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If your wife wants to keep it a secret, you should honor your wife's wishes and keep it secret. If that cat is out of the bag, don't let anyone else know. One of our few rules are if one of us says something (or doesn't say something), then we both are in agreement and stick together. We have swinger friends that have met our non-swinger friends, but we don't tell others what they are...they're all just friends at one level or another.

If you can't keep from talking about swinging when you shouldn't, you shouldn't be swinging. Also, I agree, please use punctuation!

Nine years and still getting those feelings. My pre trip excitement, anticipation, fear, self doubt, and always that fear of guilt. We always talk before any meeting, we reassure, we encourage to enjoy, he always reminds me to throw away guilt. He leaves all the options open, from going to our friends or not going. He emphasizes that we can always cut our trip short if I want. My husband is wonderful, I have no doubts that I have the best every day. I know he looks forward to these meetings, I suppress my feelings of jealousy, something that has been easier with each meeting. We always have the After talk. I feel I tell him more of my feelings, he gives less specifics. Part of my guilt is not including my husband in most of my play, I after all this time enjoy private sex. Even with all the very open play at this getaway, including me, my most exciting times were behind closed doors. Admittedly the biggest guilt feeling was telling my husband about my overnight with a couple, something I’m sure he would have wanted to be part of.

I am surprised a finger or 2 in the vagina wasn't mentioned, I usually place my fingers in her vagina or butthole depending upon her reaction to either.

I agree. I watch more of the act than the people, though I know who is there I am paying most attention to what is happening.