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Why don't you ask her? One of the keys to a successful swinger couple is that they have wide open communication with each other. When talking, there should be no judgment, no sarcasm, just consideration, understanding, and connection. The things that she is saying may only be fantasies. It might be that she's intentionally dropping hints left and right so you'll ask. Either way, the two of you need to get better at communication. Try talking about these things outside of the bedroom. Bedroom talk is one thing, but being able to talk about it outside of the bedroom is important. Feel free to ask us questions! We're happy to help!

The only experience that I've had with an uncircumcised penis was in high school with a guy I gave blowjobs to several times. Pull it back and it's the same. Same for me from the Lesbian perspective. Every human, male or female, starts at mother's breast. Breasts are both sexual and loving. The variety is wonderful, and I provide the small, perky, firm, "she doesn't need a bra" kind.

Tell your wife it would make you happy for her to enjoy sex with anyone else she wants, in any way she wants. Let her decide what to do and never criticize her choices. Reward her with dinners out, shopping, vacations whenever she does something that she likes.

First, glad you and your wife found someone she enjoys :) I know it started a bit rough! I'm circumcised myself, and I've never seen an uncircumcised man 'in action'. My wife hasn't played with anyone who wasn't circumcised. So, no personal views on the subject either way. As for vaginas, my experience has run the spectrum. I haven't found one aesthetic more pleasing than others. What matters far more to me is the woman's enthusiasm and enjoyment. As for breasts...once, a long time ago, I got to play with a woman who had a huge chest. I don't know what the sizes are beyond like EE or whatever, but she was beyond. Just enormous natural breasts. She was young too, so they were still quite perky. I was very curious to see her naked, and got my wish! But, her breasts were not sensitive in any sexual sense at all, and my playing with them felt no different to her than rubbing her pinky. It just did nothing for her. As a result, it didn't do much for me either after initial touches.

The most fortunate part is we enjoy the things we do. Sexually foreplay, cuddling and being next to him is the best part. Multiple times is just not relevant, quality over quantity. I am satisfied when we get time together without being rushed. We aren’t 20 and our bodies have changed , they continue to change along with our sexual needs. His refraction, my lubrication and our frequency has changed. We don’t play with others often by any standard. We have one couple, I call the husband my vacation husband. Maybe because he is like my husband, unrushed, caring , fun, smart with fabulous human qualities is the reason I give him the best I can. The very first time I was with him he kept going even after ejaculating, he kept checking on my pleasures. I cherish that first time and continue to cherish the times we meet.

Circumcized/uncircumcised makes no difference to my wife. The thing that's most important to her is manscaping. A guy need not be shaved smooth but a big hairy bush is a mood killer for her, and she prefers shaved balls. As for me I keep all that shaved smooth and the ladies tend to like that.

My GF has done this with several guys in the past. Some jump right in with whatever kinky stuff they've been suppressing and others are caught off guard and look like a deer in headlights. But the most important part of proceeding from there is to establish a safe word.

I can well imagine that the possibilities for reconciliation in the event of conflicts in a poly relationship are much more varied than in a monogamous relationship, in which there is often no way out and sometimes it is not possible to reconcile so quickly. Precisely because everyone loves each other, wants to find a common path together and other partners are there as a point of contact, a quieter family life is much more possible. The other partner can help resolve conflicts with the other. But love is also changeable, depending on who is interested in whom at the moment and what their sexual preferences are, depending on their mood and current feelings, in order to live it out together. And after an argument you can have sex with the other partner and then have nice make-up sex with the other partner again after the reconciliation. So in a poly family there is enough love and space for everyone.

I think someone who says “anything” has likely not given a lot of thought to what “anything” might entail. Anyone will have boundaries, even if he or she has never considered what they might be. I would do nothing that would have a chance of crossing an unstated boundary, in case this was a situation involving any level of kinky play.

Yes, it seems (in my opinion) she was in a place where she wanted to feel used for your pleasure. At that moment, that was arousing to her. I know some who would find that arousing. For me, I would not respond well to that. I get aroused by giving pleasure to others. I personally would accept the fact that at that moment we were not clicking.

Yes, the advantage goes to a woman when faced with such a situation. If a man tells a woman to do whatever she wants, any of his complaints won't be taken seriously afterwards. Not so the other way around.

It can be a fine line. Without some discussion with her or observation of what she is like it leaves too much in question. I have received that request both before or as an invite to play as well as in the heat of the moment. You have to tread lightly here as each playmate could have something different in mind than another or the last time you played with them. Permission at this time is not auto-applied permission the next time. personally I will not participate in very aggressive play, pain/hitting, choking, unsanitary play anything that can be observed/defined as assault. I have, by request, after discussion with the woman/women involved or boyfriend/husband/SO/master and what is desired/wanted/desired. Those experiences have been for the most part awesome a few while still good it was obvious the male part of the couple instructed for non discussed/surprise but didn’t end badly. I have experienced a few events that didn’t really kick off/cold feet etc. Nothing disastrous. And several one on one play with married/coupled women after discussion with their husband/SO or if single/solo some boundaries discussed. In most cases it came down to wanting to be dominated/aggressive/used but not abused. A open most anything goes, take me experience.

For us it is and I can appreciate the contrast.

For my part, I would have done everything I could think of to pleasure her. Some people would take what she said as a sign that she wanted to give herself up to the person's desires. That doesn't work for me. To me, sex is a mutual thing.

Definitely I would start licking her butt and see where that went.