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Recently K and I got into a discussion about fetishes. I came to the realization that I have 2 'fetishes' and wondered if he had anything that might qualify. So we wondered what other people's fetishes were and if they looked for play partners that satisfied that fetish. In case you're wondering....A nice big cock, maybe not huge but big, well shaped, and thick. For whatever reason seeing a woman enjoying the hell out of a cock that fits into my fetish just makes me really horny. The second is being eaten after K has cum in me. This is not something we've ever done but the idea is exciting as all get out. As for K, he has this thing about 'hesitation' upon entry. He loves the feeling of a woman tensing up as he's entering her before she relaxes and eases onto him. He also related that there is something about fucking the shit out of a woman. As he explains it, obviously he doesn't like to cause me (or anyone else) pain but he does like for me to know that it's him fucking me and for me to know it for a day or two afterward.

My hubby and I are looking for a couple or a bull to have fun. Northampton area can travel.

I agree. something wrong about it feels pretty good! last year we both tried plugs, kinda fun feeling during sex !

For us in our poly family, the hard quick ones are usually weekday mornings when time is short. The men just want release. The love making is when we have more time and a connection develops between two or three of us. I like it both ways and can orgasm quickly with a guy (or both) when needed, so all is good. If Lora or especially Clair doesn't cum, I love going down on her to finish her off (and lick cum).

My wife also really loves kissing the guy she is fucking. But as I have found out, it varies depending on the man, the desire and the intensity. Sometimes she just wants a nice, soulful cuddly fuck where it's all about deep feelings of pleasure and slowly (and forcefully alternating), deep love making. Here she generally wants to concentrate much more on him and only his cock and not have an additional cock in her mouth. And sometimes she also loves to be fucked properly. In this situations she loves to have my cock in her mouth to let out all her feelings through the hard, deep thrusts on me and my cock. Both are absolutely impressive situations. Even though she once bit my cock out of pure pleasure 😉 This shows your love and respect to the women and the men you love and feel connected to. "Your" men and women would feel very loved and valued in that situation you enjoy her body after sex. It's very lovable 🥰

If pregnancy is the concern, it is different.

I'm a woman on bc, but in the moment the thought of becoming pregnant excites me. For me, cum is not just a white blob, it's all those individual sperm swimming in me, competing with the sperm of other men, looking for the prize. The most sexually satisfying time of my life was when Clair became pregnant with my husband David's child and I decided to get pregnant as well. I went "pot luck" with both my husband and Red, my boyfriend, knowing that I wanted children with each. For those several months, each time was purposeful and thrilling.

My wife and I had very good communication from the start. We usually always make our choice together. As a Christian couple we both have a natural love for the special beauty and naturalness of bareback sex as it is intended. Her choice of partners is always exzellent and a gift to our relationship that strengthens and promotes it and that is why, of course, she always has the green light from me. Your wife's consideration in the choice is great and very respectful towards you. This is how your relationship can thrive and grow.

This is how I do it too with my bf on safe days. He has same privilege as my SO. The restrictions of wearing condom apply to uncommitted partners. At one point, i had 3 committed partners and i can open my legs for them and own me bare.

A bit of perspective. 1. Reflect on your wife and your relationship with her. Do you love her with all your heart and soul, and is your relationship "'til death do you part?" It seems like it is, you need to be sure in your own mind that it is. 2. Reflect on the rough patches in your relationship. Every relationship has had rough patches. What got you through them? In most cases, it is finding the courage to communicate even while feeling vulnerable. Has this been true for you? 3. If (1) and (2) are true, then perhaps the next step is to calmly let her know what you know, that you continue to love her and want to talk about how you feel. It's okay to fret about her lack of transparency, and it's also okay that to tell her that you are excited about ethical non-monogamy, however you define it. One more bit of perspective. Life's journey can be unpredictable, the destination is not. With every passing day it becomes more important to figure out what happiness means to you--individually and as a couple--and to find that happiness. No one benefits from anxiety and uncertainty--both make days less enjoyable and both likely shorten lives. Give yourself the gifts of vulnerability and transparency and honesty.

My wife always used to say a big one is interesting, but also scary and can hurt. I compare it to amazingly large breasts. They are interesting because they are different, but it really doesn't affect the play at all.

This is exactly how we are and my wife wants it bare the first time she had sex with another guy they had a condom on for probably 5-10 mins then took it off and had a seriously dirty fuck for the remainder like you say how it’s intended

We don’t have a lot of experience but there hasn’t been a time where we didn’t partake in dp. Each time it’s been a mess in one way or another but we enjoy it. Our first time my wife was on top of me on the couch in I was in her pussy. She wrapped herself around me for the angle to get in her ass. I was already having to hold back not to climax. Once he got in the friction from him moving inside her made me climax about 3 pumps in. Tried to switch it up the next time and I’m just not long enough to make it work ☹️. The most success we’ve had is her riding the other guy reverse cowboy anal and me getting on top of her as she faces me. She’s a retired gymnast who’s very flexible fortunately. Tried it with another woman and it was a no go.

Thank you for the responses so far. The time and detail put into them is appreciated. The variation in opinion is reflective of my thoughts and emotions overall so maybe I’m not that crazy. I agree her actions were outside the bounds of our relationship. Putting it down into words felt very good. I reached out to both Brian and 5th wheel last night. Been quite a while since I’d spoken to him. He was still really contrite and acknowledged again he was responsible for what he did and didn’t blame anyone else. He swore up and down he never spoke to her after. I even gave him an out to get anything else out and he passed and said there was nothing else. I reached out to 5th wheel and pretty much closed the door for anything else in the future. I told him it would be best to move in a different direction. Unlike Brian he made some excuses and hammered home that she made it unavoidable. Same for him in saying they didn’t speak after. I had thoughts of potential trouble arising in the future and feel like a bit of a weight has been removed by closing it out. My desire to see it again clearly clouded my judgement. The wife and I had a romantic night last night. I fought the impulse to bring it up last night as it was late when we saw each other after our long day. Even though I held off, I felt pretty free to talk about our sex life and desires and such after clearing my plate with both guys earlier. I’m internally calm when I think about what happened, to the point where I’ve tried to rile myself up because I “should” be livid. I just can’t muster that up and I’m starting to understand that’s ok. With that being said I don’t desire her cheating. But, @bbarnsworth it’s interesting you bring up the points in the last half of your post. Maybe I read over it and missed it but I’ll look for the member you referenced. I’ll keep my mind open to any and everything at least. We actually have a date tonight. I may just speak with her about it tonight.

I would ask, "Where is the joy in *anything* if you ignore possible consequences?"

Not the smartest thing we never brought the subject up, only used protection if the others brought it up. A dumb thing not to discuss when meeting strangers I felt most newbies were “clean”. Too much trust or too naive.

The penis has only two ways to get or transmit an infection, that are unique to intercourse, through its only natural opening and dermally. Why then is so much attention and credit given to condoms. It is being treated like a talisman. Properly executed oral exposes far more opportunities for mucosal infection , both giving and receiving, eyes, nose, mouth. and a much larger surface area of large open pores. This totally ignores things like minor facial blemishes and razor irritation. If a minor razor cut while prepping for a supposedly sterile knee surgery can postpone the surgery, why not oral sex/ If the possibility of accidental exposure is sharp enough to demand routine eye protection for the surgeon and even dental hygienist, why not goggles when having oral, where is almost a certainty of ending with a face or mouthful of another's fluids? Yes, I know ,HIV etc. I am not saying that there is no upside to condom usage. What I am asking is the reason for almost totally ignoring the other ways of exposure. I suspicion that , at least for us older folks, the memory of abstinence and condoms being the only effective means of birth control plays a large part. Please DO NOT see the above as in any way demeaning anyone's choices as far as safer sex is concerned. I would just feel better with a less magical approach.

With us it varied often. We hosted Coffee Time and Six Degrees East of Eden. Both were private to semi private house/hotel party/events/gatherings by invite only, not open for walk ins. The most requested events were multiple males for women that attended. Coffee Time was open room group play on Sunday mornings 10am to 2pm. It allowed members of our group to attend easily without having to make up a story on where and what they were doing and younger couples to easily attend needing baby sitters, much easier in the daytime. This is also the group that we organized fantasy events based on what the couple/wife/woman wanted to experience in a controlled/safe environment. Six Degrees East of Eden was more open, by invite house party. Usually Saturday night. Between our two groups the most requested in order; MFM, MMFMM, MMFMMFMM, MMFFMM, FFFF (any number all female/kitten pile), mixed group/orgy, FMF and FFM. In reality the FMF was the shortest event in time frame, most guys didn’t last long 15-30 minutes tops, some would have erection issues, many/most were awkward about multi tasking with two woman at the same time and focused on one more than the other. With so many ladies wanting more than one it kept the husbands, boyfriends and single/solo men more than busy. Many of the MFM and MMFMM lasted 1.5-4 hours, with breaks. Usually one guy would cum and by the time the other guy popped the earlier guy(s) recovered and ready for round two. Also except for a few request there wasn’t any bi male activity. However, not being shy or phobic about close activity to pleasure the woman made the event much better for the woman/women attending. It was interesting to witness that the Queen and all the regular lady members varied often on how they wanted to be treated. One at a time didn’t happen often as our regular playtime provided that. More sensual two or three men at one time was more normal. Not porno style as you would think, again most guys wouldn’t last very long. But more like two to three pairs of hand caressing her whole body, the men sharing a woman, one kissing, one on her breasts one going down on her and then the guys swapping off/changing positions giving her varied sensations. First timers we always interviewed, discussed and offered suggestions. We never, ever had a bad or troubled event. And it was up to the woman on how she wanted it all to play out. And most of our lady members varied often from erotic/loving/sensual to porno/use me/take me experiences and everything in between. For over 12 years we hosted variations of multiple men for women in every imaginable fashion, role play etc. upwards of twenty or more per year.

Having said that, I much prefer FFMs when it's a threesome. The dynamics are better and I'm bi. If I'm going to be with multiple guys, I like them one at a time. More than one dick at a time I find somewhat annoying. (Unless it's DP.)

Everyone is different. How they perceive things in life, and for most everyone changes in acceptance, expectations, morals, beliefs and concerns over a lifetime. Changes in science afford society to change and expand what is acceptable. Up until the late 50s-60s birth control was quite limited and the fear of an unwanted pregnancy was very real for women married or not. It certainly limited women ability to explore their sexuality based on societies norms. But did not completely stop or control all women because a number of had some sexual experience at some point in their lives. And yes infidelity and unwanted pregnancies and unwed pregnancies did happen. So sex happened still, just not talked about, and has been proven by DNA that women have passed their DNA via offspring more than males over the history of humankind. most of us lived through the changes from the 70’s to 2024. Personally I do not think it’s anyone’s business. Over my lifetime my experience has been in many cases the man who judges a woman’s value, relationship value based on a “body” count has enough to hide on his own. After all, if women are having all this sex they must be having it with somebody. And still in this modern era males always looking to get laid get a shitty attitude, judgmental on women who did the same. And so based on that the need to not be truthful, lie, misrepresent, omit etc is a survival mode in this judgmental society. It be like women asking men how often they masturbate. If nothing else in this lifestyle women and men learn pretty quickly that sex as an extracurricular activity and not a relationship/love requirement opens a new world and better defines a relationship. It not only allows women the opportunity to explore themselves but also proves a woman’s body when it comes to consensual sex/sex play has the ability to have multiple partners and for most multiple orgasms as opposed to males.

MFMs work because a woman can satisfy multiple men much better than a man can satisfy two women.

Yeah, we *thought* there are good ones. Have to be … seen too many stories on here of how much some couples absolutely LOVE their MFMs! We know it’ll be somewhat of a slog, but in the end it’ll be worth the effort. Our swingers site account is on Ess Ell Ess (read it phonetically). We can search on our own there using the criteria you mentioned — plus those who are *paid* — but we’re not quiiiiite ready to do that yet. We unblocked our Profile to singles back in late October and we’ve heard from around 60 males. (NO females … go figure!) 50 or so are rejects for various reasons, but the other 10 are worth considering and 2-3 seem like gems. The absolute best of the lot, judging from his introductory message and profile, lives two hours from here … we likely wouldn’t have searched that far away. But it’s in a NC coastal city that we love to visit anyway, so it wouldn’t be a huge burden to pay him a visit even if we don’t click. We’d still have a nice dinner and drinks, and get to spend another weekend in a place we enjoy … WIN WIN!

I love cum and hair pulling; I love to feel cum being pumped into me and on me. I also love feeling cum dry on my nipples. Also; it really turns me on when a man holds my head by my hair as I have him in my mouth, feeling the grip slowly tighten as he approaches orgasm. I also have a thing for silk and satin, the touch is so sensuous and erotic.

If they have no patience, they are simply not the right guy for you. If you're trying to find them on-line, state that patience is needed quite clearly. Unfortunately, if you're looking for them in the wild (at bars, for example, or swing clubs,) the long game isn't very valid in this situations. Wait for the right guy, it will be worth it.

Since the very beginning, we both agreed on the rule of always using condoms for penetration; it took us years (about four years) of bonding with another couple to start even considering the discussion of not using condoms with them. When I say bonding, I mean not only sexually but at a personal-friendship level. The four of us discussed the option during sober moments and made the decision, and planned it accordingly, including an STD test for all. Later, perhaps a little more than a year later, we decided to include a mutual friend couple that we play regularly; the process was the same with them, but this time involving six of us. Since then, all six of us have agreed to get tested at least twice a year and share the results. We have never regretted our decision, quite the opposite, we love our “exclusive group” and the deep intimacy we share with them.

I have noticed a correlation between singles (male and female) being more open to bare than couples. Perhaps it's the fact that there is less gravity, i.e. making a choice for themselves rather than their family, but for whatever reason that has been my observation--especially with single males and my wife.

I ate and fucked a woman in her 70's once but she was looking good. It was at an adult theater and her husband could not get hard so he wanted the wife to get a good fucking. I went first and ate her and ate her. She could not stop Cumming. Then finally, I plunged into her wet shaved pussy. She about erupted. OMG she came and came! I guess she had not had a good fucking in a while

I like to have a woman put her finger in my ass as she sucks on my cock.

My husband's fetish is feet. Mine is another man's sperm inside of me. My "creampie" fetish is a very, very rare treat for me since there are only a few trusted men I allow to be inside of me without a condom. I'm too afraid of an STD. But in that rare occassion, it easily pushes me over the cliff of orgasms. If only the world was perfect and all STDs gone. Then watch out world, here I come!

Age of the woman is just a number and not important. An older woman in her late 60s or even early 70's can be a great fuck. A friend of wife's in her late 60s, possibly near 70, (divorced) asked to fuck her and she is awesome in giving a blow job and overall sexual pleasures. Couples are having more sex as they get older. All it takes is an open mind about enjoying sex.

The oldest I've went is my wife who just turned 50. I know a 72 yr old I'd do in a heartbeat. One of the most gorgeous sexy women I've ever laid eyes on. Of course I love older mature women, there is nothing sexier on the planet and I'd take a well kept older women any day over any 21 yr old.

We sometimes play with a couple in their mid-70s. They are both still very attractive, have kept their figures and their interest in sex. They are very good in bed and are among our favourite playmates.