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Yeah, I'm looking for cock, but so many are so aggressive and the replies are so goofy that sometimes I just throw my hands up in the air. They write for Example: So, when can we fuck. #1 I'd like to fuck you and think your hot. I'm 6'3 200lbs and well hung. #2. Well, it doesn't tell me anything but this guy is goofy if he thinks that I'm just going to go meet up with him. He didn't say anything about his interests sexually or anything..and didn't include a photo. This is what I get 90% of the time. #3. I think swingers sites should include a diagram of what people should put about themselves, and no matter what , they should always have a photo in their profile. Cause' 9x's out of 10 they aren't real anyway if they aren't including a photo. This is what I've always experienced. And...when they don't include a photo, sometimes they are just plain self-conscious. In my opinion, they shouldn't be in the lifestyle to begin with if they are that self-conscious and have their own issues to deal with. I know, I'm a bitch...lol.... but at least I'm truthful. Macy

I've never tried. Daniela's panties would never fit me. Over my head maybe. Neither would anything else. I'm not overweight, we're just different sizes.

Sounds like the couple next door are more "Room mates with no benefits." That marriage died a long time ago, but the wife never called a priest to give the last rites. Even if the husband knew, I doubt if he would care. As long as both the partners are meeting their sexless obligations to each other, then I say go for it. If we are sick, we go to a doctor. If you need sex, but your partner won't fulfill that part of the agreement, then go next door to the "love doctor." To the unknowing husband, I say, "You snooze, you lose."

Both my wife and I have gone on vacations with someone each of us considers "special" in our group, for between a week and two. I've gone on trips with another wife with whom I share non-sexual interests (classical music, theater, museums), which our spouses don't. The trips includes good, fun sex as well, but it's not the primary motivation. My wife has gone on vacations with both the husband and wife of another couple, and with the husband alone. The interest there among the three of them is romantic. In every instance it's worked out fine. The wayward spouse comes home happy, the spouse left at home is glad to see her/him, we all agree it amps up the marital relationships.

The whole thing sounds like an excuse for the women to get pedicures. Good luck and let us know how it works out.

Huh???? The best swinging, in my opinion, is if people (woman or man) is allowed and encouraged to do things they want to do. Of course you can and should say to your spouse, "I'd like it if this happened." And if your spouse is interested, she/he might do that, to please you and her/him.. Or, perhaps, say, "Yeah, that sounds interesting, but what about this?" The last thing, IMHO, that anyone should do is 'meet in the middle' if the initial proposal wasn't something that the person wanted to do in the first place.

All the people now in our closed group are married couples, but when we used to play more openly it was interesting how it felt different playing with couples at different levels of commitment. I agree, however, that marriage is the ultimate threshold; the only thing higher is them having kids together. That husband is a really lucky guy, actually. I've said it many times, it's better for a husband to have a wife who wants too much sex than little or none; one that fucks around, comes home and wants more rather than being a cold fish.

I don't understand what you mean. Different people label me as different things, which I am: mom, wife, girlfriend (or whatever a male/female partner in a poly family is), lover/sex partner for those outside the family with whom I occasionally have sex. I have plenty of straight and Lesbian sex, but don't consider myself a slut. But working in a male dominated profession, I did once refer to myself as a "Cunt" to make a point.

I'm a woman who wears dresses and skirts with no panties. I do it for comfort, but it makes me feel super sexy as well.

I think you might have misunderstood my post, or perhaps I phrased it poorly. I'm more like you. I love seeing my GF getting fucked and I don't feel or get off on being humiliated or being cucked. My post was intended to the guy who is fucking my GF. I have seen many times, especially from friends where they get off on the idea of fucking her because she is my GF. Just because we don't feel like cucks or humiliated, doesn't mean that they aren't getting off on the idea of cucking us. There is a taboo to fucking someone else's SO. If someone had a rule against having sex with a married woman, then they wouldn't do it. But because they are married, it makes it that much hotter to those who do it. In their head they are competing when they fuck her. I am not saying this rule applies 100% of the time but I believe it's extremely common. And I can see it by the way the guys react, the way they talk, questions they ask, etc., that a big part of the turn on of fucking my GF is that she is my GF. That adds an entire element to it for them. Now some guys might take that element and react differently to it when fucking her but it is still there.

Lol not soon we had a long discussion and a lot of roleplay sessions before we met this couple whom we softswaped first.

The best time to start is when she wants to start. Starting before marriage gives you an idea of what your future together will be.

I miss kellimc. As another young woman in the lifestyle, I empathize with her. Her approach to the lifestyle is refreshing.

From my experience having started in the lifestyle (but not exactly swinging) not long after I became sexually active, I would say that the best age is from the beginning. There are two reasons for this. The first is that humans are non-monogamous by nature, so it's best to throw off the religious and social inhibitions and constraints as young as possible. (Better even if one is raised without them in the first place.) I struggled a little with non-monogamy; not my own, but my husband’s and boyfriend's. From what I've read here, it's much more difficult for couples who have been married for twenty years to do so without doubt, drams, and difficulties. The second reason is that having multiple sex partners, and knowing that the person or person you love do as well, is physically and emotionally fulfilling. Let the fun begin early!

My wife and I are both into her sleeping with other people. But she is not into swingers clubs. We love going to a bar or a concert but when I’m with her, the chances of someone approaching her are slim to none. She is very sexy and flirty but most people won’t go for a woman who is with her husband. Is there some signs we can use to show people we are willing to play?

I think the notoriety of extramarital sex is what makes swinging hot, doing the forbidden and being married to a woman hot enough to be turned on by it, too.