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Politics and swinging don’t mix if you are looking for fun. Once a prospective contact mentioned politics or race we took deeper dives into personality. We never asked sensitive questions on certain topics, our focus was always on the why are you looking and what your expectations were. It was always about the woman and her feelings, any mention of politics sent up Red flags. We never asked, we never told, no incompatibilities that way. Our current group of friends will discuss politics because it’s in the news daily and though swinging and sex brought us together, there is much more that keeps us friends.

I didn’t literally “cry”, we did just travel 5 hours to meet at a party because we wanted to out what our vacation friends told us about swinging. Differing politics was never an issue with our family, nobody wore their political views on their heads. The only political signs growing up was during election season, and as my father said both sides want what’s best in different ways. An American flag was patriotic. I am reminded that nobody denied elections, wanted overthrow Congress, or take away my rights as a woman. I don’t need sex with others, so I will continue to choose compatible partners who I would want to be friends with when I do decide to explore.

From someone who calls himself “confused” 🤣

There are many political views out there, and we have swung with many of them. On the other hand, flying a flag is different. That is a bit more in your face. We would not have entered either.

The visible display of "political flags" (I think I can read between the lines there) suggests their houseparty is more exclusive than inclusive, and that fellow swingers with divergent political viewpoints are unwelcome. We wouldn't have entered the house either.

We backed out of an invitation after driving over five hours to a party of strangers. Back story. We were looking for new people on one of the advertised sites that was referred to us. We didn’t sign up yet, we used someone’s sign in, we aren’t ready to register with a profile yet. We know this is deceitful so we immediately tell any contact our true profile. We are still fearful of our identity out there, we searched in neighboring states not minding the travel. Tim made contact with someone, told them our history of being very new, one experience only. They questioned our real identity, many fakes on there. He gave them my contact to show we are real, first with a pic of us then a call making sure it wasn’t just a guy looking. Memorial Day weekend party they were having, could be 10 others there. Once again we asked Grandma to watch so we could take a mini vacay. We take off knowing storms in the area, bad weekend for travel. The trip was full of us talking the possibilities and our first stop was picking up protection. Now the bad. We get to the address and see political flags out front. I tell Tim that there is no way I’m spending the weekend with folk flying those flags, he tried to say I shouldn’t assume they are A holes. I know he wanted the hostess, the husband looked nice too unless he was like the flags. We drove down the road and talked and watched others going to the house. One guy even asked if we needed help because we were stopped on the side of the road. My mind played tricks on me imagining the talk at the party, it made me cry really bad. Timmy said we could drive home, I could see he didn’t want to. I just couldn’t. We didn’t go to the house.

This may not be the hobby for you...

What about a campaign poster? Mary on a rock in the koi pond? Maybe a Ukrainian flag? Irish Republic flag? NRA membership tag on the door? Or maybe BLM or "We back the badge?" I know folks with some pretty strong opinions on the Masons. Maybe Lodge decal on their car? Everyone who is worth talking to has a set of things that they believe, or support. That is what makes it interesting. My only requirement is that they are basically civil and if one of THOSE topics come up that they are able to explain why. (being logically consistent wins bonus points) If I feel inclined to state my why, then, I expect them to be as respectful to my musings as I have been to theirs. I will only learn about that if I do not prejudge them. I have gotten to the point that I do not really care if people agree with me. I am not responsible for their minds. If someone or some group were to actually materially impinge on my life or freedom, then we might just have to take it out back. Merely being of the opinion that my choice of politics or Religion is wrong or evil does not ruffle my feathers at all. They are entitled to be wrong.

Not often, but yes, we've attended house parties where we took off after checking the scene. Not for political reasons like you (although there's many times when we turned down couples or singles for that reason,) but simply because we didn't feel comfortable. Or safe, in one circumstance. If you walk in, and there's a number of people who are downright drunk or very high on drugs (we don't mind a little drug use) and we're out of there. And if they're passing loaded guns around, maybe think about what could happen . . . If you don't feel safe or comfortable, get your tail out of there.

Refusing contact beforehand because they openly express a view of any kind, says more about you than them.

Him: "If I knew you were a virgin, I would have taken longer." Her: "If I knew you had more time, I would have taken off my pantihose first."

We are having so much fun with new people we met only because we took the jump. I told a friend about this game and she said she was going to the store to buy the screws and nuts for another party with six couples. After some swimming, barbecue and drinking they announced the game and took out two bags of the fasteners. They were laughing as the guys chose their screws and we picked nuts. It’s fun picking guys nuts. Then the fun began matching who was screwing who this with a catch. They set it that one screw can fit two nuts sometimes, or two screws fit one nut. This set up four groups of three. By chance one guy had a screw that fit mine and another female friend. Each group was given an hour to play before we all stopped for laughs together. All the fasteners returned to the bags for a second round where I ended with my husband and an another guy. Thank you AdamGunn for the suggestion and our friend that added a twist. I report that it was successful and so much fun.

We have a huge list of games, challenges and themes. Some kinda vanilla, some provocative, some leaving your sexual imagination go to work and some that spice up a group play/Sex situation. The trick is matching something up to those that are attending. Always best to dial back one step based off the experience or lack there of the newest/least experienced couple (or assume so if all are newly meeting each other). Also it is tough to know everyone’s inhibitions, rules and hard stops. Three of our best soft-core: Preferences red light/green light…couples. (Get to know you game) Couples stay as couples. You create a list of questions from how long together, likes dislikes experiences as a couple (sexually provocative) interests and allowances as a couple in various swinger/sexual activities. The couples can briefly confer with each other secretly/quietly. They answer as a couple, green light (yes/interested) or Red light (no/not at this time). Questions should start out simple more vanilla and become more explicit but not to hardcore, ie as a couple first kiss, first Sex first oral etc. What they might share…kissing, touching, soft, full swap, oral etc. should build up….and keep it on the short side after some socializing. 30 minutesish Big Balls Crochet race. Husband against wife race. (Can do this as couples or individual) need a few pair of panty hose, 4-6 oranges or two grapefruit. Two whiffle balls (size of a baseball/softball) A area set up inside with a wide enough area for two people to pass and should have a path through furniture obstacles and corners to navigate. Clothed couples (later is a blast nude if everyone is good with it) place two oranges (or one grapefruit) in the toe of one leg of the hose. Use the other leg to tie around the waste of each couple with the fruit loaded toe centered front of waist. Be sure stretched hose and fruit are suspended an inch or so above the floor. Couples, husband and wife compete against each other, winners then compete against each other (not spouses). At start line swinging and swaying from the hips you direct the whiffle ball down the coarse by hitting it with the swinging oranges/grapefruit. Mark whiffle balls husband and wife so each has their own. Great fun loads of laughs. Version of the Newlywed game. Starting with basic questions to more provocative. Usually couples will out themselves or each other. hope this helps have fun, keep it lite.