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Ask Amy: Widower finds new love with a married neighbor Dear Amy: After my spouse of over 40 years died last year, I have moved forward in my life in a positive manner. I am having a relationship with a married woman (“Brenda”). As a widower, I have found this to be very helpful. Brenda’s adult son and daughter have supported her in allowing this relationship to continue and grow. Brenda’s husband is clueless to everything going on. Brenda and I enjoy our time together and we have very long phone calls, and we have a very exciting sexual relationship. Her house is across the street, and she has her own bedroom separate from her husband. He is distant, withdrawn, and very unsociable. Brenda doesn’t want to leave her house and move in with me because her daughter and granddaughter are also living in the home with her. At what point should Brenda’s husband be clued into this development, and what approach should we take to “clear the air” at some point? — Archie Archie: I appreciate the fact that you believe you are moving onward “in a positive manner” after your loss, but I would ask you to reconsider the meaning of the word “positive,” and at least acknowledge the possible negative consequences your and “Brenda’s” behavior might have on others. You don't offer any real clues about Brenda's husband's status, and I wonder if you and Brenda could consider what course of action will be the least destabilizing for him. He might be withdrawn and unsociable, but he is the innocent party here, and his life might be turned upside down if he and Brenda split. Using the modern vernacular, Brenda might propose that they “open up” their marriage. This is often suggested by a spouse who is already having an affair, but wants to stay married. Might he also want to step out, or would he prefer to maintain a “don't ask, don't tell” sort of arrangement, where he and his wife basically live separate lives under the same roof? A divorce might take an extreme toll financially, affecting the entire household, but he should be presented with the truth, because he has the right to make some informed choices about his own life. The coziest course might be for Brenda to move across the street to cohabit with you, allowing her husband to stay in his home, but so far she doesn’t seem to want to make any substantial changes in order to be with you.

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We are recently retired. The children are grown and gone and we are enjoying an empty nest. We watched a movie about a hot wife and we both thought it was hot and exciting, and continued discussing the idea of bringing another couple into our sex lives. We both like the idea of a threesome or foursome. It would have to be someone we we could trust to be discrete and we all got along great without jealousy. We are looking for an older couple to chat with and bond with. Anything more would come later. Marie feels like she should set the rules if we do meet another couple and that's fine with me. If there is another older couple still swinging, we would love to here from you.

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