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In our intro: We are early 30s Married young and have young children I was a virgin when we married with my only other sex being extremely limited before with no total sex. Our first real vacation at an Adult Only resort. Now our only couple we met at the hotel. How the conversation about me saying I was a virgin bride came up I’m not sure. They kidded me then they claimed big numbers before and still increasing. She didn’t boast but intimated it was dozens. I was curious, my husband kept asking questions when they joined us at dinner. So many laughs that night. That night back in our room my husband and I were figuring out the truth or was it made up. Could we do what they claimed they do, why not. Next day we sat with them at the pool again. T, my husband somehow said not directly that we wanted more stories. I spoke to the wife privately how they met others and what she did. I kept asking Really? Really? She said they would show us if I wanted. Late that night we went to their room. Now we are home with memories and nobody to share our story with outside of this post. We can’t see ourselves searching for sex with others with very little chance of meeting someone naturally to do this again.

Ah, sorry, now I see your point. Yes, some of my wife's lovers were turned on because they were into the taboo of having another man's wife. Usually, this wasn't a problem; in fact, the 'competition' they were contending in made them more vigorous lovers, my wife enjoyed that. A few times the man tried to belittle me with my wife; she quickly told them to knock it off. Not surprisingly, this happened more often when she was soloing than when I was in the room with them. One time, I remember, a guy was fucking her doggy style and he was saying weird shit to me about how I wasn't capable of satisfying her, etc. My wife pushed him away, put a robe on and told him to get out. I was proud of her for that.

I think you might have misunderstood my post, or perhaps I phrased it poorly. I'm more like you. I love seeing my GF getting fucked and I don't feel or get off on being humiliated or being cucked. My post was intended to the guy who is fucking my GF. I have seen many times, especially from friends where they get off on the idea of fucking her because she is my GF. Just because we don't feel like cucks or humiliated, doesn't mean that they aren't getting off on the idea of cucking us. There is a taboo to fucking someone else's SO. If someone had a rule against having sex with a married woman, then they wouldn't do it. But because they are married, it makes it that much hotter to those who do it. In their head they are competing when they fuck her. I am not saying this rule applies 100% of the time but I believe it's extremely common. And I can see it by the way the guys react, the way they talk, questions they ask, etc., that a big part of the turn on of fucking my GF is that she is my GF. That adds an entire element to it for them. Now some guys might take that element and react differently to it when fucking her but it is still there.

I'm not saying you're wrong, but I believe it's more nuanced than that. For me, and many other men, it's not about competition - it's about having fun. For us, once we decided what we wanted, it wasn't 'taboo' anymore. We often played with couples, but there were many times when we made a choice to play with a single male, either late at night after a swinging experience at a club, or just for a night's pleasure. My wife (like, I believe, a lot of women,) had greater stamina than me, she could easily have multiple men in one night. So we sought out men for the simple pleasure it brought to her. And the fact that she was being pleasured brought me pleasure. I'm not saying there wasn't a part of me that enjoyed the sights, sounds and smells of her getting laid, but there wasn't a 'cuckold' portion to it for us. I had no desire to be humiliated, nor did she want to humiliate me. It was simply for the fun of it. So, if you believe that I'm a guy who simply 'won't admit it', well, that's on you.

I thought his penis looked strange not like the few I saw before. I didn’t realize why it was that way at first. I also never saw a woman that close, never. Well now I did.

Your first swing was with an uncut guy, we found very few guys Honey has been with are uncircumcised. She says it mostly different for oral only. The wife was bi after the fact, did that add to the fun? Are you now bi too? Looks like you took the first step, second and third times are much easier so go with your gut and don’t make rash decisions on possible meets.

Yes, you're both young and there's no hurry. Sometimes making the plans is almost as much fun as executing them...(almost). If there are no clubs nearby, then plan a weekend trip somewhere there is a club or a week vacation to one of the resorts (Desires or Hedo). You may meet another couple there, or you may not, but either way you had a fun weekend somewhere new (obviously, make more plans than just going to the club). The other option is signing up for one of the swing sites (see "please visit our sponsors" at the top of the page). While you can usually set up a free account, once you find which one has the most people in your area, we recommend that you become a paid user. Lots of people on these sites won't even bother with someone with a free account thinking that they are either fakes, frauds, or wannabes. Just keep the communication open between the two of you and enjoy the adventure. We wish you both luck and look forward to hearing more about your experiences.

Congratulations on living. Not many women can claim that on this group. I take your comment as your husband was not the first intimate man or was it a girlfriend you played with. We are told not to compare or ask was it better but we all know it will be different. For me it was the difference that attracted me not the comparison to past lovers just as my husband is different than lovers I had before our marriage. My advice is incorporate what those differences you felt into your marriage sex. I can tell you are willing to talk with your husband, do it while that glow is fresh. Be careful what happens next, don’t rush. As you and HunterdonNJ our first was after a natural meeting in a non-swapping environment

You were doing him a favor. She went home happy.

Our first was similar. On vacation. When we got back home we decided to visit a swing club - just to watch. Well, we did a lot more than just watch!

You should have watched the movie or sex scene with them. We've done that before. Sometimes just saying "hard and aggressive" can actually be confusing to some guys. My GF likes it hard and aggressive and is also into the rape fantasy thing. But just saying "hard and aggressive" can actually mean quite a few different things. Spanking, hair pulling, pussy pounding, throat fucking, slapping, etc. It's usually good to be as specific as possible. Having said that, I know a lot of women are shy divulging specific details or feel laying out a plan beforehand takes away from some of the excitement (my GF is like that), but there needs to be some sort of guidance in my opinion,

Interesting. My wife is very dominant with men, but not me, and very submissive having sex with other women.