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Back in the nineties, when married to the sequel, We took out an ad in "Alabama Tennessee Georgia Swingers" mag. Black and white cropped pics included. Got a lot of responses. met only 2 over the years. Fast forward 10 years.....at a house party as a single male. Host pulls out a mag he recently picked up at a gas station. There is our ad from 10 years earlier, pics and all. And people say the internet is forever.......

We have explored different people outside of our marriage for a few years now and things have progressed to where my wife admits she loves group sex and multiple men and even a woman involved if possible. The most we have had is myself and two men plus another woman. She know wants to try 3-4 men and maybe a women if we can find interested partners that work. Our uncertainty is how to make it work and find attractive big guys. She loves size in every fashion. Color or race do not matter. If anyone has any suggestions, we would love to hear. We split our time between NJ and Florida but travel very easily. Thanks for any advice that anyone might have.

In my mid 60's now, but I remember my first swinger experience came from answering ads in swinger magazines. They always kept those in the back of the book/record store. Anyone remember using those to contact swingers?

My wife and I have been together for almost 25 years. Through out the years sex has been fantastic. No complaints on either side. We are very faithful and never cheated on each other. Then one day two years ago we were having a few drinks and watching porn. We watch all kinds of porn. That night we were watching some really good gangbangs. Curiously, I turn to my wife and asked her if she ever thought about swinging and group sex. If it ever crossed her mind. Surprisingly, she looked at me and said she’s been thinking about it for while. So we ended up talking about swinging and group sex for hours. We got online and read stories on experiences about swinging and group sex. The pros and cons. It turned me on taking about it but at the same time I got a crazy feeling in my stomach. Nerves I guess. So to make a very long story short we ended up having an open marriage and took up swinging. We both decided to have (safe) sex with other people until we felt comfortable on having our first group sex. All this took very long planning and preparing, especially mentally. Finally last November we planned out her first group sex. We carefully selected three familiar friends to join in the fun. Of course they decided to do it and agreed on our rules. So, it finally happened that November night. I really enjoyed watching my wife get screwed by more than one man. She had the time of her life. She had multiple orgasms one after another. The crazy feeling never left my stomach but I really enjoyed watching though. After the guys left we kicked back and talked about our experience. Then we go back about agreeing on what we’re doing and never to do it without the other knowing. We keep an oath of trust. Every time we have a date with someone we let each other know. It’s always planned out days in advance so it will never interfere with our personal lives. We have a great understanding. Since last November she’s been involved in several group sex averaging 3-4 guys each time. Of course I joined in most of the time. Lots of lube is needed. But now she wants to go a little further. She wants to do a gangbang of 6-8 guys. Seriously. Lately she’s been playing with large toys to get her vagina ready. She wants to try double-vaginal penetration. I’ve been preparing her by inserting a dildo in her while I’m inside. Very carefully with lots of lube. We practice every time we have sex. She even carefully inserts a large thick toy in her vagina while watching a movie and keeps it in there. Yes, our sexual curiosities has increased tremendously. My wife wants to explore even more and I’m all in. Well the day we both have been looking forward too occurred this past weekend. We managed to round up 7 guys for an all night gangbang. It involved a lot of planning and phone calls. We’ve noticed that guys will be all in at first then drop out later. But eventually we got things going. That night when everyone arrived she was kinda nervous but excited to have that many cocks at once. Most of all, she finally had double penetration in her vagina from two guys for the first time. The strange thing I seemed more nervous than her. Lol But she absolutely enjoyed it as much as I enjoyed watching her. She came hard many times. She doesn’t like anal so that wasn’t attempted. So after joining in all the fun and after almost two hours of great sex we had the grand finale. My sexy wife knelt down and we all gave her an awesome bukkake. Her face was drenched with cum. It was one heck of a hot night. After everyone left we took a long shower and stayed up almost all night talking about it. We were both so turned on that we were already making plans for the next one. But we are gonna take a break for about three weeks. It’s just going to be me and her for now. Yesterday she mentioned about having a messy cum sex in the near future after watching a great creampie movie. I was like, a messy cum sex? She asked me what I would think about her having a messy gooey bukkake and creampie night. Having about 4 guys cum all over her face while 4 guys cum inside her. Then rubbing the cum all over her breasts. Man, just listening to her drove me crazy. My wife was willing to be explosive. But that would take lots of planning because we are very cautious. My wife cannot get pregnant anymore so that’s really something we don’t have to worry about. It’s about the unprotected sex. We do know many cool friends well enough that we can trust but still we must remain careful. Yet, I’m sure it’s gonna happen very soon. I’ve been asked if we have taken it too far. If there’s actually any sign of regrets. Some close friends wonder about my wife wanting too much now. Our answer is no because we enjoy it and have a deep understanding and trust. We are responsible adults and are having fun. We first talk about what we’re going to do and have to both agree 100%. Any sign of doubt from either side we will not do it. We are friends with our sex partners but no feelings are involved or ever shared. We have proven that to ourselves already.

You may be young but you weren’t born yesterday. Go with your gut reaction to many of the posts. Some additional advice, don’t rush or settle when finding people who are closer to your ideology and your wants. Don’t be pushed into something you will have regrets later on. It looks like you and your husband are having fun searching, so far making the right decisions for you. The old adage, walk before you run. Have fun.

When we were new to the LS, maybe 25 or 26 years ago, we helped fulfill another couple's bucket list. It wound up being a little weird. As newcomers, we were initially attracted to slightly more mature and experienced couples. We met such a couple at our swing club and had a mutually enjoyable full-swap with them. Afterwards, they mentioned they both enjoyed light BDSM and asked if we did as well. We had dabbled a bit in very light BDSM, so we were like "sure". Before we parted ways that night they mentioned they had a small play dungeon in their basement, and invited us over for drinks and maybe check it out. We didn't accept right away, but after playing with them again at the club they invited us again and we accepted. Long story short, what this couple was chiefly interested in was to be dominated by another couple. Their dungeon was bigger and more elaborate than they suggested. We had no gear, so they outfitted us with strappy, black leather gear they had. We collared them, leashed them, made them crawl, used dildos on both of them.... we both did our best to play the role they so desperately wanted us to play and it wasn't a bad experience for us, but things did get weirder than we bargained for. We left that night on good terms and remained on good terms at the club but we never went back to their house again. Having tried the "dominant couple" role, we decided that wasn't our scene. Sometimes it's like that when you agree to fulfill other ppl's fantasies.

Sex between her and I was marked off her bucketlist September 12, 1978 !

I think we may have isolated the problem here. You seem to be hoping that she'll 'fulfill' your fantasy by having sex with another man. I wonder if it's her fantasy too, or if she's just role playing in the bedroom to excite you. In this light, you may wish to go back and reread the advice given above. Gold has particularly good ideas, I think.

I remember the coupon pages in some vanilla magazines. That's where we tipped to nudist and swinger info sites and subscribed to the magazines.

Ok, I will start this post out. Last year a female friend and lover from my past looked me up to spend an evening. She was 60 years old, has 2 kids, long brunette hair and the nicest set of tits that I have ever seen, and I am not a titty man. It was about 11:00 at night and she asked if I would take nude photos of her on my bed with cellphone. Photos started out as what I would consider tame but ended with toys and full spread. Then she asked if I would drive her around town and take nude photos of her around local landmarks. We went to the library, old high school, a church where we first had sex in the parking lot, dairy queen where we streaked around while we were teenagers, courthouse and a huge oak tree at the Lake. She thanked me when I gave her phone back and told me that I was the only one she would trust. I think I would help others fulfill their bucketlist, but getting caught would be the biggest challenge.

Didn’t know it till we got there after a 45 minute drive. Our opposing party friends were there in great number. In 2016, we were confident that our side would win. Things have gone downhill since.

Just a quick update. Joan and I have gotten together a few more times for mutual fun. One thing that I've done is go pick her up and sometimes play a little before we leave her house, other times not. Then I take Joan to another the house of another couple in our closed group, it's pre-arranged, and tell her what to do with him or her or them as a couple. Sometimes I get involved, sometimes not. I've even taken her to Daniela's and my house and had her do things with us. Joan really likes the unexpected. I've also tested treating her in various ways, from princess to disrespectful. Strangely, she likes both. It's fun, but thinking up these things is a challenge. Joan's husband is really grateful to me. They're what I would call a typical lifestyle couple - open, no jealousy, but he's glad that I managed to satisfy her kink and bring her home happy, something he doesn't want to deal with. Otherwise, neither of them are unusual in our regular play.

I posted that as its own post so as not to make it personal towards you. I am sorry, as it seems as if it was taken that way. It was not my intention and I should have worded it better. I am concerned, in general, that many Americans are afraid of each other based political beliefs. That makes me sad.

Just saw “Palm Swings” last weekend with my husband, and I agree it one of the best movies that represents the Swinger Lifestyle. Me and my husband thought it would be like “Swinging with the Finkels” with Martin Freeman and Mandy Moore. This movie ain’t. Palm Swings really goes all in. It was like watching a softcore porno. It on Tubi which is free for anyone that is interested on watching it. Quite surprising it was originally made in 2015, then released in 2017. But both IMDB and Tubi said that the release date was in 2020. Not sure why they have different dates of release. I highly recommend in watching this especially if you’re thinking about it being swingers or you’re in the newlywed phase of the swingers lifestyle. This movie does give advice on the do’s and don’t of the lifestyle. Some spoilers ahead, if you can call it that. You are warned. 1- Don’t be afraid on making friends. Talk to them. Have 1on1 conversations with them. Have a talk with the wife/gf. Have a talk with the husband/bf. Then switch. Have a better understanding of the lifestyle from both sides of the relationship. Many of them give good insight into the lifestyle. 2- I don’t recommend that your first official swing be a key party like the movie. You 2 should share the pleasure in the same room. But to each their own. 3- And Don’t be afraid in talking to your significant others in what you want to do and try. And also Don’t be afraid to tell your significant other on what you do NOT want to do. It took me and my husband a good year to fully integrate and be fully comfortable into the lifestyle. Yes we had our bumps in the road. A bit my fault. I knew I was going too fast in the early stages but I was having too much fun. But we talked and we worked it out. We had people that help us out.

We had one swinger couple virgins, or possibly two. By the time G&R contacted us on SLS, we were pretty experienced. She (G) reached out to us (she did almost all the communicating,) and explained that they were just thinking about getting into it, and asked a few questions (based on the fact that our profile on the site was intelligent [her word] and interesting.) I answered, she asked a few more questions, it became a regular thing. Then, after some months, G asked if they might have dinner with us, with no commitments. We met them, a wonderful couple and spent a lovely evening with them, although other than handshakes or kisses on the cheek, nothing happened. This went on for a couple of months, and suddenly, G said they were going to take a break. Okay, that happens. A good four or five months later, G called us up and said they were finally ready to take the plunge - would we do them the honor of being their firsts? Of course we accepted. They came over to our house on a snowy evening. They were both nervous, you could tell, and we spent maybe an hour in our living room, just chatting. It got to the point that I was beginning to think they had cold feet. Then G got up and sat on my lap and we shared our first kiss. Mary (my wife) stood up and she and R kissed. We led them up the stairs, Mary pulled R into the guest room and I took G into the master bedroom. She wasn’t nervous at all, but let me lead her through the seduction. I remember that she came heartily, and I heard my wife’s screams through the hall. Forty minutes later, or so, Mary and R joined us in the Master bedroom and I went and got cake and coffee. We sat around for a while, naked and unashamed, and chatted until we all got in the mood again, when we were all on the same bed. G told us a few days later that they had a wonderful time, that our gentleness and patience was the factor that encouraged them to take the plunge. They became some of our favorite playmates, either at our house, their house or a couple of times at a swing club. G&R soon accepted invitations from other couples, One night G told us of the first time she really got into a woman, and about their first MFM. And, one night when Mary was out of town, I asked G if maybe she and her husband would entertain me for my first MFM when I was the other guy. A great relationship. Now, the second? Well, we were steady members at one swing club, but we knew another, about an hour and a half from our house way out in the sticks. They were on a hilltop and had a pool you could swim naked in, so on a sizzling summer evening, we headed on down. It was much more casual than our usual joint, and a lot smaller, but. still they had that pool. We swam and hung out until well after dark, when we got to talking to a very good looking woman and her husband, M&T. We asked if they’d like to go into a room, and they said yes. But, they said, they were only soft-swap. We said okay, that’s fine. We all get into the room, and we’re having a great time. After plenty of oral sex, M said to her husband, “I want to go all the way,” and he agreed. So the four of us just had a ball. As we were dressing, M&T begged us not to tell anyone else at the club we’d full-swapped. They were regulars there, and had never done anything like it, they didn’t want the others to think they would go all the way if asked. Now, they didn’t say they’d never full-swapped before, it just seemed that way. So, I’m not sure if they count as LifeStyle Virgins, or not.

Thanks to all who have replied. I didn’t want to taint the answers, so in my original post I didn’t say what we did, but initially I too had reservations on how this would go and what to do. As I mentioned, Joan and I had played before in a group setting, but not alone. Our previous play was very normal. In this first alone play, we had considerable foreplay, hands all over each other’s bodies, oral on each other, proceeding to doggie and missionary. She, Joan, came, but I had not yet. Joan told me to do whatever I wanted after we had been at it for about 45 minutes. The first thing I did was start to play with her pussy using my hands, finger fucking her with two, then three fingers. She took it easily and liked it, started bucking towards another orgasm then she came. Afterwards she grabbed my cock and started stroking it and I “demanded” that she suck it. I’m not a very creative person, so I was struggling with what to do next. Joan was doing a good job giving head, so I decided to just go with it and instead of cumming into her pussy, which I prefer, I was going to just let the experience run until I came. Usually, I’m cautious about ejaculating in a woman’s mouth without prior agreement, but I figured this situation was different and she could always spit anyway. I came pretty good, she made noises as if it were a pleasant surprise when it pumped out. I told her to show it to me, since I always blow it inside a girl’s pussy or sometimes ass, and don’t get to see my work. She did, it was impressive, then I told her to swallow it all, she did. Joan now looked weird, crawling naked on all fours towards me. Then I grabbed some random lotion that was nearby and stuck a finger in her ass, working it in and out and using the two adjacent fingers to circle her ass hole on the outside. I spanked her with my other hand. We did a few other things and called it a night. I wondered afterwards if I met her expectations, since what I did actually seemed a bit silly to me. Joan called me the following evening, however, and thanked me for the “experience”, she really appreciated it. Daniela and I met up with Joan and her husband at one of our less than full group get togethers several days later, during the next weekend. Joan’s husband, Steve, made a point of telling me that I know Joan’s kinks better than he did. I was more confused than impressed. Joan got Daniela and her husband together with us during that evening and we did a conventional couples swap, back to normal play. Joan then arranged with Daniela for me to play with her alone again the following week. Now this was a challenge, I’m just not that creative. The only thing that I did in advance was to call and talk to Joan’s husband and ask if I could have Joan call him when she and I got together next time. His response was affirmative, but sort of indicated that he was going along with it in a boring, not an excited, way. When Joan and I got together again, it was at Daniela’s and my home, Joan doing that so as to least inconvenience me. Daniela took our daughter out for the afternoon. Long story short, I stripped Joan naked and made her do things, display herself for me, spread her pussy, crawl around and swing her tits, finger herself and we shared the taste. I told her to suck my dick and as I did her doggy call her husband and made her talk about how great it was. Steve went along with it, but didn’t have much to say or a reaction, but Joan loved it. It seemed to be getting stupid to me so I had her hang up the phone and fucked Joan doggy while fingering her ass. Now it had gotten intense. We both came. I told her to dress. I pulled her with me down to the garage and into my car. She was a wreck - wrinkled dress, nipples poking out, sweating, hair a mess. I didn’t know where I was taking her, but decided to go to a clothing store where Daniela shops. We went in and I asked the saleswoman for something nice for my woman when we go out. She looked at us suspiciously and I was a little afraid she might call the police thinking our appearance might be over the top. But she was helpful and gave Joan a few things to try on. I went into the dressing room with her as she tried clothes on and in passing played with her tits and pussy. I “forced” Joan to choose something for me to buy her, because this was the most pushback she had given me. We left, Joan wearing what I had bought her. She gave me a blowjob and I finger fucked her as I drove back to my house to get her car. Joan called Daniela when she got home to tell us she had arrived safely, and to thank me for fulfilling her fantasies; Daniela said Steve thanked her as well. The sex with Joan is good, but the “do what you want to me” part isn’t really fun for me, more like work, but interesting in a way. I suspect there will be a next time, and am starting to think about what else I can do. My ideas are to tell Joan not to shave anywhere on her body, so of to counteract the trend of every woman shaving everywhere. My thinking is that since I want to be cautious and safe, I will tell Joan to do things to me rather than just doing something to her. Like I will “demand” that Joan pee on me in the shower. Depending on how that goes, I might pee on her as well. Since she likes performing oral, I might order her give me extended oral on my dick in some way. I may insist that Joan masturbate for me. Finally, maybe I’ll pretend to take pictures of Joan and tell her that I’m going to post them, something I definitely wouldn’t do. None of Joan’s weirdness has every come out when Daniela and I were playing with her and her husband, so it doesn’t seem that involving him in this is the way to go. He told Daniela he was happy that I was taking care of this. I am thinking, however, that involving Daniela may be a good idea though for two reasons. First, Daniela possibly understands Joan better than I do and can think of more kinky ideas. Second, both Joan and Daniela have no problem being bi, so I can demand that Joan please Daniela in some ways, and have Daniela do things to her. I can also have sex with Daniela and “torment” Joan with a description of how good Daniela is. Anyway, we'll see.

Her husband told my wife that he was glad that I was taking care of it. It wasn't his thing to "use" her, see it, or know about it.

We are still relative newbies so many of these mistakes are still fresh in our collective mind. For us, it should have been apparent when one member of the other team was much more into the situation than the other. By the time we got into the bedroom, it was not what was expected. We now try to ascertain early on whether both partners of the other couple are fully on board. Are they fully on board re: the LS (one question) and are they fully on board in terms of their attraction/interest in us (another question entirely).

My mistake was after getting lucky twice with hubby David and my boyfriend Red, I thought I was magic and it was all so easy. So there was a guy who caught my attention, I wanted to fuck him too, I told hubby about it, and as usual he said, "Whatever you want, Pet." (Short for Petra, or my nickname "Petunia," which I hate.) So I started with Sam, but from the beginning it seemed off. He said that something must be wrong with my husband if he knowingly let me fuck someone else. (No, it was because he loved me, and let me have what I wanted.) Sam wasn't interested in my satisfaction, i.e. orgasming, he was interested in trying every position and thinking that his orgasm was enough for me. Now I can cum pretty quickly when necessary, but it was more than that, he didn't concentrate on me, so I was left unsatisfied. (Which made me appreciate Red and hubby even more. I came home fucked over, but really needed my "home cooking." Amazing how bad sex leaves you wanting more sex.) The worst was yet to come. After Sam found that I was the kind of girl that would suck and swallow, that became his thing, but he never offered to go down on me afterwards, I had to force him. Eventually, the rule became he could fuck me, but had to eat me to orgasm before I would finish him off orally. Then he found that I was the kind of girl who would let a guy put his penis into my bum. He became totally inconsiderate and that's all he wanted to do after being blown for a while. I had to insist that he make me cum vaginally and orally before he could go into my anus. My husband is a saint and the wise man in all of this. I would come home, we'd have sex (because despite what Sam did I still needed to fuck my husband and Red) and I would complain about how badly it was going. He told me it wasn't my responsibility to make this work, it wasn't a failure on my part, that I could end it. He was right. So instead of going to Sam's place, I got a really nice hotel room (with flower petals on the bed) on a Saturday afternoon and made Sam do sex my way, in my cunt, the positions I wanted and stay in me until I came several times. Then I forced him to eat me out (with one gentle lubed finer in my bum) until I came again. Then I got in the (really big, fancy) bathtub, had him wash me, and left. I wish I could say I never saw him again, but we cross paths professionally.

Thinking about this more, I'm thinking the same thing when I'm fucking the other guy's wife as when I see my wife enjoying another guy, this is a woman so sexxy that she need to get it from multiple guys. For me, I think that's the biggest part of it, that these are good women because they have a good attitude toward fucking multiple men.