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This just a hint from , just one, grandparent. WE consider our time watching the kids so that they can have some fun a very worthwhile thing. My wife gets a bang out of the fact that our daughter and her husband still spontaneously hold hands at the odd moments. Seeing our children behaving like they are in love after years and many of their own children make us both happy. It might not be all that difficult to get redo's from your folks. By the way we and they are under know illusions as to what causes the goofy grins after a time alone. I think that they now understand our goofy grins also.

First time, only time. Crazy thoughts, worried someone home will find out. Partially undressed myself then it all came off. Don’t know where I looked, most likely penis. I saw the other woman naked, didn’t look at my husband. I don’t think I positively remember. I know he touch my breasts first, I closed my eyes. I try to remember but things are blurred, I do know he kissed between my legs first. I know I wondered what was different about his penis, uncircumcised. First sex feeling, I wanted it.

We agree. Raising kids has taken up much of our free time, the reason we knew we had to get away specifically at a resort without other kids. We needed extended alone time not just an evening out. We are lucky to have babysitters to allow us nights out to decompress. Swinging never was a thought, we figured the resort would be full of honeymooners so we thought of it as our honeymoon too. I am still in shock, happy shock, in what we did, I was always the prudish good girl. So many posts ask how do I get to do this or that, we never had the idea to ask or discuss. It was spontaneous for us, no talk about feelings or rules, our feelings are intact, no rules means no rules broken. If your daughter is middle aged it makes you seniors, your marriage survived. How long ago and how did you enter swinging? Am I allowed to ask?

On vacations without kids to adult play destinations... Kids may not know where you are going and what you are doing, but they sense the outcome. You return happy and smiling, and they notice. A (very) long time ago, our then-pre-teen-daughter was not only testing her boundaries but also our limits. This led to a somewhat heated exchange that concluded with "we love you, but these are non-negotiables...". She responded with, "You two were a lot more fun when you got back from vacation a couple of months ago." Yes, they notice. The kids are responding to a sense of security that comes with happiness. Daughter is now solidly middle-aged and married. Her husband's parents are generally an unhappy pair. She remarks that among her circle of friends and acquaintances, her parents are unique in that they are (a) still married (b) to each other (c) in love and (d) having lots of fun. That makes both of them feel secure about their possible futures. Those leave-the-kids-with-the grandparents-vacations are investments in your future...and in theirs. Take them, have lots of adult fun, make the memories. The kids will notice that you are happy. And that makes their lives much easier.

I never knew Squirting was a thing. We are just learning the differences in people’s responses during sex. Never too old to learn about sex. We had met our first couple who guided us to a breakthrough moment, not only swinging, my first lesbian experience. Being about the same age as us I didn’t notice anything strange about her wetness or lubrication. The amount of his ejaculate matched my Rock. We joked and laughed about a Juicy Pussy. Couple 2 was still a learning moment. They were more intent sexually. With Rock watching I had my face planted between her legs and was entered from behind. I noticed immediately how wet she was, I felt a feeling of pride getting her so excited. She left my whole face pretty wet by the time we finished. Rock later told me how hot she was we slid in and she switched to a top she was dripping on him. Couple 3 are our friends. We held off playing with them, now we both had been with others first. Totally different playing. Now me and my girlfriend, both of us still new to this get into a 69 position. I am trying every tongue motion I can do and she is enjoying. Hard for me to hear with her legs around my ears I could tell she was going to cum and cum she did. She pulled away from my mouth and with her hand she she shot out like a man. Squirt squirt. I never saw that not even in sex on the pc. Being we are friends we talked about how she does that a lot when excited. We get home and I asked if he ever saw that before. He said he did a few times when he dated. He explained he thought it was pee so we looked it up. Do that many women do that all the time? I thought I was sexually hot, never did that.

"Warn" isn’t the word I’d use: that implies something negative. For myself and for most men I know — in the lifestyle or close vanilla friends — squirting is a positive. "Inform" is the word I recommend. You might say "hey, before we really get going here, let’s get a towel under my butt because when I cum I will probably squirt." Some small proportion of partners may be turned off when you say that, but they will be less put off than if you spray their face while they are going down on you. 😉😂 (Over the course of our 37-year romantic relationship my wife’s orgasms — which felt were good to start — kept getting stronger and more satisfying. About 15 years ago she started squirting and now does it almost every time she reaches orgasm. It heightens my enjoyment that she squirts. She is also literally a screamer as she cums. Our closest neighbor is 250 feet away, but we have to keep the windows closed when we fuck. If she tries to inhibit either vocalizing or squirting it diminishes the strength of her orgasm.)

My entire married life I thought I had a weak bladder. We kept a towel near our bed because at times during sex I would what I thought was urinate. Mostly during oral sex I would forcibly urinate in my excitement. I never discussed this with anyone, not even my doctor though it did bother me. Outside of sex I never wet my pants not even laughing so I figured it was a sexual thing. It got to the point where I stopped my husband from doing that to me. First time swinging I warned them to protect their bed because I sometimes urinate during sex. They laughed at me, the first time I heard the expression Squirting. I’m relieved to know I don’t have bladder issues. I understand my sexual phenomena is a desired trait that others want to have. In the future do I warn partners?

I was happy that another young woman was joining me on the SwingersBoard, then I looked at the date of the post and realized that she's now somewhat older than me. 🙁

After seeing my friend squirt and posting here asking about it I researched who and if then what. There is a skenes gland that could be like a prostate, some of us have it not everyone. I also read it’s mostly pee mixed with a secretion maybe. It’s my friend who squirted the most and damn I can ask her anything. She didn’t add anything to my research saying it just happens sometimes not always. I asked if it’s pee and she had no idea and said it doesn’t feel like she’s peeing. This may sound disgusting, I didn’t taste pee when she squirted. On Sunday I did a a sicko thing, I asked her to pee in a clear cup. Me and my husband tried to get her to squirt again and couldn’t so she used her own hand and got a small squirt into another cup. It looked different. I wanted my husband to see if they tasted the same and he wouldn’t. Nobody wanted to so I said I would. Yuk. Only a small taste, first urine almost vomited, then squirt. Squirt was thicker and different. It wasn’t like sucking a dick not that thick, for sure it want the same as pee. It was just interesting not a necessarily important thing.

Don't obsess on squirting, not every woman does, and if they do it may not be every time. Just like orgasming every woman is different. The most important man in your like has never made it an issue or loves you less because you don’t squirt, you have always enjoyed the sex you two have had. It’s not a contest. I realize you are first starting on your swinging journey, you will find men ejaculate in different quantities, especially as we age. Women’s bodies change too, lubrications change and squirting can change too. I am happy if a woman is enjoying, has an orgasm, not if she squirts. I suggest you Google squirting or female ejaculation, you will find many different statistics and even ways to find your own way.

Kathy squirts almost every time she orgasms, which is to say almost every time she has sex. (She’s a super easy cummer.) She always puts a doubled-over beach towel under her ass so as not to soak the linens and mattress. She experienced orgasms from the time she began masturbating as a pre-teen and in her late teens had an orgasm the first time she had intercourse. (Anecdotally that seems fairly rare.) But she didn’t begin squirting until she was post-menopausal. At the same time, she reported her orgasms were stronger and seemed to last longer than ever before. It would be easy to conclude she was urinating. That the combination of the aging of the muscles that control the bladder and the stronger orgasms lead to a partial voiding. But, even if she pees, gets immediately into bed and masturbates herself to orgasm — which generally takes less than two minutes (yeah, I sheepishly confess that I’ve timed her. ?☺️) she still soaks the towel with something that doesn’t smell like urine. So, I don’t know, I’m still agnostic on whether squirting is a form of urinating or if there is some fluid that is mysteriously released by the contractions that are part of orgasm. For my own part I choose to honor the soaked towel as a manifestation of a wonderfully intense and fulfilling experience on Kathy’s part.