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Thank you for your advice, pretty sure I was shaking my head in agreeance while reading all of it. I know I still need to work on some things from my past. I’ve been able to opened myself a lot this past year with the help of my partner. Which I’m very grateful for, so I want to apologize to her and explain my reaction. We’re just working a lot this week, our hours are completely opposite I work all night she work's all day. I want to find the right time to do it in person. Boundaries will definitely be made for next time and I like the advice on agreeing upon mutual fantasies that sounds like it could be fun and kind of kinky.

I would have liked to heard Joe's thoughts on his first anal experience with Lora. Anal sex is something that I found that I had to practice to be better. I had a woman in the adult industry teach me the " correct ", not my description but hers, way to have anal intercourse with a woman, and I have used it ever since.

Sure are plenty of Big Dicks here

You describe him as forgetful and seemingly unable to shift gears quickly as things change. I am curious. Are these personality flaws or symptoms of some sort of neurological/psychological problem. I sometimes forget when a topic is of no interest to me, even when others find it important.. (This is a flaw) I am increasingly forgetful of things that I wish to recall due to my brain aging and not being as agile as it once was. (Which is not a personality flaw just an imperfection) I am also getting more crochety about things being sprung on me. (This is probably a bit of both) Various PTSD type of things can elicit the things you describe, as can some portions of the autism spectrum. I once had something hit me in a LS situation . It made NO sense to me or my wife. A few nights later, while drifting off to sleep..EUREKA... . Something from very early sexual awareness which was minor ,and long filed away. It was something that was not minor then and beyond my ability to deal with at the time. Suddenly in the midst of an otherwise pleasant LS evening a portion of my mind was suddenly 13-14 years old emotionally distraught. Once I understood it was good for a laugh. Figuring out why his reaction was as it was would be a first place to go. The LS is potentially a complex path. We ALL have histories that may at one point or another blindside us for good or ill.

Uhhh, communication...if he didn't want to have a spontaneous play date, then he should have said something when it was suggested. Then things kind of get confusing...he went out and then got back two minutes before she arrived...? Then after she left, he went back to FINISH his baking? Ok, I'm guessing that he needed something for what he was baking so he went and got it, came home, and finished...all understandable, except what would he have done about his baking if you were all going to play? It's all beside the point: If he would have just said that he was busy and could they get together to play at some other time there wouldn't have been a problem.

I STRONGLY disagree. Men have a right to their boundaries also. In the original post, writer states that partner did not have boundaries. He just expressed it. Personally, I also am less spontaneous. I want to make sure my responsibilities are taken care of, and we have a chance to have interaction with each other before any activities. That is me. Both of you need to learn from what has happened, and then make decisions on future activities from there.

Overheard at a party: "My dick is not only small, but it's skinny too!"

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/26/travel/nude-spas-saunas-europe.html Once again, simple nude recreation and relaxation is featured in the NY Times. While not quite mainstream--it still attracts reporting--it's no longer taboo and has become somewhat ordinary.

This is something that I have done before that I would bet you and Joan hasn't done. Make a play date and tell her to put on either a blue or red thong panty. Tell her you want her to wear this thong panty 2 days before the play date not changing them and not to bathe. When Joan arrives and both of you are naked put her panties over your head with the crotch over your nose and align the leg holes with your eyes, if the panties are red you are spiderman and blue you are captain America! After the first round of sex , tell her to take a bath because you want to lay down face first in her dirty bath water ! Then depending on if she has a full bush, trim her and save her pussy hair in a baggy. Take some neosporin and a razor and shave her pussy and butthole.

This is just my experience, but I find that smaller breast women are easier for me to get aroused by sucking and playing with their nipples. One woman in particular would soak her panties while playing with her small breasts. I would choose a small breast woman over one with implants any time.

I'm surprised how young so many people were. I thought we started young. My wife was 28, i was 32 and we were still just dating.

Hey Newcoupleontheblock! Welcome! You're in the right place! So there's a bit to untangle here. First, I agree that if you start out with a condom and it slips off, that out of consideration you should be getting another condom on before continuing. I certainly would do that. In the very least, if I thought of continuing without a condom, I would ask the lady in question how she wanted to proceed. On the other hand, the other couple was told "no boundaries". This could have been interpreted as no condoms being ok. Still, if you start with condoms, you end with condoms unless otherwise told. Second, yeah it was likely a mistake to shift gears into overdrive in the middle of things when you expected it to be a no-swap night. Usually (not always, but usually) it's a bad idea to do that. Feelings can get hurt, misunderstandings happen, and undermining of trust can start being a problem even when it's not intentional. Next time, I recommend you set out the boundaries for the evening before getting to a club or meeting a couple. Don't change the boundaries for the evening. If you're in the lifestyle long enough, the boundaries usually evaporate so down the road it's not an issue. Right now it is (and that's ok) so don't flex them without being removed from the situation. That's my advice. Third, I would caution you about reacting to this situation based on things that have happened in your past. I know we are products of our experiences. But, it isn't fair to your partner to judge what she's done based on how another woman from your past acted. There's no possible way she can stay clear of all potential problems based on what was inflicted on you in the past. Love her, explain to her, and tell her you don't judge her on that and know that you're going to react emotionally but that you're working to make that the past, and not the now. Whether or not this couple is in the past is hard to judge. Only you (and your partner) can judge that. But, if you had a good time with them, that's a treasure to have. It'd be interesting to hear their perspective (though of course we can't know). It's great that you otherwise had a great time! It's just that boundaries got smashed and expectations not met. Don't treat this as a massive boulder that smashed into your car. It's a bump in the road. Take some time to digest, talk with your partner, build love and move on.

Reading this is hilarious. What's the saying...the camera adds 10 pounds. Well, the internet adds 3 inches. I definitely won't be hiring any of the men out here to do any precision carpentry work as the measurements will be way off. Look up the real studies of size (length and girth) and you'll be surprised twice over...(1) what the real average size is and (2) how every guy lies by at least an inch.

We were discussing this subject the other day. Steve is #1 with 9 inches. His wife Vicky says that's fantastic. My wife Amy says its a bit big but she likes the way it fits her tightly. Lesley and Claire say no thanks. Next is Ken with 8 inches which has wife Les,ey ca t take it all but Amy says it's lerfect for her. I have just a bit more than 6 inches. A good fit for Lesley and Claire.

Mywife's favorite swinger playmate has 8 inches. She says it fills her completely. His wife's a small girl and she enjkys my 6 inch cock. It's exciting watching his 8 inch shaft disappear into my wife and listen to the errotic noises she makes as it goes in and out of her vagina.

I’m not a swinger but my guess 35% of men on here lie. Why are men so vain?

I have physically measured three men. My husband was the smallest of the three. He is 5 3/4”. His friend who I am with often is 6 1/8”. I would say he is thicker than my husband too even though I haven’t measured that. The only other person I measured was a boyfriend I had years ago. He was 7 1/2”. He swore he was 9 inches, the reason we measured. My husband is far from being the smallest, I think he is above average. He thinks he is small but I think plenty of men think they are small. Then there are those who think they are a gift. It’s funny how some women gravitate to well hung guys at parties and others stay away.

That is a great point. Urologist and sex researchers take Bone Pressed Erect Length measurements for their studies. It is the only accurate way to compare endowment since men have varying amounts of body fat. To take such a measurement: Stand with legs, pelvis, and spine straight. Push the base of the ruler firmly into the pubic pad till it presses hard against the pubic bone. Keep the ruler parallel to the floor (straight out) and measure to the tip of the head. under 5" small 5"-7" average 7"+ large 8"+ very large 9"+ huge

Okay, I forgot what the wife has always told me. If a guy has two inches, that is enough to reach her g-spot. If he can stay with the program long enough to make her cum too...then TWO inches is enough. After that I quit worrying about my penis size. On the contrary, my ex couldn't find one big enough. Cheers.

I have the same problem as F16AV8R. My husband is a thick 9 1/2 inches but I'm only about 8" deep. This has made it so I am unable to orgasm by penetration alone (and I was able to regularly with other partners). We have to use some kind of external stimulation as he can't go in far enough to meet my clit with his pubic bone. In addition, he can't ever just let go and pound away as he'd like to sometimes. We also have to be quite careful in certain positions. The vibrator during sex works fine but then I have to sacrifice the intimacy of feeling his body pressing against mine as I cum, as he has to be propped on his hands. The thickness is wonderful, but long cocks are overrated!!

I don't know if there is much you can do to take that extra 1 1/2 inch but side lying and doggie will "create some space "and facilitate the closeness you desire from full to the balls penetration. My wife has had trouble with the "banging" against her cervix so she stated to "take over" and we now go super deep and she has no discomfort . That's why she wants me thicker she's a "closet size queen" . Even though she's a size queen she doesn't like a cock longer than 8" but she sure loves them thick so I thickening up for her! GOD IT SUCKS TO BE ME!!!!!! HELP !!!!!!!!!