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Reading this is hilarious. What's the saying...the camera adds 10 pounds. Well, the internet adds 3 inches. I definitely won't be hiring any of the men out here to do any precision carpentry work as the measurements will be way off. Look up the real studies of size (length and girth) and you'll be surprised twice over...(1) what the real average size is and (2) how every guy lies by at least an inch.

If you have to drink alcohol to be able to do something, you probably shouldn't do that something! That way lies regrets and problems. I suspect (and this is TOTAL speculation) that you would probably enjoy your wife having sex with another man, IF she really got off on it and thoroughly enjoyed herself. I also think it would in your case be a REALLY bad idea to do that right off. Take little steps. A good, active swinger club might be a good step forward, just to be tourists and play only with each other while there. That might be a good toe dipping experience. But first...really talk this out with your wife. Understand each other's fantasies, fears, loves, insecurities, etc.

As a bi woman myself, I think that FFM is a way to go. Threesomes can be overwhelming and confusing in a good way.

I agree that the correct size and shape are important, but I disagree that using a dildo is a DP, you need two live, independently moving dicks to qualify. For me at least, it's the one going in my bum hole that matters. My pussy is much more accommodating than my bum. Babies have passed through there.

While we were on the trip, our boys were staying another with close nudist couple. That was our friend Bill and his first wife D. We didn't know it at the time but they were already swingers. Even though they didn't ask, they were sure we had been swinging on the trip since they also knew the young couple and were turned on by them. After that trip, my wife and I, and Bill and D became much closer and there was a lot of flirting. A year or so later when the were over at our house, All four of us were on the living room floor. We were all nude which was the norm when we got together. D was on her back and I was massaging her in a teasing way by coming close to but not touching her breasts or pussy. She then nodded her head to Bill and my wife and they were having intercourse. I looked back at D and the smile on her face. I asked and she told me she was ready to play too. The teasing massage turned into foreplay and we walked into the bedroom which was only a few yards away. After we finishes up, my wife and Bill went into the bedroom to continue playing. D and I were sitting on the sofa in the living room while enjoying listening to them. D whispered that Bill had wanted to have sex with my wife for a long time. Bill and went went home that night. When my wife and I woke up the next morning we asked each other, If it had really happened. For the next couple of weeks all we could discuss was how great it was. And that was the greatest turning point in our lives.

I have physically measured three men. My husband was the smallest of the three. He is 5 3/4”. His friend who I am with often is 6 1/8”. I would say he is thicker than my husband too even though I haven’t measured that. The only other person I measured was a boyfriend I had years ago. He was 7 1/2”. He swore he was 9 inches, the reason we measured. My husband is far from being the smallest, I think he is above average. He thinks he is small but I think plenty of men think they are small. Then there are those who think they are a gift. It’s funny how some women gravitate to well hung guys at parties and others stay away.

(As I read it) the issue here isn't particularly about DP per se . It's about having a third person join you. Until if and when that is worked out , the relevant question is not extra partner vs extra toy, but toy vs no extra toy.

Well the first thing about DP is that you (the guy) will feel him (the other guy) on the other side. It can be very unnerving to say the least. The first time I kind of freaked out and pulled away, then totally lost the mood. It took a while to get over that, and when I put it in my mind I was doing it for her, I bit the bullet and got over it. Her getting off like she did made me get over it. It wasn't easy. My wife loves anal, after a few orgasms from vaginal sex. Her problem with me is she says I'm too thick for her anus. No I am no giant by any means, but she likes guys with slender than average penises when it comes to her back door. Her first "boyfriend" before we got married loved giving girls anal, had a really long, yet narrow penis, and they had anal all the time. We did a 3-some once and while she was riding me, he came up and went into her rear, she kind of looked shocked and that's when I lost it, I guess I didn't expect it. Later she said "it was pretty cool actually, I wish we could try it again". A few weeks later when we all got together, we were making love and he was behind her kissing her, and I would pull out and he would then enter. Then he began entering her rear, then when she came back to me and I entered her, she pulled him close and he started slowly entering her rear, I didn't feel him as much in this position, just more pressure. She really liked this. Once he slipped into her vagina when I was in there, she said it hurt too much having both of us, and that was weird, and I don't think I could ever get used to that! It takes some practice.

If we're talking about an obsession, or a fixation, then I say sex. Yes, folks, that's my fetish. Sex in almost anyway, shape or form. The very idea is freakishly sexy and to be honest, makes my pussy pucker.

Her: She loves giving head! Him: Women who love giving head! Gotta love it when a plan comes together..!

For me, genuine female excitement. I feed off of it. If she's just going through the motions, I won't get anywhere, but when she starts to get slippery, her hips get to rocking, her breathing starts coming in gasps, and her muscles start to tense in just the right places - look out... For her it's watching a man walk around with an erection. She's really mesmerized by it - especially if he's walking toward her, and she knows it's for her...

I probably have to many to list but just to shoot a few off (no pun intended). I like women who wear glasses. That nerdy/geeky looks is beyond hot. I like those fishnet stockings, thigh high. And I have an ass fetsih: licking, fucking, playing with. But no dirty stuff if you catch my drift. That's all I'll list for now. Is it ok to have no shame?

I dunno guys...My hubby has quite the package and it has not been the blessing you guys might think it would be. His length and girth have scared off potential playmates and have caused some of the guys we had hoped to play with to get jealous and back off. Too bad too because I can enjoy a 9" or less penis with complete relaxation without worrying about getting hurt. Mr AV8R is lugging around a huge penis and I don't think he experiences any more pleasure or brings any more pleasure because of it. In fact, he is very self-conscious about it. He has been teased for years and when we swing, often the mood is broken because instead of things flowing to the next step, everyone takes a break to discuss his dick. Often the woman chickens out or the guy gets jealous and refuses to allow things to move further along. I enjoy sex with my husband, but when he gets carried away, it can be too much. I wish he was slightly less thick and slightly less long. When he is flaccid it is a monster to look at but attracts lots of attention especially at Hedo. When he is engorged, men often ostracize him and women look at him like a circus animal. Makes for quite an uncomfortable situation especially when you are hoping to make friends and enjoy this lifestyle. Don't put so much energy into the dick size thing. It IS NOT what we women are looking for and does not determine the level of our satisfaction with you. I am very happy and in love with hubby, but definitely wish he were smaller down there. Besides that, I am only 5'2" and HWP, I don't have any desire to be stretched out so much. Hubby's size has also created another problem in that I want to have a DP, but am unable and unwilling to allow him in my ass. He is unwilling to allow another man to have me in a way I will not allow him. So, for all you guys out there who think the Holy Grail is a big dick, I can promise you there is a downside to having too much meat. Let's go back to Physiology 101 too...A woman's nerve endings are only in the first few inches of her vagina. When I was in college I dated a guy who was so short he often popped out when we were going at it. He was however sufficiently thick and felt very good. We dated for nearly a year and I would have been very happy with what he provided had we gotten married. Hubby is the light of my life but it is because of the friend he is, the father to our children he is and because he is such a great human being I fell in love with. When I think of all the great things I love about being with him, his circus-sized pecker does not AT ALL factor in to it!!! In fact, had I not fallen in love with him, I would never have allowed him to have sex with me because it is simply too big. So guys, don't get wrapped up in the size is everything hype. Don't go wasting your money on Enzyte, Penis Pumps, etc... Kiss us...Caress us...Lick us and hold us afterwards...Get over the dick size issue because it isn't what makes us love our S/O's or enjoy the great benefits the lifestyle brings!

I think a guy's perception that he is smaller is just that, perception. There have been times that my wife has said, "his was smaller than yours", when I thought his was at least as big, if not bigger. In other words, ours looks smaller to us from our viewpoint, and theirs look bigger from our viewpoint. Don't know if that makes sense, but hopefully you catch what i am saying. BTW, 6.5 here. But much much much smaller when flacid.

Good poll, but you left out one controlling factor: How to actually measure the penis to determine ACTUAL SIZE. Everyone has misconceptions about how to measure their penis. To be properly measured, the penis must be erect, and a tape measure or ruler be used to measure the TOP of the penis. Press the ruler against your abdomen directly above the erection, and measure to the tip. A lot of guys think the erection begins at the area where the penis connects to the body near the taint (area between scrotum and anus). This is theoretically incorrect. I have a 6" penis measured the true way, and a 8" one measured the incorrect way. Even if measured from the bottom of the shaft, actual measurements can vary by as much as an inch in the positive. Although this may help many egos, these are inaccurate measurements. The "along the top" are the measurements taken for science.

Size isn't just about how it feels in the vagina, it's about looks, too. Most men like to see big boobs but big boobs don't have anything to do with how well a woman can screw. By the same token, many women love to see a big cock. I know I do. I like it even better when they're dripping with excitement. But I know that once that cock is inside me, it's how the man fucks me and not the size that matters. Sonja

I have always admitted that I'm not the biggest cock in the hen house... I do have a reliable 7 inches. Baremama is what most would consider petite, and her being so small, I usually bottom out while making love. She, of course, has yet to complain ...Unless I get a bit too wild and pound her too hard... I am proud of what I have, and so is she. Never had a complaint from anyone. (her g/f likes it too!)

Hi everyone, my girl friends and I have discussed this many times and usually to the same conclusion... that it's all in the talent of the operator. My man, I guess good or bad, is 9" and depending on the position can sometimes feel like it is in my stomach. For the most part I love that very full feeling and he really has incredible talent. Denise (very full)