.

Like everything in the lifestyle it is a matter of choice, desire, preference etc etc. As most everyone will agree it is totally a matter that needs…and must be discussed openly…honestly….and agreed upon by all without coaxing, influence, persuasion and the worst……pleading….begging….or just plain assumption or surprise/trickery. Neither of us or our friends have ever resorted to this. We all have had rare occasion with someone, mostly single/solo males who have tried but were denied……my experience with women has been it is expected the man would wear one. This has been true for our decades of experience. Now having said that I will now point out that we have a number of LS friends with benefits and we have been condomless for over 15 years. No one offs or new one time only get togethers/meet ups at all for the same time period. We are highly social within in our circle, vanilla friends mixing with our FWB and family regularly. To the point of it’s just accepted life. Intimacy with those FWB couples and singles, together, grouped or solo just happens, occasionally planned, occasionally it’s a booty call…the need for attention….just finishes as the woman wants. I will point out that most all of us in our circle are over 55…..most over 60 with a few, mostly single/solo ladies late 40s. More then mature/experienced enough to decide for themselves….and not shy to ask for what they want…..even in the heat of the moment. I can also state, more to “confussedhubby” point, enjoyed being a safe “go to” for couples and single/solo women at our club (now closed as of last September) for the past several years looking for “fantasy/experiences” or just some adult enjoyment/pleasure and I would say honestly 80% of the time condomless but not always finishing in the woman, but always on her request, how and where she wanted (known before play started) and mutually agreed upon openly when a couple. Surprisingly but pleasant my experience has been most of my single/solo female experiences preferred no condom and most preferred the final round to finish orally or inside her. Even a few of those that were much younger. (I was known to be a safe, experience, trusted, V-safe playmate) Keep in mind our club was not an open door, open to the general public, no walk-ins, commercial operation. And new attendees single/solo/couples that returned would see the same people attending on a regular (twice per month) basis. So getting to know….really know people was the norm.

If you’re looking to have a same room experience with just one other couple, it’s not likely to happen at a club … most couples there are looking for either a true swap experience or to just have their own fun. You should open a membership at a site such as SLS, SDC, or Kasidie. (I’m sure there must be others, but those are the ones I’ve heard of.) I don’t know about the latter two, but SLS allows you to search for couples within X miles of a specific geographic location and it indicates every member’s level of interest in Full, Soft, and Watch. You might have better luck going that route.

Never say 'better', just different. I'm sure that you are 'better' at other things...I mean different.

From Katrina: First, stick to the information you know, not suppositions that simply appear valid. In swinging, if one member of the couple becomes uncomfortable things stop and are reviewed until the marriage returns to being the primary focus. Lastly, sex is powerful, if you play on the edge of its your nose gets 'bloodied' once in a while. Lastly, you are never locked into agreeing to anything, ever. From Driver X: How can any of this be a surprise to you."My wife is taking a day with a guy she used to fuck. They fucked a lot and mostly as he cheated on his girlfriends. My wife LOVED the sex. In fact their recent new encounter was made to seem improvised yet may have been slightly planned or, at least came together far too easily, They're doing it once a week, now. What could go wrong ?" She's making plans and they don't include you. He knows what he's doing; he's done it for a very long time. He knows exactly how to get his cock, into your wife.

Swingers have to play with swingers, not cheaters. The lifestyle has a code of ethics. Cheating is based on duplicity and lying. Swinging is based on truth and disclosure. Swinging separately requires a higher level of trust. It’s not going to work with cheaters. They are different approaches. That is why you feel uncomfortable. Your wife is involved in an extramarital affair, not a true swinging experience. That’s my take, others may disagree or find this arrangement a turn on. But only your feelings and those of your wife matter.

If you are comfortable with the guy, and have your hard limits established, then let things develop as they will. Do not over choreograph it. This is a dance which varies with the people.

Me as well but also seeing another male cum inside my wife´s pussy...

I have to admit I like the thrill of going bareback into a strange pussy. I've been lucky so far and would probably have a different story if I had received a gift

I find sex less pleasurable with them, I can feel a difference. They interrupt things and get in the way. Men generally perform worse. I like men cumming inside me.

1. Sex is better without condoms 2. Sex is better without STDs and STIs 3. See rule number 2.

Condoms are a problem for me. I have a thicker than average cock, though average length. Over the years, I've tried various condoms but found out that thinner condoms tended to break. Yes, I was careful, yet even so they broke. This being bad of course, I ended up settling on thicker condoms to prevent this. Will I use them? Sure. But, I dislike them, and it most definitely affects feeling. So, I prefer bareback, but I've only barebacked with my wife (well, since we got married ). My wife prefers no condoms, and prefers a man cumming inside of her. She has a long term (years) play partner with whom she goes bareback. With new partners, it's always been condoms. She is, far more than any other woman I've ever been with, much more turned on by a naked cock than one with a condom. For basically any other woman I've been with, it hasn't really mattered to them from a feeling standpoint. For my wife though, it's far more erotic and sexually satisfying for her to go bareback. To the STD issue and statistics; sure it would stand to reason that swingers would have more STDs. But, without real studies we don't know. There's supposition both ways. Of course, bacteria and viruses don't care about supposition or statistics. Yes, there are risks, and any responsible adult needs to take that into account. A fun related note; I've recently had a health issue that could have potentially been caused by an STD, though a somewhat low chance. Other possibilities weren't providing an answer, and the doctor was puzzled. So, I asked for an STD test, checking off a number of STDs for which I wanted to be checked. My doctor knows I've been married for quite a long while now, so he was perplexed. I could see him begin to form the question on his lips, but he never brought himself to ask. It was hard not to smile Everything came back clean thankfully.

I have no problems with wearing a condom, but I prefer bareback (vaginal) sex for the warmth, moisture, and intimacy. These subtle nuances are lost when I'm wearing a condom; sex becomes as insipid as food without flavor. Take a soft breeze, for instance. It feels better against my skin after I've felt a woman's warmth and wetness. I lose that when when I wear a condom.

Selectivity is the key. Random partners and mechanical sex has never been for us. We share intimacy with our playmates and are more than reasonably certain that they are disease free. Condoms reduce the level of intimacy for us and are a firm rule on those few occasions that we attend and play at on premises clubs. All of life is a risk, most hobbies, even knitting, entail some risk so we strive to eliminate the risk of STD through our selection process. So far its worked..

That's pretty much my husband's view in a nutshell. Also like others, he loses sensitivity as he has gotten older and has trouble cumming with a condom, even though we buy the thinnest ones available. As for me, I sometimes have dryness issue when it comes to condoms but not when it's bareback. I know I can always use lube but it just feels more organic and intimate without condoms. And I have to admit, I do like the feeling of a man cumming inside me and cum dripping out.

Glad you enjoy the cream pie so much. We discovered the joy a woman gets being eaten after good sex quite by accident when a bi friend ate her after a session. Since that time, she has eagerly sought out guys that like to do that to her. Recently, after making love in the marital bed, I kissed my way down her body and licked her clit. While I didn't "eat the cream pie", it was something that I had never done before. I only did it because I know that she enjoys it so much. To tell the truth, I wasn't totally turned-off either. I do have to agree that sliding myself into her after she has already played with someone else is an incredible feeling! I will often wait until she a friend are done just so that I can have sex with my wife's hot slick pussy.

Thanks for the response. Sounds like your husband is very much like me - He enjoys the sight and taste of your sloppy cum filled cunt. It took Mary a bit to get use to the idea but then it really turned her on for me to eat the other fellows cum from her pussy. When she returned from a date she would smile and slip off her panties and say, "I brought you home a treat.... I have never had any desire to suck cock myself but my wife says that I am a cocksucker by proxy since I have ate so much cum from her cunt. Would love to exchange experiences.

You and my husband are on the same page. One of his favorite things (mine too!) is for him to go down on me after another guy has cum inside of me!

We've yet to wash during playtime unless something gets messy. We were in a small group setting once and one of the men came over to kiss me and he smelled like pussy and it was a complete turn-on for me. I agree that the smell of sex is part of the total experience. Too many people are too concerned with washing away the natural scents the body emits. If you wash away the pheremones, what's the point? We do wash up after the activity has ceased for the night though.