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    College then we married and stopped. Now in or 30s we started a year and ago.
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    Instead of suggesting he 'confront her' (which almost always ends up being a bad thing), you made him think of things from a different viewpoint. The suggestion about showing her a bit more affection is never a bad thing as well. I'm sure that he found your advise unusual compared to what he expected or has been hearing from others he has asked (and I'm sure he has asked others), the advice you gave will not lead to things taking a bad turn. Any advice that keeps thing from going to a bad place is usually (IOHO) good advice...
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    There are exactly two people who have some chance of knowing what goes on inside a marriage. When one of them confides in someone outside the marriage that they are worried about something inside the marriage, the line from "Cool Hand Luke" comes to mind: "What we have heah is...failure...to communicate!" We are sometimes asked about "the" basis for a successful marriage by younger colleagues just embarking on a marital journey. There is of course no "the" basis. But we always remark that durable relationships have somehow engineered a safe space where difficult topics can be broached without fear. That doesn't mean without awkwardness, embarrassment, or even real pain for one or both. It does mean that the relationship is safe while the "whatever" is being explored or negotiated or resolved. In conversations with couples--often LS couples because candor is so foundational to the lifestyle--we often hear that these are 'kitchen table conversations' with some sort of implicit or explicit 'safe zone' that allows an opportunity to reflect and later respond instead of simply reacting. We do not mean that such an arrangement is unique to LS couples, but rather that their success as a couple in the LS is often enabled by such an arrangement. As hunterdonNJ suggests, what works for one couple works for that couple, and that's all that matters. As lcmim suggests, too many unknowns to reach conclusions -- especially hearing only one partner's take on a situation.
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    @Numex I tend to feel the same, and have actually given similar (albeit ignored) advice. My thinking tends to be that extramarital affairs are actually an opportunity to make a change to the relationship rather than throw it out entirely. Mind you my thinking is shaped by 25 happy years in an ENM marriage, but I feel like if your wife is having affairs then maybe it's time to think about open marriage or the other ENM options. Granted this thinking horrifies some ppl 😄
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    In my recollection of that story, they were already in the lifestyle and it wasn't a random guy. Still a good point, just not a huge step. Yep.
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    Not me, but I'd love to hear my wife tell the world her sexual history in one concise story. I don't know about women, but men have a strong interest in knowing the sexual activity of women that they know and seeing them nude. I always thought it strange that men who don't look at porn or go to a strip club where there are hot young women, want to know the dirt on and would eagerly pay to see Judy in Accounting nude.
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    My opinion is that more men are into hotwifing where the husband is an equal partner in putting his wife out there, than cuckolding, which implies the element of humiliation. So when you are discussing your fantasy with your boyfriend, propose it as a joint undertaking in selecting the other guy for you to play with, what you do with him at first [maybe just showing/playing with your tits, giving him a blowjob], whether it's a threesome. Make it fun for him, explore along the way, and if all goes right he'll let you move on to alone play without advanced notice to him. For you that would be treating him as a cuckold, while for him you're just hotwifing. Lifestyle is a cooperative adventure.
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    Thickhips, as hunterdonNJcouple notes, cuck play is a kind of "advanced" form of ENG (ethical non-monogamy). Based on your post I see no indication that cuckoldry is a fantasy you’ve shared with your boyfriend. I also note that in your post you indicate you believe you are a long way from turning any of your shared fantasies into reality. But either way, perhaps you should judiciously share with your boyfriend that you find cuckoldry fantasy engaging. His reaction will suggest whether this scenario is one that you both will wish to incorporate into your shared fantasy life. (If cuckoldry doesn’t appeal to him, you can still enjoy it privately.) My own entry into my current broader ENG life was through hotwifing, as the other male playing with M/F couples. I never found being a bull attractive, but within the hotwife community cuckoldry is quite prominent. You may wish to check out ourhotwives.org. If the two of you wish to eventually incorporate any of your shared fantasy life into your real lives, this forum is a good place to find answers to your questions and general support.
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    Your situation is the opposite of the usual "how do I get my wife to swing" question, but my advice is the same as I would give such a husband - let your partner go first. Nothing says that the lifestyle must be symmetric. Tell your boyfriend that you love him and would like for him to have a sexual adventure or two, it would make you happy. Admittedly it's harder for a man to just put himself out there and find a casual sex partner, but when I decided I wanted my husband to play (after two years of him letting me have a boyfriend) I had success setting him up with my female friends and acquaintances. As a married man offered up by his wife, my friends considered him safe, not immoral, and he is attractive. If you are bi, offering that participation will attract some women as well. The long game here is to show your boyfriend the pleasures of the lifestyle and that he'll want you to play too. That wasn't my husband’s goal with me, he was happy sharing me, but I wanted to see him with other women. The other approach is to just tell him of your fantasy and what you want to do. After turning it over in his mind for a while he may go for it. He may be a willing cuckold. Be sensitive to his desires, however; does he want to hear the details or not, meet your sideman or not, be humiliated or praised, have you come home sloppy or clean?
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    In normal couples-swap swinging things generally play out according to an agreed upon plan with personal boundaries being nudged very gently this way or that way. Cuckoldry, however, is a more advanced (not for newbies) fetish and it sounds like that may be your kink. In cuckoldry it's exciting when an Alpha Bull 'owns' a couple. Basically a couple relinquishes control to the Bull which often involves 'freezing out' the cuckold (possibly even making him wear a chastity device) and taking liberties with the wife that would not sit well in regular couples-swap swinging. Advanced cuckoldry may involve dominance and humiliation directed at the cuckold, sometimes directed at cuckold and wife. With experience the roleplay can get quite intense, but those who gravitate toward this fetish enjoy the rather extreme intensity that cuckoldry can bring. Cuckoldry is a fetish that seems to be growing in popularity but it's not the kind of kink you want to jump straight into. The bag of mixed emotions that comes with it can be too much for those who have never shared their partner before. We are swingers first and foremost, but cuckoldry is our kink and we have enjoyed many nights of decadent pleasure at the hands of of a few talented Bulls.
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    My wife Sherry and I had our first swinging experience about six weeks ago and found it to be very enjoyable. Although brief, it was Sherry's first bi experience. Regrettable, the husband of the other couple was not able to handle the situation so they won't be joining us again. Sherry and I talked about whether we wanted to pursue this further and decided that we definitely wanted to become more involved. The problem was HOW? We didn't feel comfortable with the club scene and didn't know where to look for others with our interests. I remembered something that happened about a year ago when a friend I golf with invited Sherry and me over for dinner. We had been out socially in groups with Rick and Kathy, but this was the first time we spent time with them alone. We had a nice night and headed home. I told Sherry on the drive home that I was getting vibes that they were interested in more than conversation, she thought so too. We had discussed swinging at that point but had not decided to go through with it, so we just let it die. I told Sherry that I would call Rick for lunch and see if I could get a feel for anything positive. Two days later, I met Rick for lunch, and by the third martini, I found it easy to guide the conversation to sex. I decided to be frank and told him that Sherry and I had a fling with another couple for one night. He took my lead and said that he and Kathy had been swinging for about three years with two different couples. Rick also made it clear that back when we had dinner together, he and Kathy were interested in more than conversation, but didn't think we were so hadn't made a move. Rick told me that he and Kathy were having one of their swinger couple friends over for dinner on Saturday and would love to have us join them. He said he would have to clear it with his wife and the other couple and let me know. I told him that I would have to clear it with Sherry and see if she was interested. When I got home from work that night, I could hardly wait to tell Sherry of my little discovery. She seemed both nervous and excited, and excited won. She said, and I quote: "Let's go for it, go for it all." Rick called at about 9:00 and said that everyone on his end was OK with us joining them for dinner and fun. We got to Rick and Kathy's about 15 minutes early (anxious I guess), and Kathy was certainly more than I remembered; about 5'5" with what appeared to be a magnificent set of breasts. I was worried that Sherry would become self-conscious about Kathy's breasts because she has always felt inadequate with her smallish B cups. I had told her, and meant it, that she had an amazing body, but she still felt uncomfortable. Rick and Kathy appeared to be about our ages, 35 and 31, and Rick was in better shape than I so I hoped Sherry was as pleased with him as I was with Kathy. We had cocktails and small talk for about 15 minutes when Kathy said that she had heard that we were new to this and she wondered what we thought the night would be like? Thankfully, before we had a chance to answer, the doorbell rang. Mike and Beth came in and introduced themselves to us and exchanged hugs and kisses with Rick and Kathy. Mike was a little older with gray around the temples but looked very distinguished and was in great shape. Beth was a petite woman, about 5'3", who obviously worked out. (I found out later that she is a coach of a girls swimming and diving team at a local high school). We went into the dining room for dinner, a dinner I was too excited to eat. After the meal, we retired to the family room where Rick suggested we play 'Director.' He explained to us that a few hands of poker are played until a winner is determined. The winner becomes the Director for the night and is pretty much in charge of who does what to who. We agreed to play but asked to be left out of the 'Director' card game because we would not be very good at directing. They played a few hands of poker, and at the end, Beth was the winner and became the Director. Her first request was that everyone get naked and make a dash for the hot tub that was located outside on the deck. It was a cold winter night, but the hot tub was in a fiberglass enclosure. Rick already had it on to heat the water and the room. I asked if Sherry and I could have a minute alone in the kitchen. I asked her if she was sure that she wanted to do this and that I wasn't putting any pressure on her? She took my hand and guided it inside her pants to her already wet pussy and said: "What do you think!" We went back into the family room where the others were waiting for us, they were already naked. I couldn't believe my eyes when I saw Kathy's cleanly shaved pussy, this was a first for me. We all scurried across the deck and into the hot tub. I forgot to mention that during dinner, little blue pills were offered to the guys. I was told that I might find a little Viagra to be beneficial, so I took one. While naked in the family room, I had found two things that made me happy. One was that I wasn't the only one with an erection, and two, that the other guys had about the same 7" that I did. After a little conversation in the hot tub, Beth (the Director) asked my wife what she would like to have happen? I was blown away when she said she thought Kathy's clean shaven pussy was beautiful and would like to have her's shaved. Kathy got up from the hot tub, toweled off, and went into the house for a razor and some shaving cream. My eyes followed her every movement. I turned back to the others and could see that Beth was sitting between Rick and Mike and had a hand under the water on each of their cocks. Sherry gave me a passionate kiss and asked me if her wish was OK? I just gave her a huge smile and a passionate kiss. Kathy returned with the tools she needed, and I couldn't help but notice that the cold night air had turned her fabulous nipples into rock hard pebbles. All I could think was that I had died and gone to heaven...little did I know about the rest of the night. Kathy told Sherry to sit up on the side of the hot tub so that she could begin her work. This was my wife, sitting on the side of a hot tub, with two men and two women who were relative strangers, looking at my naked wife. I was thrilled that this didn't bother me, but instead, excited the hell out of me. Kathy lathered up my wife's pubic area and began shaving. I was only inches away and could see Kathy shaving with her right hand while the thumb and fingers of her left hand were exploring every inch of Sherry's pussy, inside and out. My wife was enjoying every minute of it. When Kathy finished, she moved to the side and spread my wife's legs and asked the others if they liked it? It was unanimous, a perfectly shaved pussy. I had never seen my wife's pussy in this detail and found it to be lovely. Director Beth then told Kathy to pleasure Sherry until told to stop. My wife has always had a difficult time reaching her first orgasm, but when she does, it is enormous, and other orgasms will follow with ease. Kathy put her head between my wife's legs and began to lick her with tremendous passion. She flitted her tongue in and out and around Sherry's pussy, driving Sherry crazy, not to mention what it did to me. After about two minutes, Beth called "cut" and Kathy stopped. She then told her husband Mike to take over. Mike waded across the pool and took his turn between my wife's legs. Here I was, watching another man go down on my wife from inches away, and I loved every minute of it. After a short time, Sherry reached that incredible and violent first orgasm. She covered Mike's face with her juices. I think he was a little surprised, but it didn't stop him from giving her head. Beth then said "cut" and sent Rick in to take over. Rick had the pleasure of the aromas and flavors of Sherry that until tonight, I had only experienced. He pleasured her with his tongue and fingers until Beth again said, "cut." It was now her turn to enjoy my wife. I watched as Beth did her thing; she obviously enjoyed it, and her tongue worked on my wife's clit until the second orgasm came rolling out. Beth stayed between her legs and consumed all the juices that Sherry released. She then went back across the hot tub. Beth asked Sherry if she had enjoyed the first scene in her movie? Sherry slid back down into the hot tub and said it was the most incredible moment she had ever experienced. After a little chit chat, during which I thought I was going to explode, Beth said that we should all move into the master bedroom. Rick grabbed some wine and glasses on the way, and we all had a drink or two. Beth then said it was time for the second act to begin. She told Kathy to get ready for a little double entry time. I thought she meant one man in her vagina and one doing her anally. I was wrong, Beth meant two guys in Kathy's vagina at the same time. This is something I had never heard of or seen, but I sure wanted to. She asked Rick to lay down on the bed, and Kathy mounted him. Mike came up from behind, and after using a little Vaseline, he too entered her pussy. It was apparent this wasn't the first time because the two guys knew how to move at opposite times to make this work. After watching this for a moment or two, Beth told me to walk to the side of the bed so that Kathy could suck on me. I didn't need to be told twice! I moved around to the side of the bed and put my cock next to Kathy's face, and she turned and took me deep into her throat. She used her tongue to massage my cock while I was in her mouth, it was new and wonderful to me. After watching my wife getting head from four different people in the hot tub, I am sad to say that my excitement level was such that I didn't last very long before my climax began. I wasn't sure what to do so I pulled out of Kathy's mouth, but she said "no way" and pulled me back in. I exploded into the back of her mouth in a way and an amount that reminded me of when I was 18 years old. Kathy was a cock gobbling pro, she took it all and swallowed down every last drop of my big load. Weak-legged, I fell back into a chair beside the bed. I realized that I had forgotten that Sherry was in the room and looked over to see her and Beth in a deep and passionate kiss with their fingers inside each other's pussies. All I could think was Unbelievable! As Kathy was still being pumped by Mark and Rick, Sherry and Beth moved into the 69 position. I knew that Sherry had said that she wanted to have another woman go down on her, but she didn't think she wanted to return the favor. I only had to watch for a moment to see that she loved returning the favor. Rick was the first to cum inside Kathy, and a moment or two later, Mike shot his load in on top of Rick's. The guys were a little worn out, but not Kathy, she moved over and repositioned Beth and Sherry to form a daisy chain. My wife was now giving head to Kathy, who just had two men fill her with cum, so she was tasting not only Kathy, but Rick and Mike also. Never in a million years would I have thought I would see my wife lapping up a double creampie from another woman's vagina! Kathy had the first orgasm of the three, making me very proud of my wife's performance, then my wife had the second orgasm, and finally, with Kathy and Sherry pleasuring her, Beth had an enormous orgasm. We took a break for some wine and conversation for about 45 minutes when the Director said it was time for Act 3. She again asked Sherry if she wanted to do anything special, and to my surprise, Sherry said she wanted to try the double entry that Kathy had just done. Because I had never done this, I suggested that Rick and Mike be the ones. Mike laid down on his back, and I watched as Sherry gave him a little head to complete his erection, and then she lowered herself on him. Rick used a little Vaseline and tried to enter her vagina from behind but was not able to get it all the way in. Sherry said that since that didn't work, could he please put it in her ass?. I was amazed, she only does that with me on my birthday and Christmas, and now she is asking a perfect stranger to fuck her up the ass from behind! All I could think was that this swinging stuff was wonderful! I watched my wife getting ass fucked by a complete stranger while another complete stranger fucked her pussy. After a few minutes, the Director told me to join her and Kathy on the other side of the bed. I lay on my back as they passed my cock back and forth between their mouths and then took turns mounting me. When I indicated that I was about to cum, they moved down and again took turns sucking me, until I had another enormous climax that Kathy again took in her mouth. This time, she didn't swallow though. Beth knew what to do, and laid down with her mouth open and stared me dead in the eye as Kathy drooled my cum out her mouth first onto Beth's lips, and then directly into her open mouth, and then they French kissed, playing with my cum with their tongues until it was all gone. It was the more erotic thing I had ever seen. The three of us lay there watching my wife as Mike and Rick pumped away at both her holes. When Mike indicated he was going to cum, Sherry said she wanted him to cum in her mouth. Mike pulled out of her ass and went up next to her head, jacking his cock wildly until it spurted thick ropes of cum into Sherry's open mouth. I could see my wife's throat moving as she swallowed every drop. Rick was not far behind, and he too pulled out and came up to her, but this time, she just pulled him closer and took his member, wet with her pussy cream, into her mouth as he shot out his cum. No love juice was wasted, and Sherry sat up, pleased with herself for taking a cock in her ass and in her pussy at the same time, and pleased with the two loads of cum in her tummy. It was now getting late, and we had to get home for the babysitter. With great sadness, we said our goodbyes, told them we hoped to be invited back, and left for home. I would have thought we had enough sex for one night, but while driving home, Sherry gave me one last orgasm, and didn't miss a drop. Sherry had always been a bit shy about dirty talk, but as she sucked my cock, she tried to coax another load out of me: "Give me that cum baby, shoot it out that big cock. Give me that hot mess right in my slut mouth, slut needs more cum in her belly. Please baby, need cum, I need it, your slut needs cum." Hearing my sweet wife talk like that turned me on immensely, and it wasn't long before my cock produced its last load of the night, which true to her word, Sherry gobbled down like it was the sweetest sugar. We heard from Rick and Kathy a couple of days later, and they said they were going to Vegas for a long weekend over St. Patty's Day weekend and invited us to join them. Mike and Beth will be going as well as the other couple they party with. They would not tell us who the other couple was, only that we knew them. We accepted the invitation, and were so excited we didn't expect any good nights of sleep between now and then. The most important thing about that first night was that neither Sherry or I felt any jealousy or had any bad feelings about anything that happened, which made it about perfect! Too, after our first night of group sex, Sherry and I found that our private sex lives returned to the level of activity that we had before marriage and children; we were doing it anywhere and anytime we could. I don't know if this is because we are remembering that night, anticipating the next time, have fallen in love all over, or a combination of all three, I believe it is the last, but who the hell cares, it is great!!! We talked a lot about that night trying to handle the guilt we felt, not about what had happened or what each of us had done, but we felt guilty because we didn't feel any guilt. I know that sounds stupid, but that is what we needed to sort out. I can't explain why I didn't feel jealous or upset at the sight of my wife with two other men and two other women but instead found it marvelous, and she couldn't understand how she could have done all the things she did and loved every minute of it without feeling dirty. We decided that we are one of the lucky couples for whom this lifestyle was created. (Lucky Us!!) We both looked forward to meeting our new friends in Vegas over the St. Patty's Weekend and were really curious about who the third couple was going to be. Sherry and I talked before the trip that if feelings had changed or either of us became uncomfortable, we would stop, but neither of us expected that to be the case. Rick had made the reservations for us at the Rio, his brother is a host at the Casino and Rick said he would take care of us. Rick and Kathy were to have a suite (our play area), and the rest of us would have rooms. Sherry and I arrived in Vegas on Thursday afternoon and checked into our room, anxiously looking forward to 8:00 PM when everyone was to meet in the lobby. We decided to wait to have sex so as not to wear ourselves out early. We headed down to the lobby at 8:00 and saw Rick, Kathy, Mike, and Beth standing and talking with Amir and Sasha, a young (early 20's) black couple who Sherry and I had known for about three years, since they moved into our neighborhood, two doors away from our house! Could they be the other couple we said to each other? We quickly found that YES was the answer! This created the chance for another first; Sherry had never been with a black man, and this was a black man that she had often commented on about how good he looked working in his yard with his cut off shorts and no shirt. I had always found Sasha to be a lovely woman, petite in size, and a beautiful face. When we made it across the lobby and said hello to everyone, it was apparent that Amir and Sasha had not been told we were the new couple who was joining them since they looked more surprised than us. We went to dinner at a restaurant in the Rio that Rick's brother had chosen and had a wonderful meal. We all ordered dessert to go and headed up to the suite that Rick and Kathy had. It was spectacular; three bedrooms, sauna, hot tub, large plasma TV's in every room, a double king size bed in the master bedroom, completely stocked bar, and a wide assortment of adult viewing options. We all sat down and had a couple of drinks, took our little blue pills, and made small talk. When the time came for the poker hands to be played to choose the Director for the night, Sherry and I decided that we would give it a try. 15 minutes later, I WAS DIRECTOR! (What pressure, trying to make sure that everyone would have a fulfilling night, sort of like trying to play every kid in a little league game!) I suggested that we all retire to the master bedroom to begin the festivities. We all shed our clothes, and I noticed that Beth had shaved her pussy since the last time we were together and how great it looked, she told me it tasted even better!! For the first scene in my make-believe movie, I told Sasha to lie down in the center of the huge bed and for Rick and Mike to lie next to her with their cocks at face level. I then asked my wife to give Sasha head like never before, and I instructed Amir to put his rather sizable unit into my wife's wonderful pussy. I had created a fabulous scene, this beautiful black woman moving her head from side to side to suck on these different cocks while Sherry ate her pussy with a passion. Sasha's pussy was beautiful to look at, the contrast of the pink skin of her pussy and the surrounding black skin of her body was a sight to behold. Sherry must have agreed, she inserted her tongue in and out of Sasha only to stop and lick her clitoris, a very pronounced and swollen clitoris. When Amir put his oversized cock into Sherry, I saw her eyes roll back into her head, and the bad girl smile cross her lips. At this point, I asked Kathy and Beth to give me a tongue bath while I watched the show. It didn't take long for Sasha to reach her first overwhelming orgasm, she let out a scream to let everyone know that she was cumming. Her body shook, and then the fluids flowed. I have never seen or heard of a woman releasing so much female cum, but Sherry loved it. As she was licking Sasha's thighs to remove the juices, I could hear a slurping sound that drove me crazy. Sherry went back to eating Sasha again, at Sasha's request. Amir then made it clear that he was about to climax. Sherry told him to take his cock out of her pussy and bring it up to her mouth. She began to suck on Amir's cock for a few seconds, and he shot the first part of his load into her mouth, and then she pulled his cock out and had the remaining cum shot over her nipples. Sherry then moved her breasts up to Sasha's lips so that she could enjoy the fresh taste of her husband while sucking on my wife's nipples. Rick and Mike were still lying on either side of Sasha, waiting to deposit their loads someplace special. I told Sherry that she should finish them both off before they exploded. My beautiful wife was now having her nipples sucked by Sasha, Amir had moved down to pleasure her with his tongue, and at the same time, she was giving two different men blow jobs. I think she was at her peak sexual arousal level. Rick had begun to climax at the same time that Sherry had her first climax, covering Amir's face with her juices. Kathy was now sucking on my dick as I saw her husband Rick shooting his load into my wife's open mouth and all over her face. I gave the same gift to Kathy, I had a fantastic climax. Sherry moved her head to Mike as he now shot his full load of juice into Sherry's mouth and down her neck. As the final scene of Act 1, I told Kathy, Beth, and Sasha to clean Sherry's face, neck, and breasts before we took a break for our dessert. Sherry looked over at me, winked, and said, "Thank you. This is going to be a vacation like no other!"
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    Hi everyone, my girl friends and I have discussed this many times and usually to the same conclusion... that it's all in the talent of the operator. My man, I guess good or bad, is 9" and depending on the position can sometimes feel like it is in my stomach. For the most part I love that very full feeling and he really has incredible talent. Denise (very full)
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