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For us, deep kissing is absolutely part of a nice date with another sexual partner. For her, it is an elementary part of preparing for his entry into her vagina and being able to let herself completely go.

Interesting. For me, what fires my desire to have sex with my husband after he's had sex with another woman is my jealousy, which has never gone away. Unfortunately, he is usually not physically able to immediately go again. Taking him in my mouth, however, is satisfying. I may be satisfied, I may be spent, but when he wants me right after another man has taken me, just as I am, sloppy and sweaty, it turns me on tremendously.

John Lennon: God is a Concept by which we measure our pain I'll say it again God is a Concept by which we measure our pain I don't believe in magic I don't believe in I-ching I don't believe in Bible I don't believe in Tarot I don't believe in Hitler I don't believe in Jesus I don't believe in Kennedy I don't believe in Buddha I don't believe in Mantra I don't believe in Gita I don't believe in Yoga I don't believe in Kings I don't believe in Elvis I don't believe in Zimmerman I don't believe in Beatles I just believe in me, Yoko and me, and that's reality

Anyone have a clue on this? We aren't looking to swap pretty sure we don't fit the criteria of soft kinda up to whomever your dealing with. But we are looking to go out flirt laugh and maybe go back to the house and watch another couple have sex or vice versa but....how do you search that??

I was just wondering how the women here who've done gangbangs felt after their first one. My first big gangbang was with another woman and we had 12 guys show up. It was pretty intense for both of us because we may have overestimated the number of guys we could take. It was really difficult for both of us because we each played with all 12 guys and we both did anal. There were times during that night when we thought we couldn't take any more. Afterwards I had a mix of emotions. I was exhausted but after about an hour I felt a sense of calmness and peace. It might sound strange but I was really proud of myself. What really surprised me was that before the night was over I was feeling horny again and played with some of the couples who had come to watch our gangbang.

Symptom free, just wanting to get a clean bill of health from the STI standpoint and keep it that way!

Imagine there’s no heaven. It’s easy if you try. No hell below us. Above us only sky. Imagine all the people living life in peace. You may say that I’m a dreamer. But I’m not the only one. I hope someday you’ll join us. And the world will live as one.

We are looking to start in the very same way, connect with like minded people just like vanilla dating (crawl, walk, run, fly). We’ve watched and read TONS of advice and this seems to be the best approach. We live in Connecticut & it’s like trying to find a blizzard in Florida. It took us all half a lifetime to find our spouses & this will take time too. Good luck and don’t give up!

Hello and sorry if my posting might have a few comprehensibility errors. English is not my native language. We are a Christian couple that lives our faith, takes it seriously and also enjoys having sex with others. It's certainly not swinging in the true sense, as it's more about threesomes with men, but a foursome with another couple would also be a sensual experience for us. Since no one would be betrayed or used, we find it a natural way to share love with others. For us it means not keeping our intimate love relationship as a couple to ourselves, but sharing it with others and we also see sexuality as a gift from God to us humans that belongs in good hands. We see our love as something valuable that we like to share with others as a form of gratitude and thus make others happy and let them share in our love. We have very good friends with men with whom my wife and I enjoy having intimate contact and who are very good for her and our love. If one of the friends has sex with her, he is part of our happiness at that moment and we give him part of our relationship happiness in return. There is no cheating because we decide or do everything together and we accept the men into our relationship together. When it comes to the whole topic, you simply shouldn't forget the naturalness of the attraction between men and women and the naturalness of sexuality. Lust is a gift from god that is not necessary to have children on your own. Especially when you look at the body, the woman with the clitoris has an organ as a gift from god that is only responsible for her sole desire and pleasure. And this desire and sexuality has been given to us, with many facets and also with the possibility of having children. We also have a clear Christian view on this. Accepting sexuality as a wonderful, valuable gift, as well as the life given to us, are absolutely Christian foundations for us. Our love has become much deeper, more intimate and stronger through sharing with others. And we can meet each other more openly and be more honest with each other.

@couplers yes so true. It all depends on her interest and desire We have had a number of solo males and several solo females over the years that were in a sexless marriage/relationship that ranged from medical, distance, lost interest….but still married. In our experience all were over 45 yo and the oldest was a lovely woman who at the time was 67 (2004). All had no issue with having us check that out. All had hall passes from their spouse. A few we developed a social friendship with. It worked because it was just sex. https://www.statista.com/statistics/1367096/us-sexless-marriage-by-generation/ we also have advised couple and singles interested to attend a house party or club. You will find willing participants join in a safe/friendly enviroment. And usually the hosts at the party can point you in the right direction.

MFMs work because a woman can satisfy multiple men much better than a man can satisfy two women.

No matter what the party/playtime might have been we were always 90% into reclaiming sex….mostly a quickly….maybe some oral stimulation….and a rigorous stimulated round with each other. a few times when exhaustion was too much some dosing and then that early am round. We were teased often for waking up others at 2,3,4 am with our activity. Even later, as we got older it was still our mutual desire to finish the night with each other. Our friends still tease us to this day….we wear that badge with honor. (FYI…..We are both 65….we love showing off to the younger crowd lol)

We're well into our 50s now. Before menopause, my wife's sexual appetite was fairly frequently very high. Swinging was a good fit for us, as it allowed her to have as much sex as she wanted, usually as often as she wanted it. After menopause, my wife's sexual appetite sadly began to fade. She's at a point now where she has no objection to swinging in principle, but it holds no interest for her. It's fine if I play, and she's happy with that. My own appetite hasn't diminished, just Mr. Happy's ability to keep at it through multiple orgasms. I also take a low dose cialis, which serves well. I have a lady (in addition to my wonderful wife) with whom I have sex about a dozen times a year. She's our age, post menopausal, but her sex appetite hasn't diminished at all.

We started young (around 30) and back then we were attractive, insatiably horny and energetic. Now we're in our 50s. We try to stay in shape and watch what we eat. I take Viagra now and I get pretty tired if I'm playing past midnight. When we play with couples we usually like them mature like us bc we don't want to pale by comparison. But when we play with single males we like them 10 or so years younger - and we seem to play with a lot of single males these days.

We did. However when it came time to finish up, they came off.

I never wear a condom with Wu including when we were at parties. When I went bareback with another woman I would wash off in the sink unless someone wanted to lick me off. I love to eat pussy, difficult to take a break when it's busy. I agree with Numex, if we were in a closed group plan on changing the sheets when they are soaked, in the meantime make use of all that natural lube!

Best age is before 50, our age when we started. We missed out on younger fun. When your relationship is secure is the best age.

For the both of us it's cum. Suzy likes the raw sexualness of it, and the feeling of it on her (more than in her). I love the visual of it happening, and of a cum covered body. We only have very minimal swinging experience. Our first time was a spontaneous hookup with a couple, and both husbands went bareback. Not the smartest or safest thing we've ever done, and wouldn't do again, but there is an amazing sensuality to cum play. I don't consider myself bisexual, but making love to Suzy while the 2 of us played with his cum....ummmazing. Also, Suzy has recently discovered the ability to squirt. It's not like the porn movies (do those women drink a gallon of water beforehand??) But it's erotic AF. A quick rush of fluid, followed by a trickle of a stream for as long as she can handle. Not sure if that counts as my kink or hers or both : )

I totally get it. If my wife invites a couple over for the evening I'll be very turned on. If my wife texts me something provocative from a date she's having with a single male my libido starts doing backflips.

Some of you have been so helpful and I appreciate the honest responses. I do think I'm beautiful. I'm kind, friendly, attentive, social, I have a lot of different talents...I am a good caring person. I am truly so hard on myself. I feel a lot better about our upcoming adventure though now and I'm actually feeling a bit excited about it...so thank you all.

My husband talked to me about this again and said he's seen a lot of pussy and literally mine is perfect...so I guess I gotta believe him. I never would have thought anything of it but I hated dated very sh!tty men in my past and things have been said to me which is why I think I formed this opinion of myself. Time to move past it I suppose.

The differences are not only attractive, they are important. How boring if all breasts, vulvas, or for that matter noses looked alike. Remember, they are interested in you, not just a small part of your body. A woman is the WHOLE pqackage!

That was me. During my physically formative, early teen years, my older sister tormented me about my pussy. I have a much larger than average clit, especially for my skinny (or athletic, as I like to think of it) body. My sister speculated that I was growing a penis, which frightened me. I also have a tight, smaller outer labia and a larger, full labia minora. Not those big meat curtains as some women have, but my inner ones are well outside the outer ones. So I had plenty of worries what guys would think of my cunt and of me. As it turns out, they like it! Then I found out women like it too. Now I'm proud of my pussy.

So to reply to your actual question … most men have never “met” a pussy they didn’t like! ;-D You’ll be fine …

My wife experimteted by cheating with her friends husband. Her friend participated the first two times. Then he asked if he could have one on one sex with my wife. The idea to involve me came about and we started to swing as two couples. I found out about the cheating part later on. Effetimely my wife made the decision that we should brcome swingers. Swinging definitely changed our sex life. Lots of new things like oral and new positions. Many years ago before we were married we swapped just time with friends. We now tp get back with them and have a fun time.

Super hot. I love this approach-- very mature and responsible way to have incredible sexy times. Six for sex is an awesome number--especially with total freedom.

Wife and I started in the swinging lifestyle in early 70's and from the very start we decided that condoms were not required. Of course this was way before AIDS and she was on the pill but we both thought the condom would take away the pleasure. From the very first every guy she fucked came in her pussy. At first she would douche after fucking another guy but one night I got to her before she did the douche and though she protested once I got my tongue in her cunt she was so turned on by the FACT THAT I WAS LICKING HER LOVER'S CUM FROM HER PUSSY THAT SHE HAD AN INTENSE ORGASM. I grabbed her butt and pulled her pussy to my face and loved the feel and taste. Then I slipped my own cock into her slick cunt and it felt so great. She said "you are going to mix your cum with his, aren't you?" You can bet I did, that time and every other time when she fucked another guy - and there were many other guys over the years, but her pussy never wore out and all the fellows loved her hairy cunt.

If you’re looking to have a same room experience with just one other couple, it’s not likely to happen at a club … most couples there are looking for either a true swap experience or to just have their own fun. You should open a membership at a site such as SLS, SDC, or Kasidie. (I’m sure there must be others, but those are the ones I’ve heard of.) I don’t know about the latter two, but SLS allows you to search for couples within X miles of a specific geographic location and it indicates every member’s level of interest in Full, Soft, and Watch. You might have better luck going that route.

After having a Ménage a Trois with the wife of our new friends it was decided that Debbie would join them without me. Quid pro quo. This is the couple that Debbie dated him in college and we found on a swinger date site. I’m still not that confident in myself watching her with anyone and though he is a great guy who I can now call my friend I still couldn’t stop thinking. Debbie is still exploring her own sexuality and bi side and I was hoping that was going to be the main sexual acts even when I knew it wasn’t. I know I can trust her after we had our previous meetings. In our brief experience in swinging we always talked after thanks to recommendations from many on here. When Debbie came home I wanted to know how it went and asked questions. I promised myself not to ask the was it better and it slipped. We had made a deal to never ask that and then on her first time without me involved I asked.

I know that Lora and Clair are "better" than me in certain aspects, and at certain times hubby and Red would rather be with one of them for sex than me. But that's ok, that's why we're not monogamous. Besides, I get the credit anyway when hubby gets a good screw from another woman. I love hearing the details, getting jealous, and getting him back.

Prefer having my pussy totally hairless. I like the way it looks and most men have said they like the look and ease of giving me oral

Hair. I want to have sex with a woman, not a pre-pubescent girl, thank you very much. However, there is nothing wrong with a nice trim.

I agree with everything GoldCoCouple said except the above. We did well starting with people who we already knew, a couple of exes for my wife to start, then friends and acquaintances. Tread carefully, but these are people who we literally trusted our child with, and theirs with us. I suppose it depends whether you're looking for one-and-done arrangements, or something deeper. With the closed group of married couples we play with the trust allows for bareback play, alone play, etc. Consider both.

It's not a bad idea but it would depend on the time between play. If everyone is busy and you have a chance to "sneak off" to wash it might be ok. But if you would stop the party to go and wash yourself it might imply to your playmates that you consider them to be dirty or you might convey to them that you might be dirty. My wife had an obsessive compulsion to "clean" herself, wipe the cum from her pussy, before having sex again. I convinced her to just relax and let it go. She eventually became comfortable feeling "messy".

When we started we used condoms but one night my wife got caught up and forgot so now more or less now we go bare only if we know the couple

Man, I wish I could see it, but my wife is not that transparent. What I have seen is when a guy stops pumping with his hips and his prostate (between his ball sack and asshole) starts pumping cum in her pussy. Makes me want to be the next guy in.

So we have always used condoms during intercourse. It did not stop me from getting trich and BV. You can get an STD from oral just as easy as from intercourse. HPV is also extremely common, with the majority of sexually active people coming in contact with it at some point in their lives. For most people, they naturally clear the HPV on their own, no treatment necessary. Some kinds cause warts, others can cause cervical cancer. Condoms will not prevent all STD's. They only help prevent certain ones like gonorrhea and chlamydia to name a couple. And they must be used 100% of the time and perfectly each time for them to work. Most people do not use them perfectly. Selective playing can lower your risk but you must be able to trust your play partners are tested. But there isn't a test for every STD. And not everyone will have symptoms. We have only ever not used condoms with one couple- the only couple we are playing with now. Yes, we are taking a risk, but we do love the feel of sex without barriers. For me it causes less vaginal dryness and irritation. I also love the feel of hot cum whether it be from my own guy or hers. We have been tested for everything there is a test for and we are clear. I can be reasonably sure we do not have an STD but you never know. We have an agreement that if we want to have sex with another couple then we will tell our current couple before we play next time so condoms can be discussed. Both guys say sex feels better bareback and both have had erection issues when using them. It would also break the mood to have to put on a new one every time we changed positions or partners. I'm a communicable disease nurse so I have easy access to testing and I am pretty knowledgeable on the topic of STDs so I know what risk we are taking. To each his own though. What works for us may not be for everyone.

I have to admit I like the thrill of going bareback into a strange pussy. I've been lucky so far and would probably have a different story if I had received a gift

I truely love unprotected sex for so many reasons... But let me explain before you label me as stupid. There are probably 7 men I have unprotected sex with. They are close to us and there is a next level of trust going on. I don't let everyone pump away down there. It's all psychological. I feel more connected to my partner when our juices really flow. This may just be in my head but i think a man feels better unwrapped... On the more external part anyway. I can feel his heat, the head, the skin pulling on his shaft, etc. To me it feels right, the way it's supposed to be. The taboos make it even better. When a man that isn't my husband cums in me I feel empowered, like I truely took all he had to offer. His orgasm feels better on my end, the way a man really leans into a woman when he ejaculates is driven. Ive never heard a man say a woman feels better with a rubber. Pussy may feel pleasant with a rubber but it can beat the real deal of truly feeling a woman. And for men it's instinct, survival of the species. Cumming in a woman is hard wired, when a man can accomplish that it makes his orgasm gratifying at a cave man level, even if he knows the real outcome. I'm sure I could rattle off more reasons why unprotected sex is better but I'll stop here. Unprotected sex isn't something that should be taken lightly. But when it can happen it should be enjoyed by both.

I find sex less pleasurable with them, I can feel a difference. They interrupt things and get in the way. Men generally perform worse. I like men cumming inside me.

As a woman, a condom does not make a huge difference to me in terms of physical pleasure, but bareback does increase my sense of intimacy and connection to a man when his semen is ejaculated inside me. I do go bareback with very close friends. My husband does lose sensation using even thin condoms. Overall, sex is more pleasurable for both of us bareback, but especially for my husband. However, for the sake of safety we use condoms, except with a few boyfriends whom I know well.

1. Sex is better without condoms 2. Sex is better without STDs and STIs 3. See rule number 2.

Condoms are a problem for me. I have a thicker than average cock, though average length. Over the years, I've tried various condoms but found out that thinner condoms tended to break. Yes, I was careful, yet even so they broke. This being bad of course, I ended up settling on thicker condoms to prevent this. Will I use them? Sure. But, I dislike them, and it most definitely affects feeling. So, I prefer bareback, but I've only barebacked with my wife (well, since we got married ). My wife prefers no condoms, and prefers a man cumming inside of her. She has a long term (years) play partner with whom she goes bareback. With new partners, it's always been condoms. She is, far more than any other woman I've ever been with, much more turned on by a naked cock than one with a condom. For basically any other woman I've been with, it hasn't really mattered to them from a feeling standpoint. For my wife though, it's far more erotic and sexually satisfying for her to go bareback. To the STD issue and statistics; sure it would stand to reason that swingers would have more STDs. But, without real studies we don't know. There's supposition both ways. Of course, bacteria and viruses don't care about supposition or statistics. Yes, there are risks, and any responsible adult needs to take that into account. A fun related note; I've recently had a health issue that could have potentially been caused by an STD, though a somewhat low chance. Other possibilities weren't providing an answer, and the doctor was puzzled. So, I asked for an STD test, checking off a number of STDs for which I wanted to be checked. My doctor knows I've been married for quite a long while now, so he was perplexed. I could see him begin to form the question on his lips, but he never brought himself to ask. It was hard not to smile Everything came back clean thankfully.

I have no problems with wearing a condom, but I prefer bareback (vaginal) sex for the warmth, moisture, and intimacy. These subtle nuances are lost when I'm wearing a condom; sex becomes as insipid as food without flavor. Take a soft breeze, for instance. It feels better against my skin after I've felt a woman's warmth and wetness. I lose that when when I wear a condom.

I see your point, and if it's just a one time thing, then I would agree, you can easily make it part of sex just like the taking clothes off can be made part of sex in a way that adds to, not takes away from, the whole experience. At least for me, it's kind of a one time deal though...yes, the first time she slides her panties down is really sexy, but in an extended play session where you are moving from one thing to another and back again, then putting her panties back on at each transition and then sliding them down again doesn't work the same as it did the first time. That's very true in that you need to base your risk assessment on the tree level, not the forest level. Along those same lines though, not all trees are the same and I would say there are lots of swingers, us included, who don't have 10 different partners in a year. If one's swinging style is more of the exclusive small group or couple variety, where most of your experiences are with the same people, then that changes things a bit and puts it back more in the middle between totally monogamous and frequent swinger with different partners each time. One only has to look at the infidelity rate too to see that a fair number of those "monogamous" 40-50 year olds probably have more notches on their bedpost than many swingers do. We're all saying the same thing though...evaluate things as honestly as possible taking all factors into account and make an informed decision on what's right for you.

Selectivity is the key. Random partners and mechanical sex has never been for us. We share intimacy with our playmates and are more than reasonably certain that they are disease free. Condoms reduce the level of intimacy for us and are a firm rule on those few occasions that we attend and play at on premises clubs. All of life is a risk, most hobbies, even knitting, entail some risk so we strive to eliminate the risk of STD through our selection process. So far its worked..

Sex with a condom just isn't nearly as good for me. The loss of sensitivity can make it hard to both keep an erection and orgasm. I've tried various condoms and some are definitely better than others in those regards, but even with the best condoms, it's still not quite the same. Another thing I hate about condoms is just the hassle and how it interferes with the flow and spontaneity of a play session. She's been giving you great oral and now wants it inside her...time to fumble around getting a condom on. You've been fucking and take a break to focus on her nipples or go down on her. You're totally focused on that so your erection fades a little bit but then when you're ready to get back to fucking...time to fumble around getting the condom on. For her, she really likes the feeling of a man coming inside her, it's just the cherry on top of some good sex. Condoms obviously take that away. Having said all of that, we realize condoms are part of swinging, and we are in favor of them in most cases.

I guess the visual of men coming is a turn on. Women can comment if they feel it internally. I personally find it more difficult to maintain an erection with a condom on. But we use condoms out of fear of STDs.

The aroma of sex is what we both like . cleaning up sort of takes away the erotic feeling of being with multiple partners. I like the wetness and sloppyness if you can call it that. The drive home is when I get to feel the wetness between the panty liner and my body. My own fetish.

We've yet to wash during playtime unless something gets messy. We were in a small group setting once and one of the men came over to kiss me and he smelled like pussy and it was a complete turn-on for me. I agree that the smell of sex is part of the total experience. Too many people are too concerned with washing away the natural scents the body emits. If you wash away the pheremones, what's the point? We do wash up after the activity has ceased for the night though.