We agree. Raising kids has taken up much of our free time, the reason we knew we had to get away specifically at a resort without other kids. We needed extended alone time not just an evening out. We are lucky to have babysitters to allow us nights out to decompress.
Swinging never was a thought, we figured the resort would be full of honeymooners so we thought of it as our honeymoon too. I am still in shock, happy shock, in what we did, I was always the prudish good girl.
So many posts ask how do I get to do this or that, we never had the idea to ask or discuss. It was spontaneous for us, no talk about feelings or rules, our feelings are intact, no rules means no rules broken.
If your daughter is middle aged it makes you seniors, your marriage survived. How long ago and how did you enter swinging? Am I allowed to ask?