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If you have to drink alcohol to be able to do something, you probably shouldn't do that something! That way lies regrets and problems. I suspect (and this is TOTAL speculation) that you would probably enjoy your wife having sex with another man, IF she really got off on it and thoroughly enjoyed herself. I also think it would in your case be a REALLY bad idea to do that right off. Take little steps. A good, active swinger club might be a good step forward, just to be tourists and play only with each other while there. That might be a good toe dipping experience. But first...really talk this out with your wife. Understand each other's fantasies, fears, loves, insecurities, etc.

Thanks, I love the advise, let her have her way and spoil her, but I don't know if i could do that, but i really do LOVE to watch her get off and I love the dirty talk! I also want to be there enjoying the experience with her. We did do a FFM once, them kissing, touching, a little oral, that was the hottest thing! So I know I can handle her using her hands and going down on a female, I would have to be buzzed to let her do the same to a male, no sex and I would have to be inside her one way or another to even fathom that. LOL

He would be happy to call you to discuss our sexual life. Neither of us are up for sainthood yet, we aren’t ready for beatification. My feeling is men are excited much easier by visuals, my husband is aroused equally. He isn’t leaving the room if I’m with another woman or if there’s an opportunity for group sex. Do you find most gangbangs, the original post, are more for the men, the women there for the entertainment? I can understand a woman with two men, I have participated, I don’t fully understand wanting a gang.

Work your way through your inhibitions of asking her what she wants, who she wants to do it with (male or female), whether she wants you there or not. Once she feels comfortable doing what she wants, you'll love the adventure that she takes you on. Believe me, the experience of getting over your doubts is worth it.

Tell your wife it would make you happy for her to enjoy sex with anyone else she wants, in any way she wants. Let her decide what to do and never criticize her choices. Reward her with dinners out, shopping, vacations whenever she does something that she likes.

Before I got involved in the lifestyle, I thought that if a couple had an argument and one or both ran off to get sympathy and sex from someone else it would be a disaster. It has happened in our group and as said above, being in a lifestyle group actually accelerates the making up process. Getting sympathy, advice, sex from someone else, and knowing your spouse is getting sex from someone else encourages reconciliation.

For the most part yes. We’ve never had an issue where someone threw a tantrum over it so it’s not so much the night ending, but instead just throwing the mood of everyone into a different place.