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Only having dick pics shows exactly what you are...a dick.

We agree with BBarnsworth. If both arrive at a point in ENM that although they are life-partners in every sense of the term, can freely talk/express their feelings, emotions, desires to each other as well as others in their relationship having alternative/additional relationships can be very healthy and rewarding. We have experienced this in our transition through the first six/seven years of the ENM Lifestyle. We both have had others, couples, solo’s from couples as well as singles that we enjoyed in-depth romantic/intimate relationships with. Most lasting years. They only ended due to life changes, job transfers, out of state family obligations. Both socially as well as intimate. It made a huge difference in our personal relationship as well as social/public face. Her longest relationship was eight years. We traveled and socialized as a Triad. Family and friends socialized with us this way. I’m sure they all had their suspicions but none ever asked. I had three longer term relationships one lasting 6 years. It didn’t ever get messy or emotionally challenging. We both lost our longer term relationships due to life changing issues. With hers he had to move due to family issues and mine she move for an education opportunity. When all are emotionally comfortable and of the same mindset it is very natural. In our opinion for this to last and grow naturally it needs to develop into an even/level polyamory relationship with partners being equal with each other. We have learned this by having close friends that live their lives in this type of relationship. One very close friend has three husbands and children (it is accepted, not interested in DNA testing) from all three. Neither of them are in the lifestyle/swinging. And all five children call all three Dad. So, can it work? Yes of course. Does it need to or does it have to? Absolutely not.

I just heard a blurb about how Steve McQueen was invited to a soiree the following night at a friends house and invited a girlfriend to go. His girlfriend declined so he bailed as well. Turns out that the host was Sharon Tate and all of the party goers were killed by the Manson family. So don't second guess your gut feelings, they may save your life some day. My personal belief is that if Steve McQueen was at Sharon Tate's house that night, he would have kicked all of the Manson's asses and we never would have heard anything about it to this very day.

Before we went to a house party in 2016, my wife said I bet they have a lawn sign for a particular candidate. Sure enough, they did! A friend said did you see their lawn sign? We giggled. Really great idea not to talk politics or religion. We are going out with good friends tonight who are big supporters of the guy who got convicted of felonies today. Should be interesting. We hope not to discuss it with them. But we are in party mode.

bbbarnsworth. "The presence of unease doesn't mean it's not for you (I disagree with lcmim on this one point), but rather it's new and you don't have the tools for it yet." I was not trying to rule this out for them forever. The original question said to me that they were not ready now. The answer to the question has to come from within them. This might take a while. Like I said Life is a great teacher. I probably could have stated it better.

What is funny is I could tell political sides from the first post. What the politics of the OP and the Home were.

I didn’t literally “cry”, we did just travel 5 hours to meet at a party because we wanted to out what our vacation friends told us about swinging. Differing politics was never an issue with our family, nobody wore their political views on their heads. The only political signs growing up was during election season, and as my father said both sides want what’s best in different ways. An American flag was patriotic. I am reminded that nobody denied elections, wanted overthrow Congress, or take away my rights as a woman. I don’t need sex with others, so I will continue to choose compatible partners who I would want to be friends with when I do decide to explore.

One of the main reasons the missus took single men off the list a long time ago! Nothing says clueless about women like a picture of your wang lol.