I love to have my clit sucked! But I feel, at least with me, that it's very different than sucking cock. Creating the suction around my clit is what really brings me to climax, and it just felt that most times guys would suck me like they liked to get head, and I had several guys take their fingers and try to jerk me off. It all feels good for a bit, but it also feels like they'd just seem some porn movie and were doing it like they saw in that, or would treat my clit like a weird plaything. Until I met my husband, no one really asked what I liked, or how I liked it and no matter how much I tried to direct them, it would always end up the same.
My only orgasms were either weak, or I had to take over and do it, or just from masturbation. To this day, I'm a habitual, 2-3 x/day masturbator (some days), only bc it's been a habit for so. long.
Re: Body issues. Looking back on it, it was stupid. I have a great body, and despite my large clit, it is most certainly not masculine. I have big boobs, a plump but not fat butt, and I'm in shape and thin. Somehow that didn't translate into "hot" in my mind until my husband really reinforced it. Now I feel great about my body! And I'm learning, slowly, to express myself sexually, rather than not talking about it