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We have always done swing partners -> friends in that order - until very recently when we did friends -> swing partners for the first time ever and I have to say it went smoothly. I feared it could have been a disaster but it was a total success.

Instead of trying to make swingers out of friends, we also make friends out of swingers. Nothing like having friends that you can talk about anything to...and clothing is always optional!

Hubby and I recently went to a place called Paradise Lakes Resort near Tampa, Florida....in Lutz, Florida. Actually we stayed there before the last Big Nude Cruise. We were just looking for a place that had vacancy where we could stay nude before the cruise. They have a lifestyle friendly clubhouse there that is awesome! On the weekends they have like a sex dungeon that is open to couples only. There are little partitioned areas but you can still see everything that is going on. There are sex swings, all kinds of sex things that I don't even know what they are. They have a mechanical sex toy that people can ride. This sex dungeon club thing is only opened on the weekends. All other times there are sex rooms where you can bring extra partners too...,. and there is a outdoor upper level deck where people who want to be seen can have sex. I just thought this was an awesome place for people who might be curious and trying to find out if this is what they are interested in. Hubby and I had a blast! There are lots of younger people......in their twenties there. (From what I could tell) I was mainly there just to have a place to stay where hubby and I could be nude......but I did enjoy the pickleball playing, the water volleyball and the general atmosphere. The members there were friendly. We will be back to Paradise Lakes!

While I find the "inaugural ball" with novel partners exciting at one level, for me the other side of the coin is that subsequent encounters will likely be even better as we learn each other’s bodies and responses.

"Performance art." A good observation. Sometimes while watching others have sex, it strikes me that way, as an artistic achievement. As a practiced rather than instinctual act. Like dancers or figure skaters. Beautiful.

Who cares it is just a title that has different meanings to different people that use it! There is no special badge of honour for it. We have known people that do swap with others that do not like to use that title. Just live your life the way you want and don’t worry about it.

Sex in front of others for self gratification and performance art, to turn on other couples or singles, qualifies as swinging in my book. Even though nobody touched nuthin on the other couple. Tell us some of your "soft swinging" episodes. Did either of you want more? Were you both okay with your level of participation? I think soft swingers are hot!

I would agree with Billygoat. If you are not technically 'swingers', you're right on the cusp. I wouldn't worry about it. Unless, of course, you're looking for the official certificate. In that case, we're going to have to consult the Rules Officials . . .

I think that we started out that way, although we never thought of it as swinging. Just a bunch of friends sharing a hotel room and having sex. There are numerous couples out there that are soft swap only. As the others have said, just be honest about how far you are willing to go. You shouldn't have any trouble finding other couples with the same interests.

My 8 kids range from 3-23. From old stories from the older ones we have never done anything that hey were not at least pretty surely aware of. They don't tell you until you are older but they are smarter and much more observant than you think. We never do any playing with others at home and would never consider it. But things like caller ID, where ya going? Why does mom have her negligee and your boxers in that bag in the back seat next day? Also, private conversations are quite often heard between walls, through furnace ducts, and just plain forgetting who is in the house. Be prepared to be caught whether you swing at home or not. Kids are just little people but have huge curiosities about what parents do. Kids ability to perceive is terribly underestimated I have found.