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My use of porn was primarily when I was younger, looking to learn. For instance, after my first vaginal and anal experiences, I was curious how it actually looked up close. What I found for that and just about everything else was so fake and poorly acted, it was humorous. Women don't want semen shot all over the outside of their body, especially their face, and it certainly doesn't make us spontaneously orgasm. The videos that are real are the "amateur" ones, but they are mostly old fat people shot in situations with poor lighting on what must be old camcorders. After doing it several times, I got bold and comfortable enough to ask that we do it in front of the mirror so I could see what I wanted. That was much better and more exciting, and in a way made us/me look more impressive than any porn I had watched. Now if I want to watch anything all I have to do is ask the others in the family; they oblige and it's much better because it has the twinge of jealousy to go with it. Porn is much better live with people who you love.

I've been researching a club called SkirtClub for the last two years. I discovered it just before the pandemic then the world shut down, bummer for everyone, but especially for the sexually adventurous like us. As a bisexual woman it is so difficult to meet like minded women. Lesbians think we are confused and straight women think we are gross. It is difficult to meet women that are truly bisexual. I've met women that are just fulfilling a husband's fantasy or a boyfriends fantasy. Going to the sex clubs invites male energy which is often very aggressive, I cannot tell you how many times I've entered a club and had men just swat my butt, or grab me without so much as a hello, it makes me feel like I'm in a meat market and I'm just under inspection, to the men I'm not a fan. Getting one on one play time with another woman is difficult. Thus enters skirtclub. I finally attended an event recently, and it was divine. It is a women's only club for the bisexual and bicurious. They host events world wide, there are small events called mini skirts which are cocktail mixers where we can meet othe bisexual and bicurious women. Then there are their play parties. These events are women only, there is some educational speaker at the beginning and then a burlesque style performance to create the mood. Some sexy games like spin the bottle and tequilla body shots. The events are held in very posh locations, penthouses and mansions. There are women of all walks of life present, different looks and body styles, wearing sexy clothes and in some cases lingerie, i even saw a gorgeous creature high stepping in nothing but heels, I was so jealous of her confidence. Once the games start women start venturing to the bedrooms and it is so incredible. I walked in one bedroom and saw probably 12 women in a writhing mass on a bed. It is incredibly erotic and intense. I did pare up with a beautiful woman and had an incredible night on one of those female adorned beds. If you are a woman like me please check out skirt club it is truly magical. The website is Skirtclub.co.uk

Aphroditee; would you mind showing us what studies you are referring to?

Feel is part of it. Fortunate enough that my wife is wet all the time. Sometimes so wet during sex it’s hard to climax due to a lack of friction. My experience is sex is drawn out when we play and at times she’s just not as wet at the end. A fresh infusion of lube from another gent is just what’s needed. Outside of the feel, it’s incredibly arousing to see another man come in my wife. She’s a ball grabber when the time comes and she’s pretty nifty when it comes to playing with them in awkward positions. Getting in there and feeling that mass of warm, tacky wetness, the sounds as you thrust, and the build up of it on you and all around her is hard to beat.

So yes most women are in some form of relationshipmost are either married to a man or dating a man. I have been to several social events and play parties since this post and I have seen the spectrum. I've met a couple lesbians but most of the women seem to be in committed relationships with men and fall in the bisexual to bicurious category. Most are there with their husband's permission but I have meet a few who have been there secretly. I have created a few solid friendships that have continued outside the skirt club environment. One has developed into a true BFF relationship and another is more of a monthly to bi-monthly rendezvous for casual sex. I really enjoy the play parties, they are very disarming and the hostesses are great at helping break the ice and get things moving in a fun stress-free direction. The website has a social feature so you can meet people before events. Often a group of ladies in NY get together for drinks before the play parties so they go in knowing someone which is nice. It is way different that a swing club environment. It's all female energy, very respectful, and not aggressive. Some women at play parties just watch and socialize many participate in the "play" part of the evening. And the play is very naked and orgasmic so if you're wondering if it's a lot of naked women fucking and sucking pussy, it most definitely is. I never thought I'd be into orgies but being fingered in a bed with 10 other women writhing and moaning around me, up against me, occasionally kissing me, or touching me. Well let's just say I'm very into it now.

Yes, as far as mirrors. I was amazed how powerfully arousing having sex in front of a full length mirror was and is. The opportunity to see views that drive me wild in erotic photography and porn by adjusting the position of the mirror is powerful. In addition, we found just setting-up a video camera that points toward the area of play (the bed, dining table, etc.) and going about having sex as though the camera was not there worked very well. At a subconscious level it seemed to bring out the exhibitionist and performer in each of us. Going through the video afterward together and finding the sections that were gems was arousing too.

And I didn’t know who the father was until baby was born. It was touching how both men love all the children regardless of paternity.

I agree. Have him come into the forum and talk to us. My wife and I are similar to you in that I have had adventurous sex and learned I have a high capacity for it while she grew up Catholic. The thought of non-monogamy to her was totally taboo. We talked about playing with others for a long time and the thought of it excited me so much. I kept asking her, “let’s stop talking and just do it.” She hen it happened organically with a girlfriend. And then we played with a guy friend, whom we still play with. I look back on our 10+ years and realize I put too much pressure on her early on. It put a lot of strain on us over the years. We are in a great place now. But go into this with eyes wide open, BOTH of you. Have him talk through it with us.

Are the women there mostly partnered? With a man or a woman? Are they looking for further sexual relationships or not. Thank you for the information. If I were single, I would definitely put myself out there as a bisexual. Although I am married to a wonderful man and also have a boyfriend our poly family, which includes two other women who share the guys, I consider myself more Lesbian than straight. Although I started out 100% straight living with and satisfying two men, once I started sharing them with two women who became my lovers, and we had babies who we are now raising in one large household, the emotional bond among us females became incredibly strong. (And the Lesbian sex is great, although we still need dick.) I think that this type of organization for women only that allows them to discuss and explore is a wonderful idea. It acknowledges as well that monogamy is not for everyone.